Facebook photos...what are your thoughts?

Is it weird I was thinking after reading about pictures on facebook of writing a poem for the invites haha xx

It was a nice polite way of approaching the subject! As you can see my poetry skills leave a lot to be desired

I wasn't that bothered about photos going up on facebook, though none of mine were put up on the day at all. I have some gorgeous guest photos which I absolutely love. Nobody posted any nasty ones of me or H.

If you really don't want them on facebook, you could set up a secure sharing site just for people at the wedding, so you can at least see the pictures everyone took. No matter how good your tog is, they won't have captured every single shot that someone else has!

That's ultimately what it comes down to for me- it's not even necessarily about the photo quality or Facebook or any of that, I really want my guests to have an amazing time and enjoy themselves.

We always seem to have a far better time on days (or nights) out when no one has a camera and when no one is constantly on their phone. We just enjoy each others company.

I'm more than happy for people to snap away within their own little friendship groups, but photos of key moments, ceremony, of me and my OH of the venue and so on i'd rather were left to the TOG. I know they wont get *everything* but I don't necessarily want that.

Spoken to H2B about them, we're going to welcome our guests to take photos but check them with us before they upload them. We can't include a poem in our invites as they have already gone out, but here's the poem I've just written to slip into our order of the day booklets:

Thankyou for attending our wedding,

And we hope you'd like to stay.

To share our celebrations,

On this truly special day.

We hope you'll have great memories,

And lots of giggles, too.

But the Bride and Groom have a favour,

We' like to ask of you.

We welcome you to photograph,

Anything through the day and night.

But we'd like to ask you keep them,

From any social networking sites.

At least until we've seen them,

Once we're back from honeymoon.

It won't be long- we promise!

You'll be able to share them soon!

10 minute knock-up ?

MrsStobe13

It seems to be poems for everything these days!

What's wrong with saying "The bride and groom request that you refrain from posting any photographs of the wedding online until they return from honeymoon"?

Im not sure how I feel.

About two weeks after our wedding we are coming back to Canada, and will be bringing our photo album and video. Ideally I would love for the to be the first time my family who didnt attends (pretty much all of them) to see us.

However, I LOVE photographs. LOL Ive even looked at albums of people I dont know. I would love to see pictures from our guests point of view. But, I feel like if I ask people to wait until a few days after we are in Canada, Im scared most people will just forget.

I think we will have to go the way of removing ourselves from being tagged and perhaps just spread the word that people can post away, but please dont post them on our specific wall. Thoughts?

I am proud to admit I would be bridezilla in this instance. I hate people posting photos of me on facebook anyway - have the 'approve' thingy on.

I wouldn't stop people from taking photos though and I'd quite like to go around and take photos of my guests myself And, in fact, I might! Much happier when I'm on the other side of the lense! I will be putting a note in my invites for sure. For me, I think a poem is a little too nice and I'd like to get straight to the point.

We're only having close family at the wedding though and I'm pretty sure most of them will be preoccupied by one thing or another to even bother waiting for signal to upload some dodgy shots of my triple chin and H2B's crazy afro hair!! It's guna be the evening do I'm not looking forward to with regards to photo uploads. Our friends will be invited and some of which live on FB so they will have a good few reminders during the evening about not putting pics up! At least until the night is over and we have a chance with sober eyes to view them.

I'd prefer to see prints anyway. Photos online get lost in a mass of other 'stuff' so I may ask guests to print choice photos and send us a copy. They are cheap to do now so I can't see that being too much of a problem? And if they can't, email them to us so we can print ?

I must admit I do hate a few of the photos that guests put up, it seems to be the ones where people just upload the whole days worth of photos, warts and all.

I'd be quite sad if I was asked not to take photos at all, you'd have had a fight on your hands asking some of my guests to leave their cameras at home! Whatever you decide to do I think a quick sentence or two to state your wishes is the way to go, seems a bit unnecessary to turn a simple request into a huge poem.

It's not so much about whether or not I mind about people putting photographs on Facebook, I genuinely don't think that I have the right to make a demand on people to not upload photographs onto Facebook from my wedding or otherwise.

I wouldn't particularly mind if I were asked not to do so as a guest though - although I would MUCH prefer a succinct note rather than a five verse poem expressing the sentiment, but that is really just personal preference.

This exactly! I can't ensure some guests are not uploading numerous amounts of pictures to Facebook, meet and greet some 60-70 guests and have a good time! Just not possible to do!

MrsStobe13

I agree with you...its your day you should be the first to share your pics ;-)

Flickandzeb - you aren't allowed to advertise a business unless you're a listed supplier.

'Please don't use your cameras today as the photographer has a gun'

I really don't mind but then that's reflected in perhaps my age and our social group.

Last weekend OH and I created a wedpic account which lets people share photos from the day in a specific place and then we get to download them all after. Whether people use it or not, I don't mind but it just means it easier to collate all the photos than having to download them from facebook.

I think that's a good distinction really. The ceremony and key moments are things that as a guest it's nicer to just experience and there's no way you'll get a really good photo anyway. Although I will often try to a get a little snap of the bride and groom for my own memories and always seem to take pics of cake (but I've been known to take pictures of beautiful food in a restaurant). It's the friends and family and odd moments photos that I really like though.

MrsStobe13 - As I said on your thread I think you've got a bit of a different situation going on. From what you said about your OHs friends and their nasty photos I think you need more than a poem to stop them. If I was in your position and had to invite people who were very likely to intentionally take nasty photos so that they could laugh at me and my OH I'd be having words with them (or getting OH to if they were his friends) before the wedding. I'd be stressing that if they were even thinking of doing this then it'd be better if they didn't come and that if they did upload nasty photos or in any way take the piss then that would be the end of the friendship. I'd also consider deactivating my fb account while I was away so that I couldn't be tagged or have them posted on my wall; this would have the added benefit that even if they were doing it I wouldn't know!

I'm surprised to hear about nasty photos, what sort of friends would do anything unflattering to a mate on their wedding day? Odd.

I wasn't bothered at all, by the evening some had gone up - but not many as we were on top of a hill looking over 2 counties so wifi signal wasn't exacty great!

OH and I snuggled up together in the bridal suite and had a look through the few that had been uploaded. I think they were lovely pics. OK so what one was blurry and one was me pulling a silly face but it was such a brilliant day I didn't care. It was good for me as I am an instant gratification type and if I had had to wait months for the professional pics to arrive it would have annoyed me.

These were the first 3 uploaded. They're of course not great quality but it was great to see them.