Does anybody else feel they are marrying themselves?

Have a hug, ?

we are very intersted in your wedding and if I lived closed I'd be right round to your house to make you a cup of tea and cheer you up x x x

No, dont feel bad give him a kick up the arse form me!

Hugs, i know how you feel, same with mine and its 3 months to go

He's male, mine is just the same. Have a hug from me.

Oh heck thats just pants..... im sorry. Can I give him a slap? lol x

Yes feel free please.....I might not know where to stop. He did my head in even more last night, he spoke to our venue styler and she wanted to know how many adults & children are going to be there....he didnt have a clue! Not even a vague number, he had to count it off one of my lists, then couldnt work out why I had sent her different numbers to what he was counting....he didnt include us!

Sorry for rant the last 2 weeks has been the worse part, cant wait for it to be over & wedding day to be here!

How did you get him to speak to your venue styler?! That's amazing.

I'm just hoping that when mine sees me walking up the aisle it'll all fall into place, because at the moment he couldn't be less interested!!

I think it's just men.

I have the aid of his mother haha! Hes not silly enough to say no to me & his mum haha!

I know the feeling exactly, its soooo frustrating!

I just wanted to add... (feeling a little tired and grumpy together so might have a been a bit too negative earlier!)...

Although my H2B doesn't show much interest in the details, I know that he loves the fact I'm so into it all, and I think it shows him how much he means to me, and I can see when we talk about wedding stuff and he laughs at my 'to do' spreadhseet and my silly concerns about where people will sit etc etc, he looks at me like he really really loves me, and loves that fact I'm doing all this so I can be with him forever. And he's told me this too.

And I'm sure that your's is doing exactly the same too! So chin up!!

No dont be silly hun, u dont sound too negative. We allowed to have our little rants at times, think if our men got as involved as us, they would be bitching on a forum as well haha! When I think about it, im getting stressed and probably taking it out on person nearest to me.....im shocked he still agreeing to marry me haha!

You made me think & I think I owe H2B an apology!! Not too much though, dont want him to think he can get away with not helping at all haha!

Hope it all gets better for you and you have best day ever!

Thank you! You too :o)

Don't apologise too much! Although I've made myself think too and think I might owe mine an apology! I keep giving him such a bad time about it and have asked a couple of times if he actually wants to marry me at all because it doesn't feel like it! But of course they want to marry us, otherwise they wouldn't have asked us - they just don't care about the little details as much as us. Which is probably a good thing, otherwise we'd have to compromise on what WE want! HA HA!

Hope you have a wonderful day and I'm sure he'll be the happiest man alive!!

Thought I'd tell you that my husband went to absolute peices in the last few days before our wedding. I ended up running round all over the place, with mum and dad in tow, and did absolutley everything, while he sat at home "sorting his speach"!! Grrr. I was ready to kill him.

But come the wedding day, all that stress was forgotten, I was in love with him again, and absoltley nothing mattered.

So, deep breaths, and claming thoughts, and you WILL get to the wedding day.

Michele

x

Trust me it's a man thing. When i got married in August everything seemed to be more important to H than the actual wedding. Don't stress about it, i bet 90% of the woman on here are in the same situation.

I know it's hard though.

I'm assuming that (as you are a bride) you have a to-do list?

Divide it into His and Her sections. Undoubtedly your list will be longer than his. Show him how few things he has to do compared to everything you have.

Then, whilst brandishing a bottle of nail varnish remover, tell him to pull his finger out, or that car of his will be going straight back into the garage to have the paintwork redone.

That should get his attention.

Haha love your idea! Sure he it will get his attention...can I guess u have used this? lol.

Yes I have a big list or two. He has a list as well, which I have to keep reminding him to use! Although I think thats one reason I feel for him, im so uptight and everything has to be planned & listed...even a shopping trip has to be listed! Whereas hes laid back and goes with flow!

Kinda reassuring knowing my man is not only laid back one.

Thanks ladies, I feel much better now! ?

Haven't has to use it myself, no - I just have a sinister imagination.

In my H2B's defence, he has been helpful and is actually complaining that I'm not giving him enough to do. I've given him a to-do list but he has done it all so I need to do him a new one.

We actually had an argument the other day because we both want to make the table plan (although in truth I think he just wants an excuse to a) be manly and use a stanley knife and b) cover himself in glue dots and see what he can get to stick to him)

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I was looking at my (monster) to do list the other day and I have a column on there for who is 'responsible' for it. I said "shall we allocate a few more to you" and the answer I got was "I think I have quite enough thank you". Apparently his list of give list of names to BM for stag and order suits is too long for him.

Hah Stupidboy doesn't even have a list- he couldn't organise a piss up in brewery

My tip - yet again copied from LL - is wedding planning meetings once a week and don't talk about it otherwise.

No rows since!

x

PS we have tea + cake with our meetings LOL

I like that plan!

I emailed OH a question yesterday about something - he replies "can you talk about it later - its is Wednesday after all" I think he quite likes the meetings now! Definatley help the stress as otherwise I would bombard him with questions and details every 2 minutes.

In OH defence though I am a complete control freak and he knows that I wouldn't let him go off and do everything so better that I know exactly whats going on and he only does one thing at a time... he is very involved with everything but it just doesn't say so on my list!