Do you know all of your wedding guests?

We're getting married in Rome and I want a small intimte wedding with just our very closest family and friends (20 max). However when we first got engaged OH got himself all excited ands told his Mother that "everyone was welcome" before I knew it two people from her family that I met once 10 years ago were coming to my small intimate wedding ? I was not best pleased to say the least, I set her straight and told her to butt out and I've not heard from her since (almost 4 months ago) result!!! ?

Edited to apologise for going all "me me me" Sorry! ?

Anyway as you said there will always be some plus ones that you don't know so I don't think it's too awful that there a handful of guests on each side that only know one of you :-)

Hi including everyone there will be 46 to the day apart from one of my BM other half we all know and have met everyone on quite a few occasions and hoping to get my OH to meet with BM OH before wedding so we should be able to smile and say hello by name to everyone! i have been ridiculously OTT about only people we both know coming to our wedding!

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In a word- no!

I wouldnt have someone there that he diddnt know and vice versa.

Our is going to be a relatively large wedding (75 during the day, 150 at night approx) and there will be a few that I don't know - mostly on the OH's side, but a couple from mine too because of long-term OH's that I've not met, but other family has

Ours went from an intimate 16 guests with a party for everyone else on a separate day to everyting on one day with100 guests! a lot of my friends are spread throughout the country and my fiance's family dont live in england so there will be guests on his side that i wont have met and similarly for him but we'll have an awareness of who they are. After drawing up a guestlist of who we would like to invite and being happy with that number his mum then asked how many people she could invite (we'd already listed family on her side and her best friends) 3 months on i still dont know who they will be, i wont know them and doubt my fiance will either or certainly wont have seen them for a very long time, but hey, deep breath and if it means she'll enjoy the day more... (glad i capped the additional guests to 10 though!)

I don't mind either. I've met most of his extended family, and definitely grandparents (one side in particular I get on very well with)... just not all the aunties and uncles. His mum is one of 4 and his dad is one of 6 so it was a tall order anyway. I've met almost all the family friends coming, and I've met all his friends who are coming.

He's met all my aunties, uncles and cousins, all the family friends and almost all of my friends. We flew to Malaysia specially after we got engaged so he could meet my grandparents (who are too old/ill to travel). I wouldn't have wanted to get married without being able to do that and get their blessing.

The evening is a different matter... my dad is inviting a lot of his friends and family. H2B has met a small number of them, I've met a large number of the rest and then finally there are some people I've either never met or met years ago and now don't remember.

We know everyone at our wedding - maybe Not inside out ie my mums great aunts, OH's aunt&uncle etc but we both have huge families so kind of to be expected. If we don't know them well our parents will and yes the wedding is about us - but its alos bringing 2families together & our parents are also extremely important on the day so that's fair enough. As for the evenin do - I doubt very much i'll know everyone but they will all at least know who I am. Lol my dad keeps sayin if we only invited people that I liked it would be a very very small wedding! Lol

I think I have met all OH's guests bar his best man's sister (not sure I want her on the guest list anyway but as BM and his mum and dad are all going to be there OH doesn't want to the leave the sister out, hmmm....) and 2 of his mates and their partners. OH has definitely met all the guests from my side as they all attended the engagement party. I really wouldn't want total strangers at the most important day of my life listening to me swear on serious vows. It just doesn't sit right with me, but obv that won't hold true for everyone, I know lots of brides who were happy with the opportunity to meet new people and 'the more the merrier' attitude.

I'm very lucky that both me and OH know everyone coming extremily well, as only 20 people are coming, really glad our that it will be this way

I don't know all of my guests. Two of my friends are bringing partners who I have not met, (really looking forward to meeting them!) and some of OH's guests I do not know. (they live abroad or they are old friends he doesn't see often) He doesn't know all of my guests either as some are friends that he hasn't met for whatever reason. Other than one or two other halves all the guests are known by either myself or OH.

I don't mind this - I think it will be nice to meet some of his friends who I've heard all the uni stories about!

We have 46 people coming and i have never met 3 of them and dont realy know 1 of them but seen him but they are oh and hubbys of my cusions and there kids

Iwill know everyone, but there will be people there OH doesn't know.

I have a MASSIVE family. My Mum is 1 of 7 kids, my Dad is 1 of 6 and my step dad was 1 of 6, so lots of aunts and uncles aswell as almost 40 cousins. Doesn't help that i'm 1 of 9 kids either ?

He's OK with this as it's family, but if it was friends, i'd make sure he knew them if I intended to invite them to our wedding.

I don't think it's unreasonable to have people at your wedding that only one of you knows - such as your work colleagues he's never met - or even people that you don't know such as the partner of a work colleague - but what I do find odd is when people's parents start inviting *their* friends that neither of you know and really have no reason to be there.

My Matron of honor told me her mother is so excited to come to my wedding. I didn't even plan on inviting her. I told her we were tight on our budget and then she said she would pay for her mom to come."Don't forget to send invitation of close friends and family.

There were quite a few people there that one of us didn't know. We both have big families and have always had separate circles of friends from before we met each other. I didn't mind at all though; it was lovely to have an opportunity to bring together all the people from the various areas of our lives and introduce them. Some new friendships between our guests have sprung up because of it too (not least my brother and one of my bridesmaids, hmmmm!).

His Nanny is bringing a friend that neither of us has met. He knows everyone else coming, I haven't met three of his friend's girlfriends.

I have to admit were running on 72 guests and i know every single one of them, all from my side and all from OH side, theres a few people my OH dosent no on my side but thats only because its family he hasnt met that live abroad! I was very certain and to the point that i didnt want any tom dick or harry coming to the wedding as i wanted to make sure i knew everyone, my cousion asked if his OH could come but i said no as i didnt no her and she didnt no me and were just on the limit to the amount of guests we can have. I dont think its unreasonable if you dont know the person its your wedding day x

Me and OH live very seperate lives day-to-day at the moment - 300 (ish) miles apart so he has "his friends" and I have mine. I've met the closest ones on nights out when I visit, and I know plenty about the resst, but I wouldn't say I "know" them.

Out of 150 guests i'd estimate there will be 20 of OH guests I don't know (including partners) and around 15 of mine OH won't know.

We have 70 people in the day and all of them both me and my OH know/have met before. In the evening we will have just over 100 and more of those are work colleagues/family friends and their partners. Some of the partners we wont have met before. But I would definately make the effort to meet people before if they were coming to the church/reception and didnt know them!

With the day guests we are inviting 40 people altogether. One of them, the BM's girlfriend, neither OH or I have met as they've only been together for 3 months, but we are inviting her because they have just moved in together. Other than that I have met all the guests before, OH hasn't met my godparents yet, but I'm not sure they will be able to come anyway. I'm quite pleased that we will know everyone because it will make everything so much more relaxed and intimate.

One of OH's friends asked us the other day whether he could bring his girlfriend to the wedding. We were quite surprised as he's never mentioned her before. Turns out his 'girlfriend' was a woman from work whom he had been on one date with and was hoping for a second! They hadn't even kissed yet! He added that he hoped they would become a couple but he wasn't sure yet and could he let us know when it became 'official'? 3 months before the wedding. The thought of paying £60+ for a stranger who may or may not attend our wedding was a bit much. We used the 'sorry the venue won't let us have any more guests' excuse and left it at that.