Ex moan

Arh read it!! i know i would!!

do it now and tell us what it says!!!!! hahah

I don't believe it!

Shes asked to meet up with him as she says she needs closure and that it might help her to begin a new chapter in her life!

WTF?! If she wants to move on why would she want to meet up again?! OH has said hes not going to obviously but hes considering how to respond.

Wtf?!?!?! 3 years later she needs closure?!!?!? Tell him to reply saying - heres some closure im engaged to cosmo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! flipping psycho!

She knows she has a girlfriend, her message actually said 'I know it could be awkward with your girlfriend' she doesn't know me though. I'm sure she knows we're engaged though as shes friends on FB with OH's sister and when we got engaged his sister posted lots of congratulations messages so she must have seen them.

She definitely knows we live together as we bumped into her sisters boyfriend just after we moved in and told him so I'm sure that would have got back to her.

What worries me though is that she had a little girl who was about 10 months old when they met. She was 4 when they broke up and it broke OH's heart not to see her. He couldn't see her as his ex is a bit of a psycho and theres no way she would have allowed him to maintain the relationship, especially if he or she met anyone else. He just thought it would be easier in the long run.

Deary me!

No offense, but why the frig is she on his FB anyways? Fair enough if they had a kid, so he can see photos of the kid, or whatever. But why have your ex on your FB, unless you are still mates with them and they get on with your new partner.

I'd ask OH to delete her off FB and never speak of it again.

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I think you can send messages without being on someones facebook?

OLL shes not on his facebook, I'm presuming she just found him via his sisters page and sent him a message.

Two words 'block' and 'delete' theres your closure. The rest of us manage to move on without having secret meetings with ex's she a big girl im sure she will cope

Bloody hell! What an odd thing to do.

I'd hope that my OH would either ignore it, or tell her that he's not meeting up as it's all in the past and that he's moved on, so she should have done too after three years.

Poor you. ?

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He has said he is going to reply but to say they can't meet up. I'm not worried in the slightest about Mike and what he'll do, I'm just angry that she'd have the audacity to think he'd want to meet her!
I think it stems from my insecurities about the age difference (12 years). I sometimes think that his friends/family see me as young and therefore my opinions don't really count. Therefore she would think our relationship is irrelevant.

She sounds a bit nuts to be honest! Why would she want to meet up with him 3 years later???

If i was your OH, i would delete the message and forget all about it, she's probably just jealous and trying to stir up trouble!

I agree with Moomin. Not replying will send a stronger message than any words he could send. Oh and block her too.

How rude! ompletely ignore it i would there's no reason whatsoever for your OH to respond to her. not sure when your getting married but make sure to post lots of pics of your wedding just to make sure she gets the message ?

oh my goodness,

she sounds like a crazy lady! isnt it weird how ex's somehow crawl out from the woodwork. i think mr cosmos reaction to it (ie not running to the computer to check what she has written) says it all. all of a sudden 3yrs down the line she needs closure? No a life more like. have you told mr cosmo about it and how you feel?? xx

O dear

I think that ignoring it would send a stronger message to her, but if your oh really wants to reply I would be vetting the message, not in a because you dont trust him way, but so I would be sure that my oh's message would be along the lines of ... thanks for your message, not sure why you want to meet up for closure, I am not sure you are aware but I have all the closure I need and am looking forward to my wedding on such and such a date. Hope you are well and take care.

I wouldnt mention anything about you not liking it etc, that would be fuel for her to say you dont trust him etc

Is this girl really a psycho? would she take it bad if your h2b just told her in a nice way that he couldn't meet her and that he could help her get closure via e-mail or something?

I don't really get this closure thing, surely that's what rebound relationships are for ?