Dress doubts and confusion

I also got a dress completely different from what I thought I wanted, so I share your feeling of "Have I done the right thing???".

If I were you, I would go and try it on again in the shop - perhaps taking your other sister and OH's sister if you're still happy for them to see it - and see how you feel, then go from there. I wouldn't do anything hasty, or even mention to the shop owner that you're having doubts. Just go and try it on again and be sure.

x x x

I don't think there is any harm in calling the shop and talking to the sales lady. After all you won't be the first bride to have a wobble about her dress and you certainly won't be the last. If your going to spend the whole day in this dress you need to feel comfortable in it, and if you don't have a lot of confidence anyway, your not going to feel comfortable? I've heard of many brides that have been unsure of their initial 'dress decision' and have transferred their deposit to another dress. Its definitley worth a try. Hope it works out for you xx

Definitely no problem to ask to go back and try it on again. I did that several times in one shop, while I was still choosing!

Maybe go on your own this time, so you can get a truer idea of how you really feel about it? It can be hard sometimes when you have people with you who are maybe offering their own personal opinions - it can be helpful, but sometimes you need to make up your own mind quietly first, if you know what I mean.

The 2nd time I tried my dress on was definately the most important to me - the 1st time I found pretty overwhelming, getting tied up in this dress then sponges shoved down my back in the next...you're thinking about wether you're making the right decision, if you're deciding too quickly, if your supposed to feel this 'the one' feeling. ?

Definately recommend giving the shop a ring and asking to try it on again - when you next put it on & all your concentration is on 1 dress you will know if you love it or not

WSS. I found the presence of my girls a bit overpowering on occasion and had to keep telling myself (and being told by the shop ladies who had obviously seen all this before a million times) that the important thing was what *I* thought and how *I* felt in my dress. Go back, try it on, see what you really feel. You'll probably find you still really like it, but if there's any part of you that's not sure, ask the lady if you can move the deposit if you find another dress you prefer. This seems to be quite common; it's not as if the shop's losing out on anything if you choose another dress from there. If they don't have anything else you like, that's where you have to make a decision. Do you stay with your first choice, or do you lose your deposit and look elsewhere?

Hope you try it on again and fall in love with it! Maybe it was just remembering the stress of everyone else being there that's clouding your thoughts? x

Thank you to you all! I am going to make another appointment to go and try the dress on by myself and then possibly take the other bridesmaids who I know will be brutally honest.

The lady in the shop seems a little funny. She called this morning chasing the payment for my dress. Originally she advised I could pay off the remaining balance on the dress up to the day I take it away. She is now saying that because it was a sample dress they need the full payment. She has assured me it has been taken off of the shelf though! I'm not too worried as I have the money in savings but I am a bit concerned about raising the possible issue of transfering the deposit

Been in touch with the lady at my shop and she has said that the deposit cannot be transferred as it was a sale dress and has been off the shelf for 6 weeks. It wasnt in the sale it was the sample dress! Also she didnt tell me what the deposit amount should be, when I asked how much she just said 'What can you put down'. I put down £250. I dont know what a normal deposit would be.

Anyway I have made another appointment to go and try the dress on but I am even more worried that I will not like it

Can you get the pics from your sister and put them on here, so we can see ?

I think dress wobbles are pretty normal so don't worry too much

Hi have you tried it on with all the other things you plan to wear? All my bits apart dont wow me, but when I put them all togother I then get that wow feeling, I had my first dress fitting a few weeks back and I put my veil on also and in all honesty I thought it looked a little crap! Then I remembered that I had my head band on first when I tried the veil, when I first picked it and thats what tied it all togther for me.

Ok here is my first attempt at a flash.... the top is pinned as I have asked for a sweet heart neckline.

That's gorgeous - your figure looks great in it! But I know however much people tell you that, it's you that has to believe that before your wobbles will go away (which are completely normal!). I think the sweetheart neckline is a great alteration, looks perfect with with style. Seriously - I had dress wobbles too, but when I went back in to try it for the second time, I really felt much more certain in my choice

Firstly you look gorgeous! You have a lovely figure and the dress suits you beautifully.

If its any consolation I went and tried on the sample of my dress on four months after my dress had been ordered - then decided I hated it ️?️ - it was too big and therefore not giving me any shape. I was also having an off day where I was feeling pretty crap about my self.

I have now tried MY dress on in my size and I LOVE it.

Most of us go through dress wobbles, I think the secret is to work out why you are having those wobbles. Is it the dress or is it how you feel about your self? Once you have worked it out then you can address it.

You really do look stunning though x

Teeny tiny waist, fabulous norks and a very flattering dress.

No wobbles required.

Wow! I think that looks gorgeous on you.

I love the adjustment with the sweetheart line. It all falls beautifully on you with your lovely curvy figure.

You go girl!!! ?

xxxx

Exactly WSS! You look gorgeous. I love the bling!

Gorgeous, stop your wobbles immediately.

Sweetheart neckline suits your figure perfectly and the bust detailing is beautiful.

It's also very flattering, you have nothing to wobble about. Seriously.

Thank you everyone, you have definitely made me feel better. I'm so glad I've found Hitched. Have a great weekend!

I had a bit of this too really... I had picked the dress I really wanted from the shops catalogue and when I got there I didn't even try it on, they didn't hold it at that branch. I fell in love with something else, paid the deposit, took some photos, then started worrying! The photos didn't do it justice at all and I went for a really big dress, I kept worrying that I should have gone for something more fitted and elegant, as I'm only 22 and didn't wantto make myself look younger... all these doubts went through my head, and in the end I ignored them as it was already being made and I was worrying myself silly for no reason.

When I'd ordered the dress they'd only had a size 14 which is 2 sizes too big so that was another worry, I was hoping it was going to look OK when it was in my size. And when I went for my fitting I completely fell in love all over again! I now have no doubts at all and know I made the right choice.

it's such a massive part of the day, I think it's completely natural to worry about wether it is the right decision or not - after all, you will only wear one wedding dress in your life! I would go back and try it on again, as that will either settle all your worries and make you feel better, or it will tell you you've made the wrong decision and you can try to sort it out. You don't want to leave it longer and get yourself upset over it!

PS I think it looks stunning on you xxx

Gorgeous dress, who's it by?

You look great!

The dress looks stunning on you!

I wouldn't worry too much- I think its normal to start doubting it! I only ordered my yesterday and although I absolutely loved it and didn't want to take it off I'm having doubts again. I think you just have to remember that there was a reason why you and the others loved it so much, otherwise you wouldn't have picked it in the first place! Trust yourself! x

Sorry only just seen this. It is Maggie Sottero - Adelaide