Do you have many friends?

Same as you really. I have work friends, old work friends, stable friends and only a couple that I consider to be best friends. I'm lucky that I get on really well with my sister & we also share a best friend which I guess some may consider odd

Same as you really.

I certainly didn't find it difficult to pick BMs!

Yep 2 best friends here, and one very good old friend who can talk to if wanted and shoulder to cry on

My oldest friend been friends for cough 30+ years not sure how long we met at primary school and my other friends 21 years now. Her daughter was a bridesmaid at my wedding and her husband did a reading for us, as she bottled out lol not enough alchol and my other friend who we speak every day is 10 years coming up to 11.

Some friends I have had where best friends I thought at the time but now we speak every few months, certainly would not share things with them now

Actually? No......

I have net friends; people whom ive met online and email regularly. One of those is almost a RL friend (if we can get our act together and meet for that cuppa!!)

I had work colleagues who keep in touch from time to time but since losing job etc......dont see or hear from them much....an email or a text here n there.

I had 2 best friends. Stuck together we were, but somewhere along the line it fell apart.

I have possibly 1 best friend out of that 2 but we dont see each other much either, shes a rather selfish person, as much as i love her and I dont think I'm her best friend....

i have friends who are wives of hubbys friiends...

funny you should ask as I was thinking about all of this earlier, wishing I had a friend to go shopping with or meet up and do stuff with but everyones got lives to live and our girly days are over, I feel friendships have moved on and developed so far now that people who I was stuck like glue to in my 20s are distant memories, people whom I thought I would be pals for life with have become only xmas card correspondants, and others I have little in common with anymore.

damn, now im even more fed up reading all that back lol...

I dont have many real friends, my partner and my dog are my only true friends

I don't think I have many. My 3 BMs are close friends although I haven't spoken to them much lately.. My best friend is probably my OH as corny as it sounds. I also have a lot of friends who are the WAGs of my OH's mates but we only really see eachother when we are with the boys.

I also have a lot of internet weirdie friends who I hope to meet up with one day.

Quick answer - not really.

I have two very good friends. One I try and see every week, generally just a couple of hours catching up over a couple of drinks. The other lives a little further away so don't see as often but probably speak to more.

I have work friends who I do class as friends but I don't socialise outside of work with them unless it's as a group. But that's probably because they have children so arrangements are made around them and they obviously have their own friends which take priority if they're having a night off.

There are the WAG's of H's mates as Spangles said but one of them HATES me, and I have no idea why, so that makes it really awkward when we go out. I always feel so uncomfortable around her, and she walks away if I join the group she's talking with which is pretty pathetic really! Her OH was one of P's best men so looks like the two of us are stuck with each other. Funny thing is, I make so much effort with her to prove to the boys it's all her problem and that gets me through! One of the other girls is lovely and I don't think there's a huge amount of love lost between the other two girls either (just to prove it really is the other girl that's at fault and not me!)

The same thing happened to me. I still do not know why she had an issue with me, according to the grapevine she's jealous as all the other WAGs are in dead end jobs and don't have a lot of money so she is the top dog. Then I came along (OH was single for a long time) and have a profession and together OH and I earn a lot more than the others. So pathetic as we don't flaunt it at all. My MOH works in a supermarket and I certainly don't choose my friends on how much they earn *sigh*

Difference being in our situation, OH's childhood friend refused to stand up to his Mrs and so they now have nothing to do with us. I feel sorry for OH but who needs friends like that?

Sad isn't it really?

Last year she got drunk and verbally attacked me and very kindly told me where I was going wrong in my relationship... Which would have been fine if 1 - I wanted to know what she thought and 2 - we hadn't just got engaged (literally 6 weeks before!). Ironic thing being that P and I are now married and her OH has only just asked her to move in with him and they've been together the same time as us (6 years) so who needs relationship advice??

TBH I dont think I've ever had a 'best friend' who I can tell everything to. Well except my OH (how sad!) but I had a tough time at school and have trouble trusting 'girls'. I now have a few very good friends but I dont live near any of them so I dont see them very often which I feel very sad about very often. A couple of them I do class as 'friends for life' just because of how the friendships have lasted through a lot and despite of the distance. I see them when I can but its not the same and due to the distance its only natural that I dont tell them everything. I'd love to have a friend like that but with living so far away and living such a busy life I cant see it ever happening.

I have a couple of current/ex-work friends who are local to me and we meet up every so often but I wouldnt class them as my good friends. I dont tell them everything. Although I am a private person anyways.

I do feel sad sometimes that I dont have that 'best friend' but at the same time I feel lucky that I have so many good friends (albeit so far away!).

xxx

WTF!? That is just ridiculous. I would have had to make some comment at the wedding ;o)

I wish the said WAG had confronted me but it was all done in a childish way behind our backs. I think it's because she knew she couldn't beat me in an argument (that's the lawyer in me haha!)

I had much better people to talk to at the wedding! ?

H thanked a mutual friend of ours in her speech just to wind her up on my behalf though. He knew I wouldn't say anything (don't want to come between the boys) so he subtley defended me through the speech!

My answer - not really. I have my friend who was CBM, but I don't really see her that often now. I think she finds it difficult - she is a single mum struggling to find Mr Right and I have settled down. I have loads of friends who I don't see very often, and friends at work, some I can tell secrets to and talk to about just about everything. I have no real friends from school though, and none that I see and go out with on a regular basis. I guess like others - I have more internet friends than anything!

True, true.

Well done your OH, Mr GL is not so subtle

No - though it's hard to admit it and makes me sad

I didn't really gel with many people at school, it was an all-girls school and I don't think many people from there stayed in touch, not after 7 years of bitchiness.

I'm in touch with a couple of people from university, but life has left us scattered in the far corners of the country. So those relationships are mainly conducted online.

I've moved down to London and I'm really lonely here. There are a couple of nice girls in work but they've made it clear they don't want any sort of relationship outside of the office.

I don't know what to do! I'm a nice person, I'd love someone to speak to on the phone now and again, or to come clothes shopping with me or come around for a cuppa. Don't get me wrong, it's lovely talking about wedding plans and random gubbins with you guys on here, but it would be nice to have a real friend!

God I sound pathetic, but I'd love to not feel like I've just moved down here and imposed myself on OH's life. Bless him, he does nearly everything with me (he even braved H&M on Oxford Street on Saturday afternoon to help me find a top I was desperate to have!) to stop me from feelin blue but I'd love for him to be able to go off and watch footy or go play golf/drink beer with his mates and not have to worry about me being lonely!

In short no, I cut all my friends off about 2 and a half years ago (I had a breakdown and was a total mess for while) and most of them let me, I still have 2 friends but they both have 2 kids under 2 so I don't see them very often, its nice when we do meet up but its once or twice a year.

I'm glad this post was started cos I really did think I was the only girl who had no friends.

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Hi Viki, could you not get involved in a club/organisation to meet new people? For example I am a member of the Junior Lawyers' Division and the local Law Society. You could maybe get involved in things such as that?

It's a shame about your work colleagues. Some of my best friends I met at my last workplace doing my training contract. I hope I can make some more good friends at my new place as I moving miles and miles away so won't see the others as much.

I have a fair few friends who I can call up to go for a drink/go to the cinema etc, but only about 2 or 3 I can tell anything to.

1 of those friends I've never actually met, he's an internet weirdo friend. Maybe that's why I can tell him everything. When I had my miscarriage in November, he phoned me everyday for 2 weeks after to make sure I was OK. We're planning to meet up at some point, and OH is fine with this, as he knows that my friend has been there for me, and is only a friend, nothing more.

My best friend is a girl I've known since sixth form. When I found out I was pregnant at 18, she was the only person to stand by me. Yet a friend i'd known since we were 3 didn't want to know.

I would say I have a lot of friends but close friends probably only a handful. I have old work colleague friends who I stay in touch with, work friends who I see all the time, mummy friends, Hitched friends, old school friends, old family friends etc. I would say I have 1 or 2 properly close friends. I haven't got a 'best' friend though. If I think about it I would say Mr P has that honour as he literally knows every single thing about me. More than anybody else!

Wow....it certainly is 'a relief' to know that we are not really lonely individuals but a collective of friendless friends lololol... (that makes sense in my head...) I often feel all patheticy crap about my friendless situation and yet theres others in the same situation...........

annoyingly, we still all live miles apart!

Thanks GemmaLouise - that's a good idea - I'll find out who our firm's JLD rep is and see about getting involved!

I thought that when I read your post Teehee, I thought 'oooh, everything she said fits how I feel so well, maybe we should meet for a glass of wine/cuppa' - then I noticed we are at opposite ends of the planet country! Maybe I'll knock for you if we're ever visiting OH's friends in Aberdeenshire!

In short.... no.

My ex lost me most of what friends I had left (violent aggressive pig-headed arrogant ***) and tbh if it wasn't for facebook I don't think I would have found aome of them again. As much as I moan about it, it does keep me in touch with a lot of people round the world.

My closest friends now are from my last few jobs, and we only speak/see each other every few months. It doesn't help that none of us are really local to each other. I get on well with the "wags" but they are not my real friends, they go out on their own in a group and I am not thought about, I only get invited if H2B is out.

It does make me quite sad sometimes and I do wonder why... I think I am nice and fun!

It really hit home when we were planning the guest list and only 4 were "my friends", the rest were couples from H2B's life and family

My sister is probably my closest friend next to H2B, but she has her own life and kids...

HTH.

I can't say as I have met any new friends this way but I've not really thrown myself into it. I just went to socials etc with my existing friends but if you can get involved with the committee you can meet lots and lots of new people!

I think sometimes when you have a demanding career your friends can dwindle. I always said I was happy I met OH whilst a student otherwise I would have no idea how/when I'd meet a man now!! I have to really try to maintain contact with the friends I don't work with and see everyday.

Love you guys! Group hug! ?

No I don't have many friends and My fiance going to Houston on assignment recently has really highlighted it to me.

This is my second weekend on my own now and it is soooo lonely, thank goodness I have a wedding to plan as otherwise I have not idea what I would be up to.

I have a few work friends who I have been out with during the week but work friends tend to be week day friends as they have their own lives at weekends. My non work friends are all settled with families so it becomes difficult to see them. I start a MA course in a couple of weeks so hopefully I will meet people there to widen the circle a bit and the dissertation should keep me busy or the 3 months between my OH (A.K.A. my best friend - cheesy but oh so true!) coming home on visits will seem very very long. Glad to see this post it makes me feel a little less lonely x

I have loads of acquaintances but only about half a dozen close friends. All but one of them live quite far away now so its not the same as being able to go out for drinks etc when you like. Im lucky though that Im really close to my sister so have her for company and trips out shopping. Im not really a people person though so doesnt bother me. My OH worries more about it though as he cant understand why Im not desperate to be out meeting new people and doing new things which he loves.

I have always struggled with having close friends. I don't really speak to anyone from school, as I left at 17 and lots of my friends forgot me after that. One even told me at the time "you realise you won't see us much now don't you," which wasn't too helpful at the time, since I was on happy pills! Surprisingly, we don't speak anymore! I also have a group of WAGS, including OH's sister, and we go out for meals and things. My closest friend who knows everything about me is Mr Fizzypop, but I now also have my friend from Uni who I have just asked to be my Maid of Honour. We speak all the time and I would consider her my best friend. I do get down sometimes about it all, but then I realise I'm lucky to have the people I have in my life and should just be grateful x

I consider myself very lucky to have 6 "best friends". We are all still friends from school and i really couldn't imagine my life without them. We used to see each other all the time but as we've got older it has dwindled to probably once a fortnight but we are constantly texting and emailing throughout the week.

Apart from them i don't have many close friends, I'm not really close to anybody at work and although i'm friends with OH's friends and wags i wouldn't go out with them without OH.

I think my main problem is i like my own company so don't really make an effort to make new friends.

Apart from on Hitched of course. ?

Now this is an interesting question.

I think I am like many of you I have friends, people who I have worked with etc... but they aren't people who I would go to in an emgerency.

Really close friends I would say 3 maybe 4 (mix of boys and girls) they came from different stages in my life one friend practically forever, and 2 are much more recent friends the other falls somewhere in between.

In addition to this I have a group of friends who I am very close to from Uni (we meet up once a year)

and then OH and I are very lucky to have a good group of shared friends who we both grew up with. People who when ever we get together we will have a good time but who also know we all have our own lives and don't resent not seeing each other on a regular basis.

I believe that many friendships are transitory and suit certain stages in your life and from each of those phases you might be lucky to find one person who then sticks around forever.

That said I do like meeting new people and one of my regrets about work is that we don't have that many people that work here and so meeting new work friends is limited.

Wow, I thought I was the only with few close friends.

Like alot of people on here I count my OH as my closest and bestest friend in the whole wide world.

I also have the WAGs from his group of friends. One of which I would count as a very close friend. My other only 2 "best friends" is my two old flatmates from uni. They still live in Scotland and I moved to Suffolk for work. We speak about once a month and see each other a handful of times throughout the year but it's like we have never been apart. I love them to death and wouldn't trade them for anything. I do know that not all friendships last forever and what will be will be.

I did have a group of 5 friends from school that I tried my hardest to keep in touch with but there is only so many unanswered phone calls and text msgs you can take before you get the hint.

But I do like my own company and spending my weekends with OH and our dog makes me happy plus I've got our first baby to look forward to x

To be honest no!

I have 'friends' that I speak to but no one to meet up with etc.

Doesnt bother me most of the time but sometimes it does make me a bit sad!

I don't, and it's rather shameful to admit that but it's the truth. In high school I was the popular girl, the ringleader but then I was plagued by terrible depression which led to me being removed from school and placed in a psychiatric unit for a short while, afterwards I never returned to school and stayed home tutored. A lot of my "friends" had the total wrong idea of what depression was, they acted as though it was contagious, they acted as though it was a form of attention seeking and that I was making it up. A lot of them even slagged me off about it and spread terrible rumours surrounding the reason I left school. I was left with one friend who later backstabbed me in a way which was unforgivable and so I cut ties with her too. My parents decided we needed a clean break and so we moved from the border of Scotland to York, I was at an awkward age where it was difficult to meet people, coupled with my anxiety and it was literally impossible. Then I met my OH and to this day he is my one and only friend. I totally sympathise with Blonde Vicki, I too sometimes just wish I could have a good old girly day out, have even just one friend who I could go for coffee with, gossip with, have a laugh with. I've been let down so much in the past I doubt I'll ever make friends in the future. God...what a state I am.