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Exes...

teeheeyoucrazyguys!, 1 November, 2008 at 13:47 Posted on Planning 0 10

After 8 years, we broke up. We still had to live together for a few months till he got sorted with a new place.

Anyhoo, he moved round the corner and being the adults we are we kept in touch quite amicably. Didnt seem awkward or nuffin but I didnt encourage it. Then, one year, he moved to another city and I met my fiance.

However, he kept in touch with emails and texts and then, fortunately, he lost his fone with my number so phew! texts stopped. Now I get an email every 6 months or so, or summin daft sent to me. Today I have opened up inbox to find a 'Hello im drunk, how are you?' email.

Last time I replied to him I think was in the new year saying Hello I'm getting married. Or maybe it was in early June in reply to a happy birthday mail saying Hello I'm planning my wedding. Both replys were out of courtesy as I ignored many of his emails.

do i reply to aforementioned drunk email with 'Im fine thanks' or do I just ignore it.....I really dont like keeping in touch, even minimally and already having the nightmares that hes gonna turn up on my wedding day and ruin it totally. Advise me girls. Can I be a grown up or should I be a hearltess b!tch?

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Latest activity by bec84, 1 November, 2008 at 21:27
  • AliLindsey
    Beginner November 2009
    AliLindsey ·
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    I'd just ignore it if I were you. If he sent it when he was drunk, then chances are he's woken up the next morning and either doesn't remember that he sent it, or maybe he does and is thinking oh god!

    I'd just delete it and pretend it never happened if it was me!

    Ali xx

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
    teeheeyoucrazyguys! ·
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    Deleted.

    thank you for your sensible answer!!!

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  • ruthy_wuthy
    Beginner September 2009
    ruthy_wuthy ·
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    If you don't like keeping in touch, then you really shouldn't!

    In my experience, it is always the one who hasn't moved on, or who isn't happy in their current relationship/situation, who always initiates contact. If it's always him, then it just sounds like he's not willing to let go completely. It'd be a different situation if you both said "hey" every so often or had remained good friends..but that doesn't seem to be the case...

    Anyway, I digress... I would just ignore it, then I would add some form of filter to my email ( I know gmail and yahoo have it) which will send his emails directly onto the bin or delete folder...and then I would delete his email address.

    That way, you shouldn't even see his emails coming through and you will no longer have the dilemma of whether to reply to his emails or not!

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
    teeheeyoucrazyguys! ·
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    Nodding in agreement....

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  • AliLindsey
    Beginner November 2009
    AliLindsey ·
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    Good call, Ruthy!

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  • M
    Beginner March 2009
    Mrs Bloom ·
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    I have joined in this discussion rather late, but I'm in the ''ignore him'' category!

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
    teeheeyoucrazyguys! ·
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    Hes just emailed again to apologise for emailing in the first place. My name had come up in conversation for some reason.

    no not going to reply.

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  • KEG
    Beginner February 2009
    KEG ·
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    Yes I would ignore it too, just incase he gets any ideas.

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  • AussieAngelxxx
    Beginner June 2009
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    Oh very well done!! proud of you for ignoring!! I am much too soft and can't ignore so end up stuck in this horrid communication with people I do not want to communicate with!! Good stuff to you!! Very grown up! Although sometimes it is nice to just put the old sly I am doing sooooo well in my life comment thing hehe I saw a pic of my Ex's new lady today (the joys of Facebook!)and the sad little inmature part of me rejoyced that she was not some supermodel lol xxx

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  • L
    Beginner August 2010
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    Just leave it, he probably want send you another e-mail if you dont cantact him, unless of course you want to keep in tough.

    i would like to watch my ex burn on a bon fire wednesday night, no such luck though!!!!

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  • bec84
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    bec84 ·
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    Ignore......

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