Don't you just love gratefull children?

Nice, do her parents know she's sending out these messages? Presumably not?

Her mother would be so doped on meds for her depression and anxiety and in ability to sleep that she would have gone to bed at 5/6 o'clock and she gets her attitude from her father who hates his wifes side of the family as they expect him to actually look after his wife instead of being an arsehole and spemding all of his time relaxing after looking after his wife.

Did she use that phrase? Ungrateful little cow - it would be the most boring book I could lay my hands on next year if I were you (actually I don't know if I'd bother with anything at all).

Have you forwarded it on to her parents yet?

What?! Well, how rude! I would be livid and I would certainly be discussing her ungratefulness with her parents.

My god, how rude! How old is she?

When we were little we had to write thank you notes for anyone who had bought us a present. My nieces don't do this but I'm getting used to it!

I tend not to discuss anything with him after I heard him informing FIL that if the kids were younger and it was a choice he would have SIL put away in a hospital as he would get better benifits if he had the kids on his own.Kids live with FIL and MIL, eldest is coming up 16 and she has decided that when she turns 16 she is going home to her dad as he won't make her do things she doesn't want to.

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How rude!

I'd get her bath bombs next year (and hope that they only have a shower).

So it was the 16 year old that sent the message? Their circumstances sound difficult, however that said she must have been able to get away with that attitude and such comments without actually coming up against anyone who challenged it (presumably out of sympathy for her situation?) so, personally, I think I'd still be saying something.

I like that idea or maybe a big box with nothing in it?

Or a book on manners?

Well that's easily solved don't bother next year. Ungrateful little madam.

Sx

The poor kid clearly has issues, but that's no excuse for rudeness. I would reply apologising for the "tattyness" of the present and asking her to return it as clearly it wasn't up to scratch. I would then tell her, that she would no longer be receiving gifts from me until she apologised and realised that she was lucky to have any present at all.

Kids today make me mad!!!!!

Or just a copy of her email.

How rude of her, I would be livid if I found out either of my children had sent such rude note / email or whatever!

You definitely need to tell her parents. That's just unforgiveable. I'd be seething.

Im a child at 15 myself so i know what its like, but atleast im not that mean sending out messages saying stuff like that.

when i get it i just go, "hehe thanks nan " or something like that.

My mother taught me manners ^.^

I suggest replying to her, quoting the original email, and saying that you were sorry that the watch wasn't what she wanted, and since she clearly disliked it so much, perhaps she could return it?

And in case she needs advice about how to go about returning it, pre-emptively copy in her parents. ?

I just spat tea reading this.. fark me pink.

Well I would not bother next year getting her anything, 16 is the age of an adult, therefore I would just reply saying, sorry its not what you wanted but don't worry as your an adult in 2009, I won't be buying anymore gifts for you.

In contrast I got a text this evening from my friend's daughter (7) thanking me for her and her wee brothers presnets (sic).

The girls have lived with PIL's for the last 7 years so she probably does have some issues.For the first year of this arrangement the mom flitted in and out and the dad refused to come and see the kids as it was too hard to get there on the bus as he can't drive so the PIL were making the trip 2 or 3 times a week, its about 20 miles or two bus routes.

The major problem she has is that granma will cave at the slightest hint of attutude so she can basically do what she wants, the only people who don't is hubby, he just ignores her attitude, and me.For which I have been called allsorts by her.The best being I wouldn't drive her to Cardiff with her boyfriend as they wanted to go to a concert.That got some choice names in an email.Her excuse was that I was going to go to wales to drop some things off for my dad, I used to do the run twice a weekish.If she had asked if I minded or asked if I would then I would probably have but to be told I was was another matter.

My three have spent the afternoon writing thank you letters.Well the eldest wrote, the middle drew and the youngest ate them.

? Neice sounds like a total brat - although from the background you describe it sounds slightly more complicated than that. (ie, if she hasn't been given boundries and consequences.) Definately one to strike off the Christmas present list next year - and I wouldn't be bothered with doing her any more favours, either.

I am wondering what you got from her, and if there is a point to be made in reply there?

I'm not sure I'd bother showing the parents if it won't do any good. Tbh, at 16 I'd say she's old enough for you to speak to yourself. I would call her, tell her directly that she is a very rude little girl (emphasis on little girl, because I'm sure she thinks she's soooooo grown up) and that you won't be sending her any more gifts.

And then cull.

And here I was today saying (half-jokingly) that I hadn't heard from my niece so didn't know if her present (posted) had arrived or not and couldn't she have at least sent a text message. Reading this I'm thinking I'm lucky to have my niece, not yours! What a little brat. Tell her if she doesn't like the gift she can give it back, and don't buy her anything else - ever!