FAO AJ

*curious* were you in the shop too...?

In the first pic in your suit !

Oh lol ok I thought you were hiding in the shop today or something... sorry!

Oh yeah course people are hiding in the shop to look at you.

Oh great, another Troll....

Welcome along wildmouse!

Ooh I dunno, I reckon I have quite a secret fan club round here really... people are just afraid to express it publicly for fear of those that are jealous of how wonderful I am...

i think you're probably right AJ. you may have different views to some people but i think there should be more men on hitched, its nice to have a males perspective! anyway you must be popular if a troll is willing to join JUST to stalk you!

AJ, it was a pleasure to meet you and your OH. (truthfully Hitchers they are a lovely couple)

I am sorry I could not chat a bit longer, it was about to get very busy. If ever I can be of assistance just give me a call.

Marc

Wildmouse, it is not completely beyond the realms of possibility that there could have been other Hitchers in the shop at the same time, (there wasn't!) there were a few wedding parties in today and at least one of them came from another wedding forum but thanks for popping out from under your bridge with your solitary post. ?

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I think it can often be useful to have things 'from a guys point of view', particularly someone who's independent from the b2b that's posting and is afraid to say anything for fear of upset/earbashing/sex ban or whatever.

I don't deliberately go out of my way to wind people up, but I'm not afraid to call a spade a spade when necessary, and as I said previously somewhere, sometimes challenging people "why" makes them think and they actually realise that perhaps it isn't the right solution - that's actually worked with us on the 'welcome line' discussion and we're now not sure if the time it'll take is better utilised elsewhere, ie socialising through a longer evening programme rather than dedicating time at the start just to shake hands with everyone.

I've spent enough time on /b/ to know what real trolling is, and if anyone would like to learn this site can be quite inspirational https://memebase.cheezburger.com/artoftrolling

Good to meet you too, by the way Marc, although I've got a couple of Hitchers on my Facebook friends list, you're the first one I've actually met 'irl'.

Shame you are hiding behind an alias, but not clever enough to hide your IP ?

As I've said before, sooner or later most inexperienced trolls make a mistake somewhere which gives away their identity...

I'm honoured. I think...

On that basis I've been a celebrity almost since the day I joined Hitched then...

I'm so famous now I've been invited on the new Celebrity Big Brother...

I don't get why someone would create a new user account to insult someone, I really don't... particularly you AJ as you are quote capable of holding your own and used to receiving criticism.

probably for that reason, they dont like the fact that he has his own opinion and can take the criticism and laugh it off. maybe its an attempt to 'get' at him. lets face it, theres no other reason for attacking AJ, its not like he's nasty with his views or bullies people

Because they're too pathetic to say it under their real name, so they hide behind a fake name to do it and don't have the courage to stand by what they say and justify it when challenged. Thankfully, whoever it was is stupid because they didn't use a proxy so their IP address was captured by Hitched and matched to an existing active account, so admins have no doubt had a little word with them.

I could have reported the post because it's an obvious troll but I thought it best to leave it there, because it's much more fun to watch trolls embarrassing themselves and digging a much bigger hole as they go on, failing dismally to create the reaction they desired in the first place.

Some great advice there to help out future trolls though...

Glad you got a shirt AJ - sure it will make the difference to your current suit and make you feel good.

I might be fluffy and unrealistic, but this whole thing of trading insults from behind a fake name is tedious and upsetting. It was bad enough to think it was a random troll who was just doing it to provoke but for it to be an existing user is just malicious. Surely if you have something to say, you just say it? A debate when all parties are on the even footing of knowing who they are addressing is much more satisfying.

The troll who insulted Trickers, Mooey and CB obviously didn't want a debate and the content was so vile that I can see why no one would want to own up to having a mind that sick, but the effect this has subsequently had on this forum makes me cross and sad.

I'm kind of derailing though, so back on topic - I'm glad you got your lovely shirt AJ - I'm off to see Bespoke Tailor this afternoon and looking forward to it even more having read your comments.

Wish I'd gone earlier... you'll see a silver grey suit on a stand near the front of the store, and that's the one that I wish I had known about earlier although I'd still very much have struggled to justify spending all that money on me.

If you have the cash I would get the suit. You can wear it again!

Any experienced trolls will already be familiar with these procedures and processes. Those not familiar with the art of trolling won't have a clue how to set it all up or will screw up their computer trying to do so. Like a lot of these things, covering your tracks requires certain adjustments to your computer configuration which in the wrong hands can result in messing up all sorts of things.

Let's face it, if multi-million pound worldwide criminal gangs with botnets of hijacked computers stealing bank details etc from people can mess up and get caught, I'm sure that the average Hitcher is even more likely to do so...

Simple answer to that - we don't!

Unfortunately due to my size you can't get "off the shelf" suits in any of the cheaper places so the one we're looking at is just over £100. Cheap probably but we very rarely go to events that need a suit so it's a real struggle to justify spending large amounts - even for a special day - on me. Ok I'd probably get more wear out of a suit than my b2b will her dress... but that's not really the point is it?

WSS! £100 is cracking value and I think that every man should have a decent suit in his wardrobe

On an average year I'm lucky (if you can call it lucky) to have something where I need to wear a suit 3 or 4 times. My job is administrative so I don't have to deal with people face to face, so a "suit for work" isn't really that necessary.

AJ, do you ever just think "Oh f*ck it, I'm going to do this, who cares if I have to eat pot noodles for another month, that suit is ace"? Cut loose, man. Why don't you spoil yourself?

AJ you always say that the groom is just as important as the bride and that they sometimes get overlooked, so why aren't you getting a suit for the wedding? Don't you deserve to feel good as well?

Grooms generally, probably. Me? I just don't feel worth it. £100 will be fine for the suit, as nice as the £750 one BespokeTailor had hanging up was.

3 or 4 times a year is fine... the suit will be a suit for best and that's plenty of wear. You don't want to wear it everyday as it will cease to be special.

If I buy a dress to go to a wedding (as a guest) I would buy something to wear again, but the chances are limited so it would be normal for me to wear it 2 times that year or something.

I really think you should get it, it sounds like you love it and surely you want to wear something a bit special on your wedding day? Not some suit you have worn many times before?

Can't help the way I feel...