Family issues...

It is very early days for you- try not to take them too seriously just let, let it all sink in.

As far as I am concerned if you take money then you relinquish having full say in what the money will pay for.

It would upset me too if my Dad had a reaction like you have described.

If my brother had suggested that about his dog I would tell him to do one...

Take deep breathes and people should calm down.

No you aren't over reacting.

Start planning your wedding how you want it. Don't go looking for a venue just for the dog, your brother is being ridiculous. I get really annoyed when parents offer money with conditions. Money contributions should be a lovely gift, not come with ties. You need to talk to you mum, if she won't back down I suggest you save and pay for everything yourself and have the wedding you want. Have you told your Dad how upset you are? Maybe just let him get his head round the idea, give him time.

You need to put your foot down early, before it gets out of control. See how things settle.

Your brother can put the dog in a kennel for the day or find a friend to dog sit. Having a dog really should not prevent you from attending your sisters wedding, if it did, id be asking why his dog is more important.

Your dad may have said these things in gest, spur of the moment out-load thinking at the gastly thought he might actually have to wear something he hasnt in 20+years, perhaps you can compromise... would he feel more comfortable in some smart clothing such as smart trousers shirt and tie? perhaps your OHs dad would be willing to give you away or even your mum, having someone else in 'dads' roles might make him change his mind.

Your mum is as common as any mum, id outright ask her what her stipulations were, if i couldnt adire to them or they interfered with my plans id tell her thanks but no thanks.

Its the worst thing to have to deal with when planning, families sticking their ores well and truly in where they are not wanted or asked for but thats families for you ?

I don't know any girl who can't talk her "daddy" round (providing he cares about her). Turn on the charm and the puppy dog eyes. My Dad didn't want to do a speech so I asked him if he would just do a toast. Which turned into a few thank-yous as well. Which turned into a couple of minutes of loveliness. Ease him into it gently. As for suits, he's possibly imagining top hats and tails. Reassure him that you don't need him to do that, even if the other men are going all out (in my opinion, it doesn't look odd to have men in different but coordinating outfits).

Forget what they said, believe it or not we had all kinds of things demanded of us and told to us, including my dad refusing to wear a suit or do a speech. Once you get into the planning, they won't really remember to make these demands, they will either get excited with you or not mention it, just do as you want, ignore the big issues until nearer the time, and when you get around to showing your parents pics of the suits that 'the groomsmen' will wear, your dad will most likely go along with it and protest but still wear it. Most people make demands when engagements are announced, but hardly any stick to them.

If they do, just ignore ad continue planning what you want, I'm sure they will choose to be involved and part of it. DO NOT, whatever you do, go down the route of doing what your mum wants to have the money. Budget what you can afford, and if she does give you a gift, then it's a bonus, but don't give her that hold on your wedding (I'm talking from experience!)

I agree with FTLOMB

My dad has asked me 'please dont make me wear fancy dress!!' he also thought I was going to make him wear top hat and tails (not my cup of tea anyway) , hes 80 so only really knows'traditional' weddings. Im sure your dad will come round. Hes probably a bit nervous - just cant admit it.

It's early days, so hopefully they will become more excited (and reasonable) as your plans start to take shape. I think it's important to be firm from the beginning about the kind of wedding you want, and make that clear (even if it means refusing any monetary support).

Awwww noooo Sounds a bit of a negativey start! Sorry to hear this, hopefully it's just an initial reaction, and when it progresses they'll just be excited for you and supportive! Just keep remembering it's you and your OH's day so just make sure you plan the wedding how you want it.

P.S would you have a dog at your wedding? What if it poops everywhere or barks constantly throughout the ceremony!?

This!

I would be upset if my family had said those things too. We have had various issues with my family being over enthusiastic and OH's being unenthusiastic over the course of our planning. I have decided now that I am going to try and not let what other people say and think bother me too much. At the end of the day it is our wedding day and as long as OH and myself are happy that is the main thing. I know its hard but I think it is best to just let people get on with being negative and hope that they come round. If you try to force people to do things they don't want to you might end up with the situation where they feel really negative about your wedding and you don't want that.

? don't all pets get to do that at weddings?!