Don't Tell the Bride

I've just started watching it on iplayer, I'll report back!

I love it. I just can't figure out why someone would hand over their wedding to partner without at least having some discussions that put them on the same page even if they pretend not. Last night. Was that the dress from Thailand and the runway fashion show ones.

Didn't see the Thailand one but yes, the new one was the fashion show.

I felt SO SO bad for her.

She handled the dress and the BM outfits so well, but I'm not surprised she burst into tears when she saw the models!

Apparently when you apply, you have to come up with some outrageous idea and then you're bound my contract to follow it through.

I can never figure out how genuine it all is. Sometimes they seem to show the groom in a right mess and then on the day the room is filled with flowers, decorations and cakes etc and I wonder whether a) he was actually quite organised and was edited to look otherwise or b) he really was a complete mess and the production team helped out a lot?

I can't say I'd ever go on there! I also preferred the earlier episodes when there wasn't always a theme and just average 'joe bloggs' type couples - but I guess themes make more entertaining television and there just aren't enough people that like watching weddings because - weddings!

I agree - I much preferred when it was just average people!

Everyone lately seems to have children, too. I get that a lot of people don't always wait until marriage to have kids, but I have to wonder whether these people would have gotten married at all if they couldn't do it for free?

I think the production team help more than you think, which is a shame. They're cancelling it anyway though when they take BBC Three off the air next year

I think I would rather have no wedding than what usually ends up being a joke wedding just so someone else pays for it. Don't get me wrong in the past some of the grooms have pulled off something lovely but as said lately its a nightmare wedding. And the brides seem surprised???

I know - there was one a few weeks ago and she admitted that he couldn't organise ANYTHING

And then she was upset that he'd forgotten to book her hair and makeup, forgotten this, forgotten that... what did she expect?!

I also don't like that the Brides get to have a wobbler now and change the dress if they hate it - that's not the idea!!

Yes I thought they had to stick to the budget. Often they have spent it all yet the money is found for another dress. My oh is wonderful and knows me quite well and I would never in a million years let him totally organise a wedding with the help of a friend. Lol.

I actually would trust my husband to have done this for me, I often think he knows me even better than I know myself!!

Well I asked my oh a few weeks ago if we went on the programme what he would arrange. Bearing in mind our wedding is 3 weeks away. He said he would get me a nice A line dress (I'm wearing a mermaid type as he knows and we got rid of the second hand A line as looked awful on me) and he would book a posh black tie event in a hotel or stately home type place. We are eloping in the Ice Chapel in Lapland. Which did confuse me somewhat lol. He said he loves our wedding but if it wasn't already booked he would never have thought of it.

it's not being cancelled- just moving to sky: /news/newsbeat-****

hope that helps make the sad face happy

I love Don't tell the bride, and the schadenfreude of it. What's worse is, if I tell the OH that someone is crying in the pre-clip of it, he wants to watch it! If it's a nice one then he can't be bothered.

I get why some people do go on it, lack of funds is tempting if you have little financially, others are just "look at me I'm on tele" types. I would trust him, I know about the 3 weeks legality of churches, so probably wouldn't be in one, the rest I'd say he'd have done a better job, we were watching it just after I bought my dress, and I asked him what he would put me in, near enough described what I had bought perfectly.

Obviously it's semi scripted and producers have more than a helping hand, but why don't the women say (maybe they do) the opposite, ie if they want a stately home, say that's the last thing they want. As it's supposed to create drama etc. Only reason for having a tiff at the dress is if it really doesn't fit. I do remember one, years ago, she had told him exactly what she wanted, and he listened, and duly got, unfortunately her mind had changed while trying on different dresses (always happens) and her mum just saying tough, you asked for plain, you are going to get plain, maybe you shouldn't have been so insistent.

This is what we always say - we would actually love to see a Wedding though where the Bride REALLY hated traditional stuff and that's what she got, but alas.

I remember the one with the girl who got what she wanted - I felt so sorry for the Groom! He did everything right, bless him, and still did wrong

I definitely think I could trust h2b with it. He knows how much I like tradition so I know he'd pick well. He thinks I'll go for a 'big dress' because he thinks I'll feel fat in a Mermaid dress (he was so SO right - I didn't even end up trying one on, I felt SO comfortable in my big dress!) and he reckons it'll be lace and strapless (nailed it)

Just caught up on this week's episode!! It was AWFUL - I would have had the same reaction as the bride. However, I think it is SO obvious that the bride has had some sort of discussion with her groom before the show, funny how the first thing she said when she saw her dress was "oh its like a runway dress!"

Yes, I thought that was an odd comment. I liked the idea of the dress, but I thought it was a bit odd.

I hate it. I used to watch some of the older ones when the guys just planned normal weddings but now it's just ridiculous. Some of the brides hate everything the groom has done but when it gets to the day have to pretend to be happy even though it's obvious they're not. Why anyone goes on it is beyond me (£12,000 for something you end up hating, I'd rather pop to the registry office and then have a buffet at home).

The producers are well know for having a lot of influence in what's going on, so if it's going too well then they will manufacture a scenario to make sure there is some drama. I know if I'd have given the job of organising the wedding to H he would have done a good job although the details would be very different from what I'd do, but we wouldn't have even got on the show because his ideas wouldn't have been outrageous enough.

They were both into fashion weren't they? I didn't find the dress or the comment odd given that they'd already said they were both into that.

I didn't like the models in the parade though that was just odd.

I'd trust my OH 100% to organise our day he's been so involved anyway, I'm sure I'd not be disappointed.