Do you think there is a 'good' age to get married?

Not really because ill only be 22 when i get married, but weve been together since 13 so we thought now was the right time! whereas my mum was 18 and my nan was only 16 and they both had/have fantastic marriage x

Not sure that there is a 'right' age but I know that this is my first marriage at the ripe old age of 40!! Ive not had one panic about marrying OH and we both feel that to get to our age without either of us being married before tells us that this is soooooo right!!

Having said that I have been fighting the 'growing up' stage in my life for years!!! My sister says I have 'Peter Pan' syndrome, I think she really means Im immature!! lol

Good question, i'll be 24, which is that age i always wanted to get married when i planned my life out as a teenager, but it just just worked out I met the perfect man at 21, and I know i'm never going to find anyone who loves me as much.

people comment that we are very young as the average marriage age seems to be mid 30s, but i dont want to wait til then! I think the general trend of people getting married is getting younger again tho, 2 of my cousins are getting married his year too at 22 and 24, my best friend from school is getting married this year too at 25. So I think us early to mid twenties girls are becoming the norm!

I know this is going to upset a few people but I was too young to get married at 21 because I was too immature. I realise that if you've been with your H2B for years by this point then it would probably work though.

I'll be 29 when we get married and I'll definitely be ready!

I'm 27 and still feel it is too young but want to spend the rest of my life with OH! Also feel far too young to be a mother but I guess I'm just a big kid which makes parenthood so much more fun! You'll know when you are ready I'm sure but I can't help thinking early 20s is too young. Maybe that's because my life was so very different then! I only have one friend that got married at 21, everyone else has been at least 27.

To be honest i don't think age has much to do with it, it's maturity and the knowing it's right iykwim

I never considered marriage even, when ever i was in a relationship marriage never popped into my head until i met my OH

Then for the first time ever i knew i wanted to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him

When I get married I will be 30. Me and h2b have been together for 10 years. I was ready for it 5 years ago to be honest but he only asked last year!

Glad we are getting married this year as we have more money now then we did and are not worried about the money. If I had got married 5 years ago I think that the wedding would have been different than the one we are having now! I think I have better taste and I am more crafty than then (I knit and sew now but I didn't back then) so I think the wedding will look more stylish. That said, I would have liked to have been younger so I look younger in the photos. I am not wrinkly or anything, but I looked younger then (stating the obvious!).

I think for me, 28 would have been right, but I am happy with getting married at 30.

A colleague of mine is 37 and has been her h2b for 18 years and engaged for 11 years or something silly and has still not set a date!

I never thought I'd get married at all. OH never thought he'd have a relationship serious enough to consider marriage. (he's 40 and had never had a relationship longer than 6 months before he met me - and I wouldn't leave lol)

To be perfectly honest I don't think the age makes a difference - it's being in the right relationship. I knew it was different when I met OH, we can spend days with only each other for company and not get bored of each other or irritate each other - a few hours alone with previous boyfriends usually ended with us getting on each others nerves lol. As he said after about a week of us being together 'we just click' simple as that ?

I am really not sure. I have been with my OH since i was 21 and am now 33 (today!).I was never really that bothered about getting married,really wanted to be engaged and i was 25 when that happened. I have really got into the getting married thing but at the start of my planning some of it was down to feeling too old to be someones girlfriend and wanting the whole family to share the same surname.

Both our parents married in late teens/early 20's and are both still together.

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Happy Birthday ?

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Are we the same people!! lol

You have just described our relationship to a tee. ?

I'm with Rebecca on this, its really down maturity.

I married too young - I was 26 and at that time, it really was the wrong decision. I've got friends who married younger than that are enjoying married bliss!

Skip forward quite a few years and experiences, and I'm very happy to be marrying Carmen, she's everything I've always wanted ? I'm 39 (still young! haha!), and Carmen is a bit younger.

I've a 14yr old daughter, so don't know what I'd do if she wanted to get married young! (other than start saving! lol)

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Thank you lovely.

If you'd told me even a couple of years ago about someone marrying at 22 I'd have said "that's ridiculous, that's far too young!"

But here I am, 22 and getting married!

I know it's right though and sorry if this offends anyone but for me personally I want to be married first before doing all the other things like buying a house and having babies. I want to do those things from the foundation of marriage. I want us to build our life together rather than having separate lives and having to merge them later.

I always felt 26 would be the right age to get married, but he didn't ask me til I was 27 and I will be 28 when we get married x

Well I got engaged to my ex when i was 19 and thank god i did not marry him in the 8 years we were engaged even though in my life plan i would be married at 27 and have 1st child before 30.... well I am going to be 30 when i get married and it is too late to be under 30 to have first child! I now feel happy enough and safe enough in my relationship to get married, whereas with my ex it was "just a commitment - contract' with my h2b it is just different and right

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were birthday twins im 26 today xx

I got married first time when I was 24. Looking back it was the wrong thing to do, although it felt right at the time - if I had waited another 2 years I wouldn't have got married.

At the age of 30 I finally felt like a 'grown-up', and realised I shouldn't be where I was.

So I'm now 38, I know I'm marrying my OH for the right reasons (because I want to cancel the 'wedding' and just get married!) and there are none of the 20-something pressures, like babies or careers, to get in the way.

The best age to get married? I'd say past 30 when you have more of an idea about life in general. But everyone is different, some people will marry at 21 and love happily ever after, some will marry at 32 and be divorced (are we allowed to use that word here?!) by 35.

i'll be 22 when i get married and OH will be 25. we will have been together 7years so i dont care if people think im too young. i dont feel too young but i do feel like suppliers treat me different and dont take me seriously.

I think there is a good age, but I think that differs for each person.

My OH is a more than ready to have his wife at 20, whereas my brother at 21 couldn't imagine a worse thought, he loves his GF dearly, but he just isn't ready for being labelled "married" yet.

Looking back, I wouldn't have been ready to settle down and put someone before myself at aged 20, so even though I trust H2b is ready now, I really wouldn't have been at his age.

I always imagined i'd have kids aged 25, never really deamt of being married, but recently being married before we have kids has become important to us, so i'm about where I thought I would be when I was younger and planning how I wanted my life to go. As you do at 11 or 12. ?

I will be 34 and boy will be 37. Neither of us have been married before but he was engaged once, that kind of engagement that doesn't mean "we're getting married", more like "we want to be engaged". We have been together nearly 11 years.

I always knew we'd stay together but neither of us were particularly the "marrying kind". I always knew that I would get university out of the way before marrying (that seemed like the right natural order) and owing to the length of that education, I didn't even "qualify" for marriage under those terms until I was 27. At that point, we both had jobs away from each other, so it took a year or so to get him moved to me Then a few years or so of enjoying life together without financial burden. And then we started planning a wedding. So here we are. Not young but I don't think old either. And I wouldn't have done it any earlier.

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I agree, although i have been with OH since I was 20 I was far to young to get married in my early 20's for me I was just starting out in life and didnt know where I wanted it to take me and although I knew I wanted OH to be with me where ever it was, marriage never even crossed my mind. I only started to feel like I was old enough in the past couple of years. It weas pretty much inline when we started talking about if and when we wanted to have kids and I wanted to be arried before that. I will be 31 when i get married!

P.S Happy Birthday Skybright!

Well, I'll be nearly 27 when we get married. Sometimes I still feel too young to be a wife!

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Thats always been in my head as well as a POA. Saying that I wouldnt marry just anyone to make it happen IYKWIM. As it is i'll be 27 the month after we get married & we both want a year of financial & social freedom before trying for a baby.x

I think it's all relative and depends on a number of factors. My mum married my dad at just 22 and they are celebrating their 31st wedding anniversary today. When I was 22, I was still studying and enjoying going out and enjoying myself. I can't imagine having been tied down at that age.

I'll be 29 when we get married. When I pictured my life when I was a teenager, I always thought I would have been married by 25 and had 2 babies by 30. OH is 5 years older than me and he put off proposing to me until he was ready, at age 33. We bought our house together when I was 25 though.

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I had one of these engagements aged 16 ?. It lasted 4 years and we never once made any wedding plans, so I always made it very clear to OH not to ask me to marry him unless he wanted it done and dusted within a year of getting engaged (it's ended up being 18 months) but I needed to know he wanted to be married, not just an ownership thing of me wearing a ring so no-one else could "get me" which is how I felt when I was first engaged - and effectively sums up that relationship.

@ Trickers - I never get bored of hearing the story about the life of you and your H.

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Sames here, altho il be JUST 29!

Really I suppose the answer is is when you've found the right man and spent enough time together to feel deep down its going to work for always.

If I had to put a number on it I'd say 27, plenty of time to enjoy single life beforehand and plenty of time afterwards for children and enjoyment with your own new family.

But what do I know? as is so common these days, we've done in backwards, already have the children and are now heading towards marriage.

But I think what I've said would be good advice for my daughter in a few years.

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And me!!!!!! I am 35yrs now and will be 36 when we get married next year, OH is a couple fo years younger than me (my toy boy! he he, he will be 34) I have had a few serious relationships in the past but none that I ever wanted to marry, my OH has never really had any serious relationships x

I was 20 when I married the first time round - some would say too young but it felt totally right at the time. However, I did mature and grow up over the years and really I grew 'apart' from him. Without boring you all too much there were lots of problems but I stuck it out for 21 years so I think I gave it a good go! I am now approaching 47 and my OH is a year younger and getting married now is totally right for us - as far as I am concerned we are the 'right' age now! (Incidentelly I have known him for over 20 years and we have been together for five years). It really is all about how you feel and what is right for the individual.

I was ready when I was 23 but I am glad I never got married then because I was with someone else (who never got round to asking me).

I'm 31 now and OH is 39. I don't think there is any right age to get married, only right "reasons". I was ready at 23 but I think looking back that was because all my friends were doing it and it felt like the right time and it clouded that fact that I wasn't with the right man.

I'll be 28 when we get married, OH will be 30. I don't think it's our ages that are the important bit (although I did tell him that I needed to be married before I was 30!!) If we had met each other a few years vefore we did and had managed to buy our house earleir etc then we would have probably got married earlier too.

As it stands, we've now both got good jobs (which we wouldn't necessarily have had a few years ago), have had more time to save to buy our house, I've got my car, and we're just a bit more ready for the responsibility of paying for and organising our own wedding. If it had been years ago we may have been bullied a bit more by others but we're now old enough to be able to say get lost, it's our wedding and we're doing what we want to anyone who tries to stick their noses in.

When I was with my ex, we talked about getting married and I was really excited about it but after I attended a friend's wedding I realised that it was the wedding I was excited about, not the marriage. I didn't want to spend my life with that person,l I didn't even like him that much by the end. I chucked him, got with OH a month later and it was the best thing I've ever done. I couldn't care less about all the wedding hoopla, as long as I marry him then that's good enough for me (well, obviously I love the hoopla a little bit......)