Entrance music - not sure if I can do the song my moms asked for?

As a compromise, could you have them played whilst you sign the register? (or whatever it is you sign in Church!) You'll be a bit more composed and distracted then too.

I think it's a nice thing to do, but understand why you wouldn't want it whilst you're walking in.

I know it would be a nice thing to do for you Mum, but to be perfectly honest I'm not sure it's a great idea if it brings back such upsetting memories. This is about you and your OH getting married, and you need something uplifting to make you feel amazing as you enter the Church. I think you would be better to incorporate it somewhere else in the service; why don't you have it during the signing, or if you'd rather, have ave maria during the signing and then leave the church to "you raise me up"?

I think thats what i'm going to have to do.

I've tried to listen to the song and associate with happy thoughts but 5 years on I still cant listen to it without crying - it was on Xfactor a few weeks ago and it just made me cry!

I'm suprised moms asked TBH as she was more upset than us at that point!

I had a similar problem. There is a musical setting of The Lords Prayer that we played at my Grandma's funeral, which I sobbed every bit of the way through, and have pretty much cried every time I've heard it since (luckily not likely to turn up on X factor). But I've always wanted it sung at my wedding. So I went ahead and used it anyway - but the prayers come at the end of the service, when we were already married, and if I had cried I would have been up at the alter our of sight. But on the day, I was too wrapped up in loving the music to be sad.

Not sure I would have risked it for entrance music though!

Could you not have it dedicated to your Grandmother at the reception instead, so you still get the song.