Dress panic

If you click on the photo reel rather than the picture of the tree that should come up with the option you need.

I had a similar(ish) experience in that I tried on 2 dresses at a wedding fair that I loved and I had a definite favourite but couldn't choose between the two, the lady who was there said that if you can't decide you haven't found 'the one' but I was still really keen on them both so took photos and went away. The one I thought I was leaning towards looked AWFUL in the photos and that made my decision for me and I ended up finding a dress somewhere else.

If it felt like it could be the one though perhaps you could go back on your own, have the lady pull it in and get another member of staff to take a photo, or some shops have clips so you can see what it would look like?

Thank you.. I'm so confused! Like you said the woman in the shop said.. If I feel like this it obviously isn't the one?

Any opinions welcome!

Oh and this is the picture from the website of what it's supposed to look like! It's the Mori Lee 6788

It's a lovely dress and you can see it's far too big on you! Has a deposit actually been put down then or is that just what your sister thought. For what it's worth as well, I don't think I had a 'the one' moment with my dress, didn't cry or anything it was just the best one I tried on out of about 40 or so!

No I haven't put a deposit down... I think I do maybe need to go back and have a picture with it pulled in. I just thought you were supposed to have that moment where you just "know" and I don't seem to have that at all! I looked at so many pictures online and chose dresses I liked, and none of them looked anything like that when I tried them on! I wasn't expecting it to be this difficult xx

It's a stunning dress! I bet it looks fab when it's in your size. You say it isn't what you thought you'd go for, what did you expect to go for? You have to feel beautiful in your dress though, you should definitely go and try it again, take pics of it pulled in, and maybe try some other styles too x

It is very bouffy (not a real word). Which is fine if that's what you like, but you should definitely try some other styles before making any decisions! It's not unflattering and you don't look huge, but you know, the more options the better.

I think the dress is gorgeous and would look lovely when in your size. However, when you find the dress, you know and its so exciting....... Maybe this is not the one for you?

I never wanted anything that "big" - I always imagined more column kind of shaped dresses, very plain and elegant, but none of them looked right on me at all. My stomach was swollen
on the day I went shopping so I didn't feel my best, but in a way it was good because I could see how the dresses would look if my endometriosis does flare up on the day! The lady in the dress shop suggested the "dropped waist" style and they did seem to suit me more, this one was the best. I felt happy with it on the day I'm just not sure now! At the moment I just feel like I'm never going to find anything I'm really happy with! X

I never wanted anything that big - I always imagined more column kind of shaped dresses, very plain and elegant, but none of them looked right on me at all. My stomach was swollen
on the day I went shopping so I didn't feel my best, but in a way it was good because I could see how the dresses would look if my endometriosis does flare up on the day! The lady in the dress shop suggested the dropped waist style and they did seem to suit me more, this one was the best. I felt happy with it on the day I'm just not sure now! At the moment I just feel like I'm never going to find anything I'm really happy with! X

Don't buy it because your sister likes it. Buy it because you love it, you're the one who has to wear it. I think you should carry on looking and try on lots of styles to find out what you like. It is too big on you yes. You don't say if it's the first time you've been shopping but if it is then why not keep on looking?

If you don't feel it's the dress for you then don't buy it, you'll know when it is. Don't be pressured into buying a dress.

Listen to what your sister has to say by al lmeans but it's your decision and it's how you feel that matters. If bloating/swelling is likely to be a real problem on the day then you do need to factor that in. A tight column style dress could be very uncomfortable if you do happen to have a flare up on the day. I love the dress in the pic but it is clearly way too big, I'd suggest going to another shop and trying to find a similar style in a size that does better fot so you can get more of an idea. It can be so hard whenthey're not a close enough size x

Actually, not everyone does. And telling people they should just makes people feel worse when they don't. I tried on lots of dresses and never had that feeling. I still don't when I try the dress on.

To the OP - if you really aren't sure and you have time carry on looking around but you may be like lots of other B2B on here who don't get that 'OMG' Disney-like moment. However, from what you have said it sounds like you were coerced into what you sister and mother think you should look like rather than what you want. The dress is lovely but very pouffey (I'm stealing ID's word) if you weren't wanting something like that.

If you're unsure, then I think you should keep on looking. The dress is absolutely stunning but if you don't feel 100% princess, then you should maybe try on a few more. Even if trying on a few more makes you like this one better, if that makes sense? More than anything you'll want to feel comfortable on the day

I didn't get that wow moment, but I love my dress. I am still having wobbles, but all I do is google images and look at other dresses in my size and that way, I am reassured that there is nothing else that I like as much. Not helped at the moment by the fact that my favourite dress shop has a half price sale on and I desperately want to go and try on more dresses!! I think, it's all about how you feel wearing it. Do you feel how you want to feel? Like a princess, or like a bride, or like a punk rocker in a video shoot? I wanted to feel like a princess and that's what I got from my dress. I get it back from the seamstress today and I can't wait to try it on again.

x

Excellent point MrsCWB. Not everyone buys into that princess thing - I certainly never had any desire to feel like a princess. I want to feel like a cool glam 60s girl about town and hopefully when my dress is finished, I will!

Have you tried a few different shops? If not it might be worth just incase they have other styles that you like! I do think the dress is lovely but worry that you would regret it if you aren't entirely happy with it. I have a similar issue in that I have a bigger waist in comparison to the rest of me and also have bloated stomach days. The dress I've picked is ALine but its got sweeping ruffles across the front and makes the world of difference, I don't feel self conscience at all in it and that's what is important to me.

i think you should try other shops and then try the dress again and see how you feel x

I think the dress is gorgeous & you look lovely in it. If you are feeling unsure, go to another shop, try on some more dresses then go back & try thus one on.x

It is good point made by the others....think how you want to feel as well as look and you will know when you find the right dress for you. I don't think I ever wanted to look or feel princessy. I wanted a glamorous and elegant Hollywood movie star, a la Marilyn Monroe, and when I realised that is what I wanted, the rest became easy!!

Don't rush if it isn't right for you....there is a dress out fhere that is perfect!

Thank you so much for all your comments everyone! You've all been so helpful

Thinking about what I want to feel like is a really good idea... I hadn't even thought about that really. I know I want to feel like I look amazing... But that doesn't necessarily mean I have to feel like a princess! I'm going to have a good think about that before I go dress shopping again and hopefully it will be easier with a better idea of what I want. I think I was just expecting to walk into a shop and have the perfect dress jump out at me!!

Thank you all again xx

Thank you so much for all your comments everyone! You've all been so helpful

Thinking about what I want to feel like is a really good idea... I hadn't even thought about that really. I know I want to feel like I look amazing... But that doesn't necessarily mean I have to feel like a princess! I'm going to have a good think about that before I go dress shopping again and hopefully it will be easier with a better idea of what I want. I think I was just expecting to walk into a shop and have the perfect dress jump out at me!!

Thank you all again xx