Originally we weren't going to bother having an evening do, since we're not dancing/late-night type people and neither of us have friends we would invite to just an evening do (they're all coming to the whole day), but then hubbie-to-be pointed out that:
a) most people expect an evening do at weddings, and our guests might feel short-changed if we send them home straight after the cake-cutting at 7pm without a single dance,
and b) it might be a way of letting our parents invite some of their friends (as we're paying for the whole wedding ourselves, we're 100% in charge of the guest list and our rule is 'no strangers' - but for an evening do we wouldn't be so fussy)
So now I don't know what to do. There is some room in the budget for us to lay on something like a hog roast in the evening, but entertainment-wise I don't want to spend loads of money if it turns out that all our day guests leave (as we're expecting most of them to - they're mostly older relatives who won't want to stay for 'noisy modern music' or couples with young children who'll probably be knackered and ready to go home!) and only a handful of evening-only guests show up. But on the other hand, I feel it's a bit harsh to ask evening-only guests to make the effort to attend (on average they'll be travelling about half an hour to reach us) if we're only going to plug in a iPod and offer them a pork roll!
So I guess my question is, has anyone else had a really pared-down evening do, and how did it go? How 'pared down' is acceptable, do you reckon?
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