Engagement Party issues

Hi and firstly, congratulations on your engagement! X

What a pickle. On one hand its your wedding and engagement and you can invite who you want without having to justify yourselves to anyone.

But on the other hand, its very tricky when the ones you dont want to invite are relatives or close friends.

Ifni had to invite any of the two, it would probably be the housemate. You see her all the time and might find it tricky to not invite her if you have mutual friends going.

You said you rarely see the aunt who sounds like she would just be a nuisence anyway. Dont feel obliged tominvite someone you never see just to appease your mom.

You never know, you could invite both and they may both say no. X

For me, you're not bad by hoping that your Aunt would say no for the invitation. At least, you extended an invitation for her. But, i think it would be much better if you talk with your aunt personally to settle the issues by asking her a favor not to do the things you are afraid that she might do that might ruin your dream day. I think she might be able to adjust accordingly.

Congratulations!

I think it depends how big your party is. If you are having lots of people then you could invite both and chances are you wouldn't really see them, you could spend time with the people you want there.

If your party is small. Then I would say the housemate would probably have to come. It would be tough to live with someone who has been left out.

With your Aunty- could you talk to your Mum about it? Would she understand?

Unfortunately I don't think it would do much good for the future living together if she was left out. Hopefully you can ignore her mostly? It's really tough with annoying housemates as little things get amplified.