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Families- why is it always so hard?!

scorpio, 7 March, 2009 at 14:10 Posted on Planning 0 5

Ever since we annouced we were getting married things have been a nightmare! I have always had issues with my Mum and now its really bad and I hate it all and instead of looking forward to my wedding I just feel ill about it now. There's been loads of little things that I've not mentioned and just went with the flow, like certain people that had to be invited and the buffet , BMs colours etc. It all came to a head this week and they've really upset me now. I've not been well for a few weeks and I ended up in hospital getting surgery and I wasn't able to make the 1st dress fitting last week because I still wasn't well enough. I was so gutted about it as I was really looking forward to it all but there was nothing I could do, 2 of my BMs went and they were to go back today to try the altered dresses on. I'm still seeing a nurse everyday to dress my stitches and wound and the nurse agreed at the start of the week to come at 9.30 this morning so I could see the girls with their dresses on (I'm still a bit too tender to try my dress on ☹️) and my Mum said she would change the appointment. My Mum never bothered trying to change the time until 10 this morning when they were due in at 10.30 because her and my sister (BM) had decided they didn't want to change the time as it didn't suit them as theyd made lunch plans! (lunch was just the 2 of them)

I know I'm prorbaly over reacting but so wanted to see the dresses on and I was really upset with them but they told me just to get over it and that I was making a big deal out of nothing.

Sorry for the long rant, think I just needed to vent!

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Latest activity by scorpio, 7 March, 2009 at 20:09
  • AliLindsey
    Beginner November 2009
    AliLindsey ·
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    Oh you poor thing. I'm sending you a very gentle virtual hug. It does seem as if they are at best being thoughtless. It is your wedding afterall!

    Hopefully when you're feeling a little bit stronger, you'll be able to go and try your dress on. I really hope you feel much better soon - sorry I can't give you any more advice, hopefully someone more useful will be along shortly.

    Ali xx

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
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    Aw rubbish!

    Do what I do - if you can - plan everything without telling your mum what you're doing or thinking. I sparingly give information and the anger only mounts up once in a blue moon now....... even i try and change the subject if mum mentions it. Getting my own back on the last year!

    Get well soon too!

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  • S
    Beginner May 2009
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    Thanks for the advice girls, think I'll take your advice teehee and only mention the wedding if I really need too! She's just been a total nightmare but feeling better now I'b ve had time to cool off and the box of ferrero rocher that OH bought me is helping too!

    Thanks x

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  • jen52637
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    Aw, I'm really sorry. I hope once you're feeling better after your operation you're able to go and look at your dress!

    Families can be a nightmare around weddings! I agree that you should only share the information you feel you have too! Be very sparing with the details and hopefully you won't get so much hassle!

    Really hope you're feeing better soon!

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  • debs1701
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    Gentle ?, I agree with what Nona said share as little info as yu can and from now on, when your feeling better start making the decisions yourself, to suit you, it's your wedding, not theirs, its your ideas, not theirs and what you say goes...they will stop trying to take over when they get the point ?

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  • S
    Beginner May 2009
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    Thanks for the replies girls and for also making me feel better. I'm going to try sit down and have a wee chat with her as I'll be out of action for another few weeks and I'm back for more surgery in a couple of weeks so I really need their help with sorting out some things but at the same time I don't want to be constantly fighting with them and feeling like they've taken over. Think I'll wait until after the weekend for the chat so I've calmed down a bit!

    Thanks for the advice x

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