Dress codes, do or dont?

You and I are so similar in cabbages FTLOMB. To the OP If you are being serious, do you think these people will WANT to be at your "up yourslef wedding" as other posters have suggested go off on your own and then you only have to worrry about what you look like.

me too. Is her groom called Paddy?

Ooo, thats bit harsh hun! There are some beautiful short dresses that look elegant and classy - unfortunately you just cant dictate things like skirt length to your guests - i can promise you that even if you did there would still be people who will just come dressed how they like, would you turn them away? If you're worried put something light-hearted on the invites like 'dress code - classy!'

I would like to say that I wear above the knee skirts and I DO NOT in anyway look like a sl*t/hooker/bike whatever you wana call it.

But I think we all at least can think of one guest who may dress like this and there's nothing we can do about it.

However I think some hitchers on here can be really mean when they dont like the questions asked... especially when they cant possibly know what the personal lives of others are actually like.

Replying to all who have said 'why invite them?' We have 25 guests. (one is a plus one) She is also my OH's sister. Yes, he holds the same opinion as me. Think I will be putting 1950's as a theme on invites. My first wedding was out of my control, and tbh I would like my 'perfect' day this time around. Thank you for the helpful posts.xx

I haven't and am now extremely curious ?

Well, if you don't give the whole story/reason, you won't get a fully-formed opinion.

I have and they were legendary.

For the curious: https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/258482.aspx

That girl is modest compared to my future SIL, she has gone to a birthday party for a friends 18th in literaly a bra and french knickers. She's very Jodie Marsh/Jordan, wears short (just under buttocks) dresses as every day wear. Hope that puts more of a perspective on her dress sense for people.

Actually, no. He's called Alex, and we aren't travellers.

Classy!! We had a similar situation with my groomsmans GF. She actually went back to the hotel and changed after the church as people were staring at her. Hers was as short as that, but strapless and skin tight with bright pink hooker shoes. To a catholic church wedding.

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This. If she dresses inappropriately, people will be judging her not you.

Sounds like even if you put a 'theme' on the invitation she will wear what she likes anyway. Someone suggested a great phrase for suggesting people follow a theme in their outfits without sounding prescriptive on the previous' no black' thread.

Rather than tell her she can't be in the photos, can you just ask the photographer to always place her so her outfit isn't too obvious and take plenty without her in them so you can avoid choosing them. You never know, there might be some good group shots with her. As annoying as you find her dress sense, it really is out of your control and you should try to come to terms with it now so it doesn't spoil your day or cause problems between her and you and your OH.

In my cabbage, if she is happy and confident in her choice of attire, it really isn't kind of someone to denigrate her for those choices or make value judgements about her. I would only worry if her behaviour could genuinely spoil the day, then I just wouldn't invite her.

Sometimes you can't win. We didn't put any dress code on the invitations (since although it would be nice if people dressed nicely, I really don't care that much as long as they turn up and now people are asking what to wear! One bloke said "jeans and tshirt or full suit and tie?". Well, errm, neither really, but surely work that out for yourself.

We've said "Hog roast and ceilidh reception". Now, you'd think people would think "hmmm, ceilidh, let's wear shoes we can dance in and no we don't have to wear tuxes, but wedding reception, so maybe those ripped jeans aren't quite the thing". But no! Ah well, they will wear what they will wear!

Nice vest, Swanley! ?