Does anyone else think about death regularly? Poss sens?

I worry more about other people dying. I get myself stressed at the thought of my husband, my parents, my sister, my niece dying (not all together). I see accidents and stuff on TV, and worry about it happening to my nearest and dearest.

In the last month, I've lost two work friends, one to cancer, one had a massive cerebral haemmorhage and coronary and passed away last night, so I am at the moment

One was younger, the other slightly older than me

I don't normally think about death, but sometimes these shocks make you very aware of your own mortality

Wss, I don't worry about myself but am terrifies of someone else close to me and often dream about it.

So sorry to hear about your friends Smint. See things like that make me feel so stupid for thinking about it when I have no known reason to worry.

I do also think about other people dying, but more often it's about me (sorry if that sounds selfish) and worrying about my son growing up without knowing me.

I worry about this a lot too, to the point where I have to force myself to stop thinking about it otherwise it makes me cry. I worry about dying myself, and others close to me, especially my close family and H

I'm like this. I worry about having illnesses etc but most of all I worry about my family/friends dying. I get myself totally worked up, it's as though it's a forgone conclusion that death is imminent for them. For example my boyfriend is away a lot over the coming months with work/his sport and I've been a bit upset, it dawned on me the other day why. Obviously I'll miss him and it'd be nice to have him home but I quite enjoy some alone time anyway. I've been upset because it's as though my brain assumes it'll be the last time I see him because he's bound to have a plane crash or something while he away - riiiiight and yesterday I remembered my parents are on holiday from Monday too, what a restful night's sleep I had last night(!)

I think what you're feeling is quite normal. (I hope!)

I wouldn't say I worry about it, but the prospect of dying has crept up my list of concerns since I had my son. It's less about me actually dying than my son growing up without his Mummy, so I know where you're coming from.

I too must stop reading those magazines!

I know what you mean, it's more the thought of the pain your kids are going to feel of missing you and crying for you and growing up without you. That's how it is for me anyway, I worry about how they would feel if they lost me but I worry more about loosing them. I have to shake off them thoughts because sometimes it brings a tear to my eyes but I know I'm being stupid. It's a horrible thought but I think most people have them from time to time.

Honestly? I worry more about getting old and infirm and being lonely in my old age....dying young would mean I avoid it.

I'm single with no children. All my affairs are in order, with instructions for the cats to be looked after, so I don't think my death would have a huge impact on anyone other than my parents, and they are in their 70s themselves with health problems.

Given the choice of getting old with health/mobility/dementia etc problems, or popping off quickly once I've lived a good life, I'd take the easy route any day.

Yes I do. Like you say, it catches me off guard at night sometimes and I end up crying which is stupid I know.

I worry about how my OH would cope and I picture my mother being so upset. Its ridiculous. I think its happening a lot lately as this year my nearest and dearest have been involved in heart attack scare, life threatening illnesses that are still yet to be fully investigated and of course, mums breast cancer. The Dr seems to think she has also had a mini stroke since her latest op which spurred a whole host of awful dreams about death for the past two nights.

Its also prompted many indepth conversations with my OH about how we'll live after one or the other has died. It sounds morbid but I actually find it comforting to be able to discuss it with him.

Thanks for replying all of you - has made me feel like I'm not going mad.

Disco that is exactly it, whilst obviously I don't want to die, my actual fear is of Zac growing up without me.

Gah - right time to have a shower and wash the horrible thoughts away!

Thanks again

Sorry you have had such a tough time recently Flamin Nora and wishing your mum a speedy recovery.

I haven't spoken to my H about this as I didn't want him to think I was mad(!) maybe I will have a chat with him.

Oh and KJB I am sure that were you to die (that sounds horrible saying that) it would have a profound effect on many people.

Thanks all

Thanks OL ?, things can surely only get better now.

Like you I worry about it more since I've had Harriet. When H is on night shift and is driving home tired, if he's running a little bit late all sorts of images flash through my mind and I have to force myself to stop thinking about it. I also worry about him on the rare occasions he goes out. I know he wouldn't hesitate to step in if something untoward was happening and I worry that he'll get in a fight and end up stabbed or beaten up.

I also worry about the rest of my family. We've had some grandparents die recently and it's made me realise that time is going so quickly that it won't be long before our parents are old and then it will be us getting old and Harriet having to deal with our death.

More than anything though I worry about something happening to Harriet. It's my absolute worst nightmare and I'm practically crying just thinking about it. I too have to force myself to not think about it otherwise I'd never go out of the house for fear of us being run over whilst crossing a road or her being abducted.

I think having children makes you very aware of mortality because you suddenly have something so precious that you don't want to lose. I hope it's completely normal, because I'm like it too. And now I'm going to go and busy myself with Harriet and give her big cuddles to cheer myself up.