Dressing the same...

I am no etiquette expert but would say it is up to you - are you close to your SD? Do you consider him part of your wedding party? Would your mum be upset if you left him out? Go with what feels right. ?

We're not overly close but he's been with my mother for 10 years. She get ridiculously tetchy about silly little things and expects me to look at him as a dad which I find difficult as I am very much a 'daddy's girl'! I think the fact that my dad and mums relationship has never been shall we say, courteous, I have always found things like this uncomfortable....I feel like if I asked him to dress the same I would be doing it for my mums benefit and that's not right is it?

i think I may have just answered my own question eh? Haha!

Thanks for the advice though! ?

I know you said you have answered your own question there but maybe if you think your mum might get upset about it you should offer him the option to wear the same as the other guys just to keep the peace. Thats what i have done, im not the biggest fan of my stepfather hes been with my mum for 19 years and they have 3 children together so i have given him the option so to keep everyone happy, its not breaking my budget as all the groomsmen are paying for thier own suit hire.

Thanks for your input! I think that's what I may do. Our men are also paying for their own suit hire.

Thanks!!

It just saves hassle, we brides to be have enough on our plate without having to deal with others moaning about stuff! Iv been a yes woman regarding my wedding so far. there has been requests from family members that should get on my nerves but iv just said yes to them and not let them bother me!

my mums wants to wear ivory as she found a beautiful dress an she was super excited about it the bridzilla in me said n straight away but then I just thought sod it the dress is wonderful she looks beautiful in it so who am I to say what she can and cant wear.

My FILTB wanted to invite a some family members that we dont know very well who wernt origanaly invited so i just said yes and sent them an invite.

The biggie is my FILTB has invited a woman as his plus one for the evening and my MILTB has no idea hes even been seeing this woman (they are seperated lol) this is sure to cause some friction!

Im just spending my time concentrating on making sure that H2B and I are happy and we all have plenty of food alcohol and music and I keep telling myself apart from that everything else doesnt matter haha I hope it goes smoothly with my laid back attitude! That said I have had afew slight wobbles!

whens your big day?

Annoying...problem..

Did you ever take advice from your mother and see her idea?

From my view,things will go smoothly,you do not have to pay much attention to that.He can wear what he likes.

If you go and say to him,oh,you two(your father and step father)cannot wear the similar clothes,that will be hurt his feelings.You know..?

I have been the same so far, laid back, but as time goes on I'm getting worse! Getting slightly bridezilla esq! Lol our wedding isn't till next year so trying not to think about the little things too much just yet but find myself focussing on them! I'm natty and like things 'just so' haha! OH just shakes his head at me at times!