Dressing to please your OH

I dress for me, end of.

I would only ever ask Hs opinion if we were going somewhere with his friends and I was unsure of whether it was a dressy occasion or not.

Do you ever have an opinion on what your H wears MY?

Only if he asked for it, for similar reasons as mine.

He has a few tops that I'm not keen on, and I'm sure he dislikes some of my wardrobe...but I would never ask him not to wear anything, and vice versa.

I dress in what I think suits me. If I'm unsure I will ask H and he gives me honest answers. I trust him so if he says something looks awful, and I question it enough to ask him in the first place, I will take his opinion on board

I ask for OH's opinion about if he likes what I'm wearing, he's quite sickeningly adorable and says he always thinks I look lovely (possibly because I've been hibernating in a onesie for a few months ,so any clothes seem nice)

I don't buy things with him in mind, but I'm quite plain in terms of dress sense.

My H hates some of my clothes as he has told me but I don't mind as I hate some of his too! They are all casual things though. I guess that it would bother me more if I thought that I'd made an effort to look nice and he hated what I was wearing.

If we're going out together for a meal or something I won't wear something I know he hates.

Otherwise, I wear what the hell I like despite his viewpoints (which he is rather vocal with!).

I dress for me. At the moment that means in my pjs because I can't be bothered to be in proper clothes, but normally I dress in whatever I think looks best. H doesn't really say anything about my clothes. I think he would like me to wear more dresses but I don't look good in them (in my opinion) so I don't.

He often asks me to choose his clothes, but that's because he is too lazy to choose himself. I would never tell him what to wear unless asked, but to be fair he looks good in everything

He claims to like everything I wear. I think he is just to scared to tell me otherwise.

Done!

I get dressed in what I want to wear, in what makes me feel nice (if I'm going out) or comfy if I'm slobbing at home.

If we're going out together I always ask C how I look, there isn't a lot of point as he never says anything critical but it's just a habit I suppose.

Hm. Maybe I'm in the minority then! I always want to look nice for H. Thats not to say I dont have days wear I just slob in leggings and a jumper, but most of the time I like to look nice. I wouldnt wear something I didnt like just cos he does, thats not what I mean, but I do often think 'would H like this' when I dress/buy clothes.

I choose an outfit because I like it, but I would see it as a bonus if my H liked it too. I am keeping my hair long and style-less because my H likes it that way though. It makes him sad when I say I am thinking of cutting my hair, and I don't like the idea that I would be less attractive to him if I had a different hair style.

? I like to look nice too Rodders...I just do it for me though, not for anyone else.

Like Karvo my H is pretty vocal about some things I wear, if he doesn't like something he'll go on and on, but I wear it anyway more so to p1ss him off.

I don't like some things he wears and I'll tell him but he couldn't give a hoot and wears them anyway.

Occasionally he'll tell me I look nice, he's a man of very few compliments but when he does give them they are meaningful, he would never dream of telling me I looked nice if he really thought I didn't.

Ultimately, I'll wear what I want to wear. But I do dress up to impress him. What can I say? I loves it when he tells me I look gorgeous!

Oh god, neither would mine!

I tend to just wear whats comfortable day to day and my OH doesn't say anything about it but if we're going out I like to make an effort to look good, partly for him and partly for myself because it makes me feel good.

On the subject he would much prefer me in jeans and a blazer rather than a dress and heels, he's definitely more for the casual smart look rather than the dressy glam look.

I dress for me.

If I am showing cleavage, H likes it... He likes everything I wear TBH, I never ask if he likes it (as long as I like it, I don't care if he does or not), but he always tells me if he likes it.

I like what he wears, as I buy it. He likes to dress to please me, so asks me to choose what I like. His ex wife dressed him, and it looked like he fell into the Gap, tragic.

If I started dressing "fashionable", he wouldn't like it. he likes that I wear odd stuff sometimes.

exactly this

Now that I am thinking about it I do think I choose clothes to please OH, but at the same time I ensure I like them too. An example being when buying jeans (I am a size 10) he will ask extra nicely if I can get an 8 just because I have skinny legs and he doesn't like jeans being baggy on me. I will then buy the smaller size just because I know he likes it more and that makes me feel good. I like him to think I look good, and if that means buying clothes he has suggested for me then so be it!

I don't want to scare everyone with TMI but I also go out of my way to buy and wear underwear I know he will like.

Also, even with my wedding dress decision I had him in mind.

I thought this was 'normal'?! Now I am questioning everything! Haha.

Hoddy so you'll cut yourself in 2 just to please your H?

I get into the size 8's but would be comfier in a 10.... So yeah I suppose so! He has to put up with the dreaded onesies most of the time so I love to go out of my way to wear clothes he likes when I am out of the onesies! I know I sound terrible, but everyone is different.

I don't really own underwear, I would describe all of mine as lingerie, so (I guess) after I've picked what I want to buy, I probably consider on some level whether H will like it...but I do think lingerie is slightly different, as its often bought with an audience in mind. I would never have my hair a certain way for him (I've chopped it all off twice, despite H liking it long) and I certainly wouldn't be uncomfortable in my clothes to please him.

Each to their own and if it makes you feel good then great but I personally wouldn't dream of buying anything in a smaller size just to please my OH. Not to mention how uncomfortable you'd be. I wonder how he'd respond if you asked him to fit into a smaller pair of jeans ?

Claire my OH is absolutely tiny anyway, and I could imagine the look on his face if I told him to go smaller.... Ouch

I suppose as someone who suffers with low self esteem anyway it is nice to have at least one person think I look good. And it doesn't matter who else says/thinks I look nice the only opinion that matters to me is his.

H always tells me he wants me to be comfortable in whatever I am wearing. If that means me wearing leggings and a t shirt when I am at home then that's what I will do. If I buy something new I willl ask what he thinks if i am not sure and he will give me an honest opinion but he has never criticised what I wear or has any expectation of what I 'should' look like. He just wants me to be comfortable and happy.

A colleague of mine was telling me she was upset when her BF told her she was looking 'quite frumpy' these days, just out of the blue. I think this is really cruel and can't imagine anyone saying that to someone they really care about.

I'm a bit like Hoddy i suppose, most of the time i am pretty lazy in what i wear and I always seem to be in sweaty gym clothes or Pj's! so we are going out in the evening or out for the day I do tend to try and wear something i think he will like! Although strangely for a bloke he prefers me in flats to heels as i just make him laugh when i try and walk anywhere in a pair of heels/ i just end up falling flat on my face!

EWSS

Mine wouldn't generalise by insinuating I always look frumpy but he'd be quite happy to tell me that I looked frumpy on that day. Neither of us are easily offended though so we tend to be quite honest.

I just tell him that the bloke I shagged in the stationery cupboard didn't seem to mind it.

Ha! yes it's very different if you have that kind of banter with each other anyway of course.