Does your OH have an interest/hobbie/obsession you just don't get?

Mine plays golf. I understand to some extent, I even play a little bit myself although not so much since I broke my shoulder. What I don't get is his desperate need to play two or three times a week, no matter what the weather and then the need to describe every shot on every hole in great detail.

I enjoyed it for the exercise but for him its a compulsion, almost an obsession. There again he doesn't understand my papercrafting so we even out really ?

Yes! Kevin Smith. He has such a man-crush on Kevin Smith. I mean I like some of his films but...H2B downloads all his podcasts, all the ones associated with him, he has posters, T shirts, dvds, even a basketball shirt that he wears cos he thinks it looks like something Kevin Smith would wear. I don't really get it.

Oh and ETA, he doesn't really get my Moyles obsession. Somewhat fortuitously, the final Moyles show was 3 weeks before we started dating

Anything DIY related. Sanding paper, different size nails and screws. He loves bolts and his favourite thing in the world seems to be brackets.

Weirdo! Haha!

Mine's obsession is comics - to the point that he has even named all her IT devices at home after Calvin & Hobbes characters. Think it comes from the geek/techie circles he was in during Uni! I'm IT/geek-ish too but I don't get it.....!

Golf, snooker & pool, football, his (boring IT) job, trainers (mostly Nike Air Max), UFC.

I just don't understand why any of the above are interesting!!!

For mine, it is gaming. I can understand playing the odd computer game, but he does it every available moment. If he's not gaming, he's watching some guy called Total Biscuit on youtube talk about gaming. He does take nights out for date nights and to do jobs around the house, but he always goes back to it for a bit before bed. Thing is, as much as I don't get it, he's always been the same since I met him, so I'm used to it!

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Cricket. He keeps going on about Kevin Pieterson and I really do not give a sh!t (and have told him this!)

Boy is a golfer (he hit an eagle last month and is still talking about it) and a gamer (shooty shooty things).

I can happily watch golf though, and I game myself, just not the same type of game. So I guess I "get" it.

Eve online. I fecking hate that game. He's addicted to it, and would easily spend 24 hours a day on it.

Winds me up no end, as he spends all his spare time on it, and he ignores the kids. It's like his xbox obsession all over again (which took me leaving him for 3 months, to sort himself out)

Also, fly fishing. I just don't get what is so fun about it. It's boring, pointless, and can be really expensive. He went overnight fishing last week, and came back buzzing about a "celeb" he met. By celeb, he means someone in the fishing community. I have zero idea (or interest) who he is.

I squished my H's enthusiasm about a fish he caught once, when I reminded him that I gave birth to a baby bigger than the fish he'd caught. He rarely talks to me about it now, as I zone out.

Cars. Any sort of cars. He will spend hours looking at car parts on eBay. He will watch car programmes, go on car forums - I just don't get it.

Same as above but with downhill bikes.

Oh and snowboarding

Mine is obsessed with golf (watching and playing) and playing Clash of Clans on his iPad. I'm pretty sure that game was invented for teenaged boys and he is 38 FFS! He used to be a Clan Elder whatever that is and was gutted when he was demoted.

Board games & podcasts about boardgames & you tube videos about them. He has about 100 & not a week goes by when a new one doesn't arrive by courier.

Cricket... Yawn. Nuff said.

Lego! He is a nightmare. We currently have Tower Bridge under construction in our living room.

Motorbikes.......endlessly.

I sort of get it, they can be pretty and shiny and on a sunny day it is the best way to travel. But for me that's where it ends.

He currently has 6 motorbikes in our garages: 2 are his and roadworthy, one is his project bike, a 1970s Boneville he is restoring. Again, this i can understand. But then, he has his mates project bike (cos it's more fun doing it together and i have better tools), and 2 others he has in storage for other people (because they are different to mine and i like to look at them and hear them start up- even though i can't ride them, and i agree they are in the way)

But it doesn't stop there. He has an encyclopaedic knowledge of pretty much every manufacturer and i havent come across a bike yet where he doesnt know the engine spec immediately from the model name. He spends hours on youtube looking at and listening to bikes. I once timed him listen to a compilation video of idling bike engines fof over 20 minutes!

This lifelong obession has left him with a bizarely impressive skill though. If we are driving in the car and he sees a motorbike approaching in the opposite direction, he is able to compute the engine type with the speed of travel and can make a 'neeeeauw' noise at exactly the right pitch with about 95% accuracy before said bike actually passes us.

Xbox/playstation/computer games. Plays every second he can and has recently taken to joining the gamers who wait outside a shop at midnight for a game to be released, he's 35 years old. I understand to some degree because I used to play on my computer a lot and am quite often on my ipad googling but the waiting outside a shop business I just don't get. I think what annoys me is that he can stay up on his games until the early hours but as soon as we have a night without the games he falls asleep at 9pm! Grrrrrrrr

i guess it's better than him being wasted down at the pub every night, a friend had a boyf like that.....nightmare.

This is my Dad. TBH, it used to impress me that he could tell what make a bike was, just by hearing it.

He wanted to name all his children after bikes, my Mum was having none of it, but his ex let him call my Brother, Harley.

If you replaced the word 'motorbike' with 'car' in this post then this would be h.

Sport - mainly football and cricket and he will watch any crap on TV. He popped home last night to meal, he was working, I was watching some tosh that finished so channel hopped. I knew footy was on ITV but skipped straight past, there was 1 second of sound and he heard it and said - That was football, Was it? said I and carried on ignoring it - my time this was not his lol. But he would have had it on if he'd had the remote.....

He has lots of other hobbies but I do get them - cycling and course fishing for example, walking and scrambling up mountains, but the obsession with footy does my head in.

Rugby and football, he's always wanting me to go and watch him play rugby but I can't think of anything worse! He has loads of hobby's but most of them don't bother me.

Cars. You can show my H2B a small section of a car and he'll be able to tell you the make, model and era. He gets cross when TV programmes don't have the right cars in: "This is set in 1982, but that's the newer shape of whichever car, it wasn't released until 1984." He will also happily spend hours and hours on autotrader and ebay looking for cars that he is never going to buy. In the four+ years we have been together, I have heard him say "I'm going to get a ..." so many times. Sometimes he gets as far as test-driving one. But he never buys one. He really wants a Land Rover/classic Merc/Volkswagen Transporter/Vauxhall Vectra (it changes every week or so).

The other, bigger thing he's obsessed with is military aircraft and airfields. He has a collection of about 70 model planes that he LOVES and nobody is allowed to touch. Some of these things are worth about £300, but I don't know why. Some are from WW2, some are from the cold war. We live quite close to RAF Fairford and RAF Brize Norton, and he is often over there taking photographs of planes taking off and coming in to land. There are lots of disused airfields nearby, most have become farms now, and he has been on most of them, looking at the runways and the old buildings. He went on a guided tour of the airfield at Upper Heyford near Bicester which he raved about for months. Every time we go away, he looks up the nearest airfields and we go and have a look at them to see if we can get onto them. He and his dad (who is similarly obsessed) have days out across the country to go 'airfielding' - they have been all over the place, Lincolnshire, Suffolk, Essex etc. I don't get it.

Trainers!!!!

I have lost count of how many pairs he now owns, although im mildly impressed how pristine majority of them look.. ?

I was told yesterday that I had to be in town this morning before 9am to go to the Size store before I start work to get the new release limited edition Adidas Trimm Stars, "they'll be queuing outside" I was told. Gets there this morning im first outside of the store at 8.55 shortly followed by another women looking less than impressed. Walks into the store and said trainers are there in front of me in a glass box, now im guessing the beam of light from heaven above must have been broken because these just look like blinking trainers to me just like the other 47 pairs he has!! I don't get it, H2b says "You never will!!!"

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Rock music!
He can hear a 10 sec snip of a song and tell you the band, band members, song title, album title, release date, cover art etc etc

He now gets called Wikipedia when he starts rambling on and on...

I do like rock/metal music but I like to actually listen to it, rather than get a lecture whilst its playing =/

Also Marvel comics & films ... again I like the films but I often have to tell him to shut up!

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I can do that - my dad too. It's not a conscious thing though, I just have that sort of memory.

Warhammer 40k.... (games workshop) you know those little models?

Now he's got me into it... mainly after threatening him that I was going to paint his models in pink glittery nail varnish.

Erm yes xbox, battlefield 4, he watches videos on the latest updates and what weapons are best. i can relate to this more though... I used to be a major geek and play in a female only PC gaming team and was sponsored to play etc. But still.. that was 6 years ago lol

Just been speaking to the OH about this thread - his response was boys are into cool sh*t & girls are boring. Hmmmm.

I think there is a stereotype amongst some men that girls just like shoes and handbags, and that those things are somehow more trivial than cars or whatever. Which is annoying on two levels: 1. interests that are considered typically femme such as clothes and makeup have a lot of intrinsic value, and shouldn't be derided as trivial and 2. Lots of women like lots of things that don't fall into that category. In my case sound editing, but I bet all of us here like something that isn't stereotypically 'girly'.

Gaming. I don't get it as H always says he can't spend x number of hours watching a film as it's a waste of time but he can happily spend hours and hours playing games.

I admit the gaming makes it easy for present-buying purposes - 'what would you like for Christmas/Birthday?' 'FIFA/COD/Grand theft auto' etc. Worse still though, he constantly pipes up with 'ah, you gotta see this goal' and he can rewind the footage to show a replay from about 50 different angles.

Other than that, it's the weather. He analyses weather charts, we have a weather station in the garden and we watch documentaries on extreme weather events. H can also identify any given cloud and tell if the weather's changing - this is useful I admit, as we go rambling so it's good to know when we need to turn back before the bad weather.

I actually LOLed at cinnamon009's description of the digger day!

My H's main obsession is computer games. Particularly League of Legends. He spends hours playing it, and he does it online with "teammates" who he talks to via Skype, so a lot of my evenings are punctuated with "YES! Great kill!" "Oh come on, he screwed me over there..." "Gogogo! What are you waiting for?!" ? When he's not playing, he's watching OTHER people play on Youtube - there are actual tournaments for large amounts of money, and he will watch other people play computer games, with someone actually being paid to commentate and present, for hours.

He's also obsessed with wine. Not in an alcoholic way, and I quite like wine myself, but he and his brother and dad will spend entire meals talking about the wine, reminiscing about other wine, planning what wine to buy next... They even try to make SiL and me play games like "Guess where this wine is from?" (and I don't mean "France," I mean "the left bank of the lower Loire valley near Chateau blahdiblah") and "Guess which wine is the most expensive?" which I am inevitably terrible at. I wonder if some of it is because I find it all so tedious I just subconsciously refuse to try and learn.

He also loves rugby but I don't mind that because I quite like it myself!

God loads. Marvel comic, DC comics, football and wrestling. I find all of them rather dull and pointless. He threatens at intervals to buy a X box or Playstation type thing.

It could be worse as my borther used to love those Warhammer games with little figures. He used to build scenery and everything. Proper geeky!

My former housemate was into that. I would go into his room and he'd be sat at his desk under a lamp painting the tiny little men. I dunno how he had the patience.

My H2B does play computer games and recently bought a PlayStation 4, but I wouldn't describe it as an obsession. He doesn't play online or with friends, and will happily stop when asked. In fact I'm probably more obsessed with Simpsons Tapped Out than he is with any of his games!

Motorbikes. When I met him, he had 3 - a Motoguzzi in bits, a Honda Fireblade, and an Aprilia sports tourer. And he had a scooter. Then he sold the Fireblade & the Aprilia, and bought a brand new Ducati. That was loads of fun. Now that we live in a flat, he's sold them all (impressively rebuilding the Guzzi) as we no longer have a garage, and bought a new Motoguzzi California, which is lovely. We've been on lots of bike holidays - and I'm like Kochanski, The girly bit of me thinks its super-cool. But on the other hand, he spends hours on bike forums, watching videos, amd watching the motogp. but i guess i'm an enabler - our honeymoon will be a bike tour round italy, and i'm paying for us to go to the Mugello GP the day after we arrive in Tuscany as it's also the day before his birthday.