Does any one else have difficult bridesmaids?

This thread is soooo me.. I have 5 BM's, 2 live in the same village as me and are not forthcoming at all about going dress shopping, in fact one of them (my sister) texted me to say she would "see what she is doing" on the day that I had arranged for us all to go..

1 of them is at Uni and understandably cant make it all the time but has made an effort to come on the day that I have arranged and the other 2 are from Birmingham who are also coming down that day.. it seems that the 2 closest BM's are the most troublesome and they are my sister and niece!!!

You are not alone ?

Was starting to think I was being unreasonable or difficult! Not like we have forever to get it all sorted! Glad I'm not alone but do pity you having to arrange for 5, thought my 3 were a headache!

I must admit I have had some moments where I think, stuff it, I wont have any...

OOOhhh and welcome to hitched.... lol

5 weeks and she is acting like that?! Sorry to say I would send a text saying either you get a fitting in the next week or you will be too busy with other wedding related stuff, there wont be time for the alterations and so you cant promise her dress will fit.

I'm keeping my temper just about only because I'm so busy with other things but I'm guessing sooner rather tha later I will snap! ? Meant to just be exciting so why am I soo stressed?!

Your stressed because you have 101 things to do and your BM isnt helping. I would call her and tell her how you are feeling. I am guessing she is a BM because she means a lot to you so hearing how you feel she should feel guilty and get it sorted. Well fingers crossed anyway

Thank you for calming my slightly mad mind! Am going to open a big bottle of wine and give her a ring! Then I get back to being excited and enjoying all the last bits.

Wine, talking it through with a friend and then looking forward to your ever nearer big day eeekkkkk sound just right to me. If she isn't married she prob has no idea what you are going through/ feeling like at the moment and is wondering why she needs to do it when the wedding is over a months away. Cheers by the way just opened a bottle myself ?

I'm having a similar issue. My two older sisters are my bridesmaids - I would have been happy with one but it didn't seem right to ask one but not the other. My oldest sister is great - she's really excited about it all and has done loads to help. But my other sister couldn't be less interested. She lives miles away from me so I don't see her very often - I saw her this week so took loads of bits and pieces with me to show her and she hardly even looked at them. I don't think I'm being particularly bride-zilla -ish but she doesn't seem to realise that it's my day, so my way!

I even had to point out to her that she needs to stay in the same hotel as me the night before because the whole point of her being there is to help me get ready in the morning!

Im kinda lucky in that respect... but my BMs will still be difficult as 1 is in Oz & not coming over until 9th April & weding is on 30th april, the other is my best friend who is due her 2nd baby on 4th dec! 1st BM fittings not until sister lands from oz, luckily though the dress shop has its seamstresses "in house" but all my panicing will def be last minute with them!

It is difficult when your planning what is one of the most important days of your life and other people cant really understand what the fuss is about! Im hoping my small strop will have made them all leap into action but I'm not so sure!?

My wedding is still at the stage of being sufficiently far away that the bridesmaids don't really NEED to see anything as urgent, but I do confess to having a few internal tantrums about them (one in particular) taking very little interest so far. I sent them all an email saying that as a treat, I'd booked for them all to have their hair and make-up done on the day - not even a thank you!! Pfft. Oh well.

I think weddings bring out the best and worst in people.

I have 2 adult bridesmaids and one have been a gem and the other makes me feel bring a BM is a drag - no replies to messages about the dress I bought her or replies when I ask if they want a hairdresser booked for them. Such a shame as I thought being a BM would bring us close again like we used to be - appears not. I know she is busy with work - but I don't ask her to do much, just a reply would be nice!

I've got to the stage that I know who I can rely on for important things ?

Grrr! I would say thank you Sammyjay!