Dress wobble! Have you had/are you having one

I bought a dress shortly after we got engaged. It was during a sale and there was a lot of "if you don't buy it today it'll be gone tomorrow, if you want it you have to buy it now" from the sales woman. I was 100% sure it was the one but in the months after I bought it I began to see things I didn't like about it and found myself wondering what kind of dress would have been better. By the time 3/4 months had passed I hated the dress and was worrying constantly about having to wear it. I decided I wanted to get a new dress as I knew I would never be happy in that dress and it was genuinely causing me a lot of anxiety and stress thinking that I would have to. My h2b completely disagreed and didn't want me to get another one because of the money but I told him I was so sure I needed another that I would pay for a new one from my own money rather than our wedding money. I bought another dress and I couldn't be happier, I absolutely love it and I'm so excited to wear it on the day. H2b still isn't over the moon about it but has accepted that it was my decision. My advice: don't buy a second dress too soon, try on as many styles as you can to eliminate any other 'I wonder...' thoughts. Then if you're sure, get the second dress. Hope you fun a solution. Sorry about any typos I don't have time to read it through. Supposed to be getting ready for work!

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I absolutely agree with this!

i love my dress, but had only 1 day shopping and had to buy that day as it was a sample. My only niggle is other dresses were more flattering to my shape, but I am fat-everyone knows that-so I've just accepted that. It doesn't make me look fatter anyway! Likewise, there is only so much a dress can do. I went with the dress I felt most comfortable in, and that I liked rather than the one that made me look slimmest.

I am hoping to lose some weight, not sure I will as I'm not in the zone, but i know once hair/face/shoes etc are sorted I will still feel special in it

Can I just say as a previous size 20 lady don't call yourself fat and horrible names your curvey gorgeous and your partner loves you. You have every right to wear what makes you feel special. Your size isn't a surprise to anybody so you need to (sorry I'm about to sound so rude and horrid) just accept you are as you are. You do need to consider truly though is it really the dress you feel like this about or do you feel bad about you. I did buy a second dress .. and returned it in the end as when it came down to it I couldn't find one I liked more my dress possibly wasn't the one but I couldn't find the ultimate

I had a dress wobble, but I'm not sure my story will make you feel better as I ended up buying a second dress!
Firstly, I feel I should point out that your size will not make you look silly. My wedding dress is a size 18 and I feel absolutely amazing in it, not one bit silly or self conscious

I bought my original dress around March time, I'd seen it on-line and loved it and went dress shopping with my mum and FMIL specifically to try on this dress. I had a quick look at a few others but I knew what I wanted. I tried it on, thought it was incredible, and bought it when I found it in a sale.
I then started having doubts about my dress a few months after, and it didn't help that my FMIL described it as being "a bit tent like" when we telling my FFIL about it. I'd also bought it a size smaller thinking I'd lose weight which was making me anxious.

I then went shopping with my MOH around October time and we noticed that there was a sale on in one of the bridal shops so we popped in to look at veils & shoes. It was really quiet and one of the assistants asked if we wanted to try any dresses on as she was bored! My MOH and I figured it would be a laugh so she picked some for me and so did the assistant.
After I'd tried on 2 dresses I was ready to cry, I no longer loved my dress and realised that I should have tried on others before making my decision. So I tried on a few more and then the assistant brought a dress into the fitting room and said she thought it would be "The One". It was nothing like I wanted as it was fitted, strapless, had no lace etc.
Still I tried it anyway ... saw myself in the mirror and then I did start crying as it was totally perfect. It was the right fit, it held in everything that needed holding in and gave the illusion of a figure plus it had a bit of sparkle.
I bought it there and then and am so happy I did

xx

I'm going through dress wobbles at the moment but I know the dress I've gone for really suits my shape and I can't afford another so I'm stuck with it!

Thanks for all of your replies!
Luckily I've not chosen mine as a sample dress or anything so the money I've paid to the bridal shop can be transferred onto another dress.
I tried about 15 dresses on when I was looking and to be honest (not big headed) most of not all suited me but obviously some looked better than others.
We were about to leave the shop and my mum said just try this last one on. It was a ample size that actually fitted so we could get a real feel for it. I really really liked it and as my bridesmaid said 'it makes your waist look tiny' to me now it just seems like the kind of dress 1000s of brides where every year. Nothing overly special about it but it was comfy and very flattering. Pretty too.
Anyway I've fallen for a picture of another dress and as it's buy the sage designer with similar attributes to the one I have chosen I like it but it just makes me grin from ear to ear every time I see it. So I've got to go and try it. I know it might look like anything even it goes on. But I'm going to give it a whirl!
Wish me luck xx

I think I'm the only bride who hasn't had a dress wobble yet. Should I be worried?

I do think you know if a dress is wrong for you, but I'm not sure we always know when it's right or the best one and we see so many lovely gowns that it's not unreasonable that most of us will wonder.

I had a minor dress wobble, but only because it had been 10 months since I'd seen it and I've seen so many stunning dresses; I think you can then question your choice and for some it is a very real question. For me, when my dress came in, I was really nervous about seeing it rather than excited because I was worried I wouldn't be blown away with it, especially as I was spending such a lot of money on it, prob three/four times my original budget, but when I saw it hanging there I became all really really giddy again and love it.

My next wobble though is trying it on again. I'm terrified it will be too small. I haven't lost the weight I wanted to but I am on a real drive now and don't have my first fitting until 10th Feb. I'm hopeful that it will be either very comfy or a tad too big by then. I want the figure the sample gave me lol. I do not want a fat back!!

The right dress will make the most of your figure, whatever shape or size you might be, stick thin or generously proportioned and all the variations in between. There is a dress that's right for you but just because you don't go wow and burst into tears doesn't mean it's not the right dress. We all respond in different ways. I didn't cry, but I do know I have the dress that I love. You will know too if the new dress you are looking at is the right dress for you. It does sound like you're not fully happy with the dress you've chosen in which case you need to look around some more. But a word of caution, have you checked with the shop that they will let you transfer your deposit to another dress, another bride only the other day was telling us that her boutique will not let her tranfer her deposit, so if you haven't confirmed this please do.

For me, its not just about the dress, it's about me and my weight.

I am a size 18 and I feel so uncomfortable, I took meds last year which made me put on 2 stone!

I got my dress in a 16 and am determined to get in it and also get myself some confidence along the way.

I never did the whole wedding dress shopping, as I didn't feel comfortable but I've always known how to dress my size and shape.

I'm very much a pear shape so looked at A-Line dresses and then I stumbled across a Maggie Sottero one.

It was very similar to ones I have seen and loved in the past and was an absolute bargain so bought it.

I do have days when I umm and arr about have I made the right choice.

The thing is wedding dresses are a big thing, yes. BUT life goes on around a wedding and you have to take in to account, money issues, weight issues, and so much more.

I stick by the saying it's about the bride IN the dress, not the dress itself. Whether you spend £100 or £1000 it really doesn't matter.

I feel my dress might be too plain, but then as soon as I go to add a sash or something it doesn't feel like me.

HO HUM.

Ive had the same thing, i tried on all the dresses i thought i loved but they just dont look right on me. the consultant gave me a dress i originally said no to trying on as the top is satin, which im not fond off.

i tried it on and loved it, didnt want to take it off lol.

got home and went to find a picture to show one of my bridesmaid and hated how it looked. then i started thinking id made the wrong decision, combined with the fact my mum bought it and it was a lot of money i started freaking out. i do love my dress but it was the 3rd dress i tried on and im always thinking, is there something else out there for me.

i do love my dress though.

im struggling with my weight. i use to take some medication and put 3 stone on. i came off the medication and lost the 3 stone. im now going back on and im so scared i'll put it back on. im a size 14 at the moment but want to drop down to a 12.

Not so much a dress wobble but I think with having found my dress very quickly (third wedding dress i had ever tried on!) and similarly to alot of other curvy girls, it was the one that made me feel smallest as it was the one that zipped up perfectly and was a perfect fit etc so now i'm worrying if i picked it only because it was the only one in my size that i could get a good idea of how it would look on the day without having to hold it into place! I'm off to try it on again today so I have my fingers crossed that I still get the wow moment. Also my mum is free to come this time so hopefully her re-assurance with confirm that I have made the right decision! Jokingly asked OH last night if i could have 2 dresses and he said no :'( bohoo!

I had dress wobbles a couple of weeks ago thinking i was missing out because i didnt have a big princess dress. I havnt tried my dress on in 10 months tho so i am putting it down to that. If you havnt tried it for a while you might just be forgetting the feeling you had when you 1st tried it on. Is there no way you can go and re try it on?

xx

Just wanted to post to hopefully add a bit of reassurance!

Like some of the other ladies who have posted above, I was convinced I didn't like my dress and actually made an appointment to try on some of the sale dresses at the shop I bought my dress from (as I really couldn't afford another full priced one!)

When I went in they were really supportive and were asking why I didn't like my dress any more.

It turned out that when I'd first tried the dress on, they'd really pinned me into it to give it a proper shape. When my dress arrived and I tried it, they didn't pin it and that's when I decided I didn't like it. It was my size but wasn't doing the right things for me. Once they did the alterations so that it fit me perfectly, I loved it again.

There will be a reason why you loved the dress enough to buy it, and once it arrives and they make it fit you perfectly then you'll remember why.