Does anyone worry about having wedding "fads"?

I got worried about this so I decided, I going to do everything so it defines me and my OH.

I'm turning up in my own car with ribbons on because I love my car. Other bits and bobs are going to be things that the guests will be like "thats so you!" so that I don't need to worry if it's unoriginal, because its about us x

I am totally with you on this one! When we first started planning I was adamant that I wanted a sweetie table but I have really gone off them now cos' everyone seems to be doing it.

Photo booths aren't really our thing but if you really like the idea then do it.

We are having a mini casino at our wedding, very faddy indeed but OH had Insisted!

I think this seems a good way to view it when making a decision about something.

We have personally not gone for anything I would consider to be a fad, but things that we love and want.

Good thread! You are totally right. When I first started wedding planning I thought sweetie table were soooooo original. I'm now no longer having one!

There are things that tend to be popular on the boards and I'm not sure if I feel they are done a lot because I see them here, or if they are known as popular in regular life, if you get what I mean?

Totally agree! On the sweetie table thing - I'd never seen one before hence thinking they were so original. Life is all about fads and trends and it's very difficult to escape. Even a wedding without buying into these things will still look dated in years to come. The styles of dresses (bet no one wears strapless in 10 years!) and traditional wedding cakes will look different in 10 years so you may as well go with whatever you will enjoy having/wearing/eating on the day and to hell with worrying if its a fad or not! We are doing a DIY photo booth and I cannot wait to see the photos. In my mind these are replacing the last fad of putting disposable cameras on the tables!

It depends if you're having your wedding the way you are because YOU want it that way or if you're trying to please/impress others. Who cares what other people think? You should have what YOU want, how YOU want it. Faddy or not, go with what will enhance your day for you and hubby. People will have a good time regardless.

Agree - I hate following the norm - but as the wedding plans have developed we seem to be having a pretty traditional wedding! Its weird but we (as in me, oh and immediate family) have just got so caught up in it

I also didnt want a cup cake tower because 'everyone' was doing it - but now we're having one because my friends doing it and she makes great cup cakes!

the great thing about this site is that you get so many different ideas, some are fads and some are original, and then they become fads! at the end of the day its pulling all those bits together to make it something that suits you - and is within your budget ?

Totally with you! I've stayed away from the photobooths/sweeties tables etc because I felt they weren't 'me' 'us'. Some of the ideas I see on here are absolutley fantastic but I want to stay true to myself.

The only thing I've swayed on due to hitched (I think) is a VOG...

Some of the ideas I've picked up from hitched are great and have enhanced my own though. I'd never have thought of silk flowers for example or found vistaprint!!

People are perfectly capable of having a lovely time without xyz - that's always been true and always will be. However you're only going to do this once hopefully so just go with what you want. Remember most of your guests don't go to many weddings from one year to the next, so what may look unoriginal and obvious to you will probably be new to them. If you like it, and you think your guests will like it, and you can afford it, then do it.

That said I think there's a limit to the number of potentially 'faddy' things I'd combine into a single day. Lots of them all together might look a bit gimicky.

I think the majority of faddy things will still be original to your guests - unless theyve recently planned a wedding themselves or they go to a lot of weddings. I had never heard of most of the things like cupcake towers, sweetie tables, ice cream carts so im sure the majority of my guests havent either. The only faddy thing I really want is an ice cream cart but i dont think we can afford it!

I don't worry about hvaing any gimmicks, because I am not really aware of wedding 'fads', this is the only wedding site I go on (except martha stewart, and that is for making my seating plan and nowt else.) If we have accidentally chosen something 'faddy' then so be it, we are picking stuff we like and not deliberately trying to play into anything we have seen before at weddings we have been guests at. I would love a photo booth because I know my friends would have such a laugh, but it's too much so we are putting out cheapo cameras instead and we will get just as funny pictures!

Totally understand! I hate fads, but I keep getting sucked into the wonderful world of wedding blogs and ended up with quite a few of these trends in my original thoughts for the day. The great thing about my partner not being into wedding sites or magazines is that he knows when something's actually "us" or when I've assumed it's "us" because it's popular. So, however annoyed I get when he pooh-poohs my ideas, I know he's doing it for the right reasons and helping us create something that's truly unique

Something only ever becomes a 'fad' because it's a popular idea. Every wedding is as individual as the couple, so whether you have something like a photobooth, or a VOG, or a sweetie table or a chocolate fountain, or whatever that is considered a 'fad', unless your guests have a habit of frequenting weddings, then chances are the only person that is going to know about the fad is you.

Even colours are faddy. I *think* last year was all about the Sage Green, or cadbury's purple! I lost count of the number of brides to be who were discussing having these as their bridesmaid dresses, or their theme colour.

My opinion? If you like it and can afford it, then have it. Whether its a fad or not!

Exactly what The Nutty One has said - sweetie table really stood out to me as 'everyone and their mum has one!' and it isn't really us anyway and again Hitched has definitely swayed me into a VOG

I discovered foam flowers and Vistaprint here too!

Absolutely right, RKB.

I went to 2 weddings last year, both had Cadbury's purple and every single wedding fayre I've been to this year has has the display colour around Cadbury's purple. It's my favourite colour and I love it but I didn't choose it, not because it was popular with thoer weddings but because it clashes with my H2B's beret!! ?

I think a lot of things may seem to be faddie have actually been done for a very long time it is only just because you are planning you wedding reading mags and forums etc you now hear about them a lot more so i dont feel you need to worry about it as long as you love the idea, the only thing i would worry about is hair style and fashion keep it simple and timeless and that should be fine too.

I do worry that im picking things that are going to be very fashionable/faddy (which would be most unlike me lol) we had chosen a afternoon tea instead of wedding breakfast or evening do before I even got near a wedding magazine because its very us and because it would be a shorter day, OH would go with a ceremony and nothing else if it was left entirely to him so this was our compromise now I see it everywhere but I know that our guests will know that we are doing it because it is so us ! I think as long as you want it because it makes you happy and adds something to your day then go for it

In all honesty i think 'we' know what is being done over and over again because we are a group of brides or bride to be's and we are hearing about hundreds of weddings from all over the UK but to most people who attend a wedding once a year say (or maybe less) they won't recognise the 'fads'

for example, from being on here and going to wedding fayres etc i would say that sweet buffets (although yummy!) are over done and we most likely won't have one (although maybe something similar)...i went to a wedding fayre with MIL2B and she ran over to me 'come and look at this, its AMAZINGGGG, i've never seen anything like it before etc etc' ..... i went over to see what all the fuss was about and it was a sweet buffet company with a sweet display etc...i tried not to look underwelmed as she was so excited but my point is to the 'none planner' these ideas ARE still unique and quirky....

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There is absolutely no way of avoiding fads, so try not to worry about it. Even if you think you're not being faddy I can quarantee that in 20 years time anyone looking at the wedding photos will know when it was. My wedding pictures scream 1980's and I love that.

We are all products of our age. Embrace it!

Great thread! I'm not bothered if it's a fad or been done before i'm having what I we want so that currently includes:

vintage ice cream bike for reception drinks

Bouncy Castle

Singing Waiters

Sweet table

Photo Booth

Cupcake tower-my sister makes the best cupcakes ever!

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Have whatever you want! xx

Totally agree with those who have said regardless of something being 'faddy' or not you should go with what feels most like you. We are having a candy buffet, regardless of it being faddy or not, because I know that our guests will walk in and immediately think 'That is so Kady and B!' Likewise with our cupcakes!!

I agree with lots of the above. Fads are just what's fashionable & like someone else said in ten years wedding fads will be completely different & our ideas will be old hat.

I guess the important thing is making your own mark. If you like something go for it. Don't just go for it because other people are. Equally don't feel pressured as the more you go for, the more it costs & it can end up costing silly money! For example I love the idea of photo booth but no way is that in our budget. I also fancy giving the kids a disposable camera each but with 22 children coming, even that adds up to too much but I think people will have a good time anyway (I hope so at least). The day is about you & your OH celebrating your marriage with friends & family.

Mrs*W*2B - My mum was exactly the same at the National Wedding Fair. After a few times of her doing this, I didn't manage to hide my uninterested expression very well and probably came across as quite rude looking!! But oh well, a harpist is not a new idea and is not something I need!

I must admit I totally love all the current "fads" and wish we could have things like a sweetie table, but because we're having a winter wedding, we think a lot of these things wouldn't go!

Our venue is doing us a great deal which includes little extras like a Father Christmas, and a choir singing carols. These might be faddy things as far as I know, I've not encountered many people having winter weddings on here, but I TOTALLY LOVE christmas, so the more tack and daftness the better as far as I'm concerned!!

I'm currently making around 40 snow domes for decorations, and there will be candy canes, bon bons and marshmallows everywhere, and it'll be amazing whether it's been done before or not!

If you like it, do it, you never know you may regret it if you don't. It's all about having as much fun as possible after all!!

I have loved seeing all of the ideas on here and in magazines but I am only having things that I like at my wedding rather than the latest must have. The few things I may have been inspired by more are decor,props and photographs rather than sweet buffets, caraciturists etc...

Our TOG offered a white screen package which I would have gone with anyway even though photo booths are all the rage. What better way for guests to have as many Pro pictures in a fun way and be able to keep a copy on the night. I love sweets but I feel my guests really wouldn't fill up on them and a lot would be wasted we prefer cake.

OMG that sounds FANTASTIC! I'd love to be a guest at your wedding, I too love Christmas

It's the best time of year as far as I'm concerned!! My OH thinks I was born in the north pole!! X

MrsBadger, please can I come to your wedding too!! It's sounds fantastic! X

HA!! Yeah why not, the more the merrier!! Xx