I have made myself anon on this post, as I am a regular poster on here. Being really embrased about this as it is getting worse everyday.
I married the man I love in the last quarter of of the year. I have parents who split up when I was in my teans. My mum remarried and I lived with both her and my step dad. Till the day I moved in with my husband. It was mostly me and my husband who did the planning of our wedding, but had my mum involved in helping to choosed the venue. Emailing her everything for pictures all sorts, trying to get her to help me. She did not come and see the bridesmaids dress I never why, but I never really asked her to be fair she saw pictures etc but it was me and the bridesmaids and that was it. The day arrived which was wonderful my mum and step dad where brilliant, they came and picked us up on the day after the wedding. Which was OK, we had planned to have a joint family meal with us all there. Then my step dad started to hassle me about my husbands suit to be picked up on the following day. He asked me a number of times whilst I was talking to my mum. In the end I said I did not where anything was, as I had not been there for 48 hours. He throw down his coffee and told me to f**k off. I was like hold on a minute where did that come from and why. Bearing in mind h parents are there, so I tried to sort but h came in protecting and saying what the hell you shouting about etc. We got accussed of only wanting his money, which he had offered as a loan. This upset me straight away. He went to hit h dad. H told him no longer welcome at our welcome. So step dad told me the same. Then my mum came out. Told me she loved and I looked beautiful the day before. That was it.
Never heard from them again. My sister brought all my bits back from my mums. My mum and step dad was going on holiday on the friday so I had to beg and plead to see her. She started to tell me why step dad kicked off. They where not involved in the wedding etc. H parents had picked the car with us! I was like no, they showed us where the company was. We had already said no to company because we did not like them and when we saw these ones, we said no until I saw the one at the back which is what we had. They had been invited to see it but they are always out and about and have there own life. Me and sister have always been treated different, so I finally told my mum the reason why I felt this was. Around 13 years my step dad came on to me, I have only told close friends who helped me at the time. Never told my mum as she would not believe me. He put his hand down my top and bra. Saying he wanted to lick my nipple. I managed to get down on the floor and away from him, and said I would thearten him with the police. I came home from my friends finally when I knew mu mum was home, and I would be safe never telling her till now. The house was hard and difficult for me for a long time. I could not afford to leave and my dad no longer lived in our area. I learnt to live with it, and nothing ever happened again. have never told h about this. I know may be I was wrong about telling my mum now. But I told her how I felt about so much, how step dad treats me and h different. Really being an arse to us both, but my sister no wrong is done!
It is at the stage now, where my mum is not ringing me at home. H wants to know why, because it step dad who really the fall out is with. I have just been at lunch and said why are you not ringing me? She just said she has her own life. She needs time, our relationship will never be the same. Which she already said she does not believe me, and this why I said I never told her before. I said it is not fair, and it killing me. As we are very close or were. I don't know what to do now ring and say sorry or what. My sister is sitting on the fence. No apology from step dad which really started all this. But he hurt me and I wanted to I suppose hurt back. I admit that. But what they have said for the reasons I think are excuses he should never of done it. But I am treated different and this is the truth.
If you have got his far well done, apologises for my mumblings. Feel better writing it down. May delete shortly when head clearer. There is so much been said which is to much to write and get my head round, so if it does make sense bit may be missing
