Do you do everything together?

Haa haa funny that, i got told by my mom (because i stopped at my best mates on Friday night - not planned i might add) that i was out of order and I shouldnt do that when im married!!?. P.s the wife couldnt care less to be honest ? Im still my own person and am certainly not joined at the hip. We like doing things separately as we both have different likes and dislikes and then its nice to come together when there is something mutual to do. It would drive me insance doing absolutely everything together.

We do most things together but H has his football and I go out with my mates occasionally. Mostly we are together though.

With my ex we did more or less nothing together and it was really lonely at times so it means a lot to me for us to do most things together.

If we did everything together it would mean less to talk about!

To be fair its normally him out and me home but this year I have been out with the girls nearly every weekend, and more weekends to come!!!

But we do try and plan in "date night" when we can...

As long as we keep talking and don't take the p!ss we are fine with it... getting it all out of my system before babies!

Good grief no. I would be bored out of my skull if I had to visit his mother as often as he does! ?

We do more things apart than we do together! An old colleague of mine told me once that her and her husband don't even go to the corner shop without each other - I thought that was far more weird than my situation.

This week:

Monday - me to gym class, him to football training

Tuesday - me to Zumba then a drink with friends (our mutual friends but he can't go), him to football committee meeting then pool

Wednesday - meal out together with friends

Thursday - me to singing practice then drink with friends (my girl friends), him to football training

Friday - me to Zumba, him to some work lecture, then probably night in together

Saturday - him to football, me to hairdressers in day. He'll probably be out with the boys Sat night. I'll probably have a night in

Sunday - him to rugby in Cardiff. Me to my sister's for the day.

Following weekend, him to football, me to BM dress fitting. Weekend after that we'll have a weekend away together.

Definitely spend more time apart than together, although we do work together, but that's not quite the same. I think it's healthy to have separate interests and separate friends.

We do a lot together but not everything. I still have girly nights out and am planning a weekend away with my bestie in the summer...he goes on boys nights and is going to Vegas with his mates for a staggy in June.

I think you need balance.

The thing that is a bad sign is if you start doing things separately after 10 years of doing EVERYHTING together...thats when i would worry!

We do a lot together, far more than we do apart, but we're not afraid to do things on our own either. He used to be part of a photography group which he would go along to on his own as it doesn't interest me, the same with a star gazing thing he sometimes goes to. He is going to see one of his old friends in a few weeks and will be away for the weekend, but I'll either just have some me time or organise to see some girl friends. I go away with school for three days every year and for the past couple of years he has taken these as holiday from work so he can have some time on his own and can play on the computer all day/watch boy programmes on TV without feeling guilty about not spending part of his day with me. I have no issue with him taking this as holiday and me not being there - I have set holidays being a teacher so get time to myself during the year, so why shouldn't he? Doesn't mean that we have a bad relationship, just that we know the value of 'me' time and being able to be a bit independent from each other as well.

A bit of both for us. We used to spend a alot of time apart and then made the most of the time we did have together. It's balanced out a bit now and we're spending considerable more time together but can't see it staying that way for long.

I know a few couples that live in each others pockets. One have been together for nearly three years and have spent maybe 4 nights apart. She cries every time and makes out it is the worse thing ever.

The other couple live together, commute together, work in the same office, commute home together, go to their hobby together and never go out separately.

I honestly don't think I could do that...even when we go on holiday together, I like that he can go off to the gym and I get a bit of time to myself.

We do spend a lot if time together, but I went to London without H2B twice last year, he's away for a ski trip and octoberfest this year. We have our respective hen/stag weekends, and he has another stag weekend later in the year...I like to think we have a good balance.

H and I spend a lot of time together, but we do things without each other too. I was out at the weekend with my girls and H was at home tying flies for fishing.

I'm also going away for a couple of days with my girls in the summer without H, and i'm trying to encourage him to go to Manchester to see a band he likes with a couple of mates.

I think I would go mental if I didn't have time apart from him!

On nights out we will usually go out together, as our friends tend to overlap, but obviously I wouldn't go to boys nights and he wouldn't come to girls nights. He has a second job in a pub Friday and Saturday nights, and its quite nice to get a night to myself every week, but when he's been working both nights for several weekends I do get a bit sad.

He has this annoying habit of asking me if he can go out!! For example, instead of saying "i'm going out with X on Friday night" he's say "oh, X has invited me out... shame I cant go" as if he's waiting for me to give him permission. ARGH! And whats worse is that I picked up the habit, and for a while, I started "asking" if I could go out! Silly man.

We do!

Its odd as I am very independent, live on my own prior to moving into MrMinis etc etc but we do everything together. We drive to work, sit in diffirent areas of the same office, go on lunch together, drive home, go to the gym, come gome, make dinner, go to bed at the same time....

The only diffirence is I go away for the weekend to see friends and he cant so stays at home.

I would never had said it would have worked for me if you had have asked me before I met him but it kinda works for us.

We do most things together, but that's probably more to do with the fact that we share the same friends. I go out without OH a lot more than he goes out without me. The one night he went out on his own recently he was texting me all night saying it wasn't the same without me, bless him! He did go away for 5 weeks on a boys trip round Europe whilst we've been together though!

We work together too, so we definitely do need some time apart.

No because we have different interests. At weekends he goes beating and shooting, then sometimes meet the lads at the rugby club. Id rather meet my friends in Costa, and wander round the shops. Sometimes i go and walk round with him or he'll come meet us afterwards, but usually its separate. Night times are usually spent together. Cinema, meals etc, but again sometimes we go out separately. I dont think its right or wrong, just whatever works for you both as a couple.

We don't really do anything in particular together, as in we have no shared hobbies except going to the gym but then we do totally seperate routines in seperate areas. We like eating mainly or seeing films but that's about it. I would never stop him from his footy and he would never stop me from spending a weekend at my mates.

We do pretty much everything together, occasionally I meet my friend down in London and he will see the boys. I would like us to do more separatley but I haven't established any friends since moving here yet (can you hear the violins ?) I think maybe once the little one is here and H is at work I'll be able to get out more. I think it's healthy to do things both separatley and together.

I would say we have a happy balance. For instance most weekends we will have one day that we spend together and one day catching up with friends or spending time alone. We don't plan it this way, it's just how it works out. In the week we spend each night together as we are both too tired from work to go out.

We do spend a lot of our free time together, but we do things seperately too. During an average week, we might spend 4 out of 7 evenigs together and maybe 1 day doing couple stuff like doing something to the house (redecorating/gardening) or going out somewhere together for the day.

I love the time we spend together because we always have a great time and I think it makes us closer as a couple. But when we were on honeymoon and spending every second of everyday together for 2wks we did end up bickering a lot more than usual, so I think we need some space. We are spending an entire week apart at the end of feb as H is off visiting his parents and I am visiting mine. We will text and skype and I will miss seeing him every day but it will be nice to have some time to myself.

I rarely see H during the day even on weekends as he is usually working. We both do our own things and sometimes I'll go and visit my aunt and stay over. I've been on a couple of 2 week holidays without him too - that's hard but it's worth it when you come back.

I think a bit of time apart to miss them and be reminded of what you've got can only be a good thing.

We have things that we will only do together, things we never do together, and things we mix up a bit. He has his German classes and his telescope, I have markets and events to go to. We go to clubs together, never independantly. We both have conferences and work trips which take us away sometimes. We couldn't live in each other's pockets though, we need a little independance.

But I think it is different now than it was for my parents - they did everything together until me and my sister came along. Then my dad joined a band and mum went to the bingo with her girl friends on different nights because they couldn't afford babysitters. Once money was a little better they started going out together again, then when I got my driving license I had to take them places and pick them up!

We do pretty much everything together.

Most of our friends are couples who have kids so when we seen them we all usually go as it's a night out without the kids.

One of my friends is single and I usually see her during the day.

It's very rare that we go into to town as we hate it so we're happy to keep things local or go to friend's houses.

I find it strange when couples do everything apart, what's the point of being together?

This! Plus I like the fact that I have time to 'miss' him

Yes.

Erm... Yes.

We do loads of things apart. I'm my own person thanks very much.

We're probably about 50/50. We do a lot of stuff on our own, but stuff together too. He plays football a lot, and I do my theatre stuff.

We try to do stuff together at the weekends though, because we're like passing ships during the week.

I go to Devon a lot to visit the family &, as I get 2 weeks extra holiday than him, there's times when I go on my own.

Nothing wrong with it IMO. This year will be the first year we spend Christmas TOGETHER, normally we're apart!

We don't get time for a lot of social outings anyway but when we do I think there's a fairly even split of joint and separate nights out. He goes to the pub with his mates after work every so often. I have the very occasional girly night out with my friends. If it's a family occasion or a night out with mutual friends, we go together if we can sort babysitters though.

We don't spend all our time at home together though. In the evenings I'll often disappear into reading something on my Kindle and he'll muck about on his computer. If there's something we want to watch together, we'll curl up for that but otherwise we do our own stuff. We're both quite stubborn, independent types so although it's nice to be in the same room and chit-chat, we don't need to be right next to each other joining in the same activities all the time. I think I'd have to kill him after a while if we did that...!

I would say we do the majority of stuff together and we always have done, but that's not to say that I don't do things on my own I go out with the girls once a month, H goes to the footy and out with his mates, I'll go round my mates for a glass of wine in the week. I coudn't bare the thought of spending every single second with H at the same time I would hate it if we never did anything together, I think we have the balance just right.

If I go out with my mates, it usually means staying away from home and that is the bit I hate. I would go out more often as long as I could come home to my man and to my own bed afterwards. This is also the reason I wouldn't be overly interested in girls holidays or weekends away any more. We just hate being apart for a length of time which might have something to do with the fact that when we first got together, we had to go long stretches without seeing each other and it was horrible.

I think we would end up killing each other if we ended up everything together. We both have our own interests and stuffs that we do, and I think thats perfectly healthy as we spend time apart, but make sure we have plenty of together time too.

I think most of this is because my OH works away 4-7 days per week, and always has done so we are used to spending time together and apart.

I think it's half and half with us. We both have our own interests - I climb and do my art, he runs and canoes but we do lots together too and we set time apart at wekends to be together and to socialise and we do a lot of cheep weekends away to have time on our own. I think you need to find a happy medium. Having our own interests gives us lots to talk about and we can support each other - I cheer him on in his running races and he comes to my exhibitions.

We have completely different work schedules, I'm all over the place and he's nights and weekends (and days in his home office) so I don't really feel as if we do much together!

It does make me enjoy spending a full day together, which is a total luxury. In saying that, I love having the weeknights to myself and get grumpy if he's in and farting about and intruding on my time!

Hell no!! don't get me wrong me i love my h2b to pieces and we do plenty of things together but i love catching up with the girls or having abit of me time, and he's the same.... plus it gives you something to talk about x