Do you need a MOH?

If you want a MOH, have one, if you don't then don't! Traditionally, the MOH does sit on the top table, but I don't think I'll be having one so we'll be having our son on the top table instead.

Tray

You don't have to have one. Usually the MOH signs the register, so if your MOH were to do this, you couldn't pick anyone underage. I would also say if you wanted to pick your best mate over your sister, this is fine... my friends got married in December and the bride's MOH was sister (she signed the register and sat at top table) and sister was fine...

The MOH doesn't have to sit at top table btw!

Basically do whatever you want!

I am having my sister and FSIL as my bridesmaid and they my best friend as maid of honour.

We are having the tradtional top table, so MOH will be up there. However I did ask her how she felt about sitting seperately from her partner, and she said it a fine, and she wants to be on top table (if she had choose sitting on another table that would have been fine, but I thought I would give he the choice)

You don't actually have to have a MOH, you can just stick to having 4 BM

So it would be better to ask my best mate who is older and can do more to help? x

I wont be having a MOH, just 3 bridesmaids.

I had a similar issue - my sister will be 23 when we get married (just) and I will be 29...my other 3 bridesmaids will be between 27 & 29. My sister is appalling at organising things, however she pretty much appointed herself CBM (I don't mind - she is probably my best friend, and I can honestly say I doubt I will ever be closer to anyone in my life)...my other three bridesmaids would be MUCH better at organising stuff, but they know my sister will need some support and I know they will be more than happy to give it. TBH no matter how old you are, it is a big responsibility, so anyone will need some help I'd think.

However I do think 14 is far too young - can't you just have two CBMs? The older best friend and your sister? I think this would be fine. But I also think your little sister would nderstand if you chose your best friend - your sister probably doesn't even have a debit/credit card to book the hen night shenanigans with, bless her!

Don't feel you have to do stuff just cos its tradition! I'm having 3 bridesmaids; sister, cousin, and best friend. None are maid of honour cos I wouldn't want to choose. They'll all be there supporting me, none more than another. My sister will most likely sit on the top table (just cos she doesn't want to) ?, my cousin will walk down the aisle first cos the others don't want to and then hold my bouquet, and my best friend will stay last with me as she'll be the most complimentary and helpful!! Just have them do what you want them to do, not what you feel you have to!

Btw, it sounds like you want your best friend so I'd have her regardless of your MIL2B. And your sister would understand. I doubt she has even thought she would be MOH being so young.

I am not having a maid of honour as, like you, I dont want to choose between my best friend and sister. I am having three adult bridesmaids, my sister and two friends. The friends will sit with their OH/family for the reception and my sister will sit on the top table.

I had my two sisters as BMs, I cheated in a sense as the gifts I gave them were labelled 'Chief Bridesmaid' and 'Matron of Honour' (one's married, the other isn't)

We didn't have a top table as such, we only had 30 there so were were able to have a U shaped table with me and H, my parents, grandad, him mum and best man on the bottom of the U and everyone else on the sides.

There's absolutely nothing to say that you HAVE to have a 'top table' or that anyone HAS to be on it (other than B & G!) if you do have one.

You don't have to have a Maid of Honour if you don't want to. And if you do, have who you like and no, they don't have to sit at the top table.

I'm not having a maid of honour. I've got two bridesmaids and wouldn't know who to choose out of the two. I'm not sure what appointing one as maid of honour would add to the whole thing x

I have finally decided what I am going to do:

1. I will ask my sis to be CB - she will sit at the top table, hold my bouquet, look after ER, help me go to the loo etc.

2. So my brother doesn't feel left out by not sitting at the top table, I will ask him to do a reading during the service.

3. I will ask FSIL to sign the register so at least she has a job to do and doesn't feel left out.

4. I will ask my best friend to plan my hen do as she is the most responsible.

5. I will ask my friend's daughter to help me more with the planning and the crafty bits as she is very arty.

Thank you for your ideas ladies - I feel a lot less worried now. It is nice to share ideas with people x