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Beginner January 2008

Fashion advice please !!

niche79, 28 April, 2013 at 19:42 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 10


My grandad unfortunately passed away last weekend and his funeral is this Friday.

i have bought this dress to wear and can't decide if I should wear it with black tights and black shoes, nude tights and black shoes or nude tights and nude shoes to break the black up a bit as it will be May after all, thoughts please ?????

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Latest activity by Little Pixie , 29 April, 2013 at 14:40
  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    Sorry to hear about your Grandad.

    If I had to pick, I'd go with black tights/black shoes. However, this is because I'm not sure the dress is very suitable for a funeral (in my cabbage), so am perhaps trying to add a modicum of severity to it. Sorry.

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  • N
    Beginner January 2008
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    Hhhhmmmm, it's nowhere near as short on me as on the model if that makes a difference ? Do you think it is too revealing because of the lace, too short or just not suitable ? I have tried more formal dresses but they all feel really frumpy on me.

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    It's the lace/sheer sleeves (and their shape) more than the length of the skirt - they belong on a party dress, which is, after all, what it is. I get the feeling you've picked it because it's black. Now, if there was a consensus that people would wear bright clothes, and this dress was available in a bright red, would you wear it then? I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, except that just because it's black, that doesn't disguise the type of dress it is

    I'm not a person who thinks funerals must always be starchy and dark - I've worn bright clothes to several. However, I've always worn something that is formally-cut, so shirt/trousers, or shift dress, or smart jacket etc. I'm not sure I've ever worried about feeling frumpy at a funeral. .

    I'm rambling. And it's not a very nice topic to ramble around. I'll stop.

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  • N
    Beginner January 2008
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    You're not rambling, I do see your point, and no, I would not wear it in bright red !!!

    I might keep the dress as a back up as I like it anyway but continue the search !

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  • *Pugsley*
    Beginner March 2014
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    Firstly, I want to say I'm sorry to hear about your grandad, I hope you're all coping ok.

    I would defo wear this with black tights if I was you.

    Personally I don't think it it is completely apppropriate for a funeral for the same reason FTLOMB has mentioned. It could look different on but it's a bit flirty if you know what I mean??!

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  • Helenia
    Beginner September 2011
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    Sorry about your Granddad; hope you and your family are doing alright. If you're going to wear that, I would wear it with black tights and shoes, and probably a coat/jacket as well. Like the others, I don't think it's really a funeral sort of dress - it's on the short side and quite party-like. It's a LBD rather than a black dress, IYSWIM?

    For most of the funerals I've been to, I've worn black trousers/skirt and a black jacket/coat with a plainly coloured top (think pastels/darks rather than brights) underneath. Not many people want/go for full black mourning any more, but it's still a formal occasion, so I'd go for something smart and work-like, which I'm sure you'll agree doesn't have to be frumpy.

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  • Missus S
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    I would definitely wear black tights with it. As above, its a bit 'party dress' otherwise. (A very nice one mind)

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  • caweena
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    I've had to go to funerals for two close family members recently and both times I wore a black office wear dress with thick black tights (both times we had snow outside and the cemetery here is freezing even on a summer day)

    I have to agree with the others that I wouldn't wear that dress myself but then I have enough black in my wardrobe not to have to buy something new. Obviously you don't have a lot of time and don't really want to spend a fortune on such a sad occasion, do you not have anything suitable already in your wardrobe? Greys or other sombre colours could be ok? My mum wore a black skirt with a dark blue top to her brother's funeral recently because she didn't have anything black that she felt was suitable.

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  • AmnesiaCustard
    Beginner June 2011
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    Sorry to hear about your Grandad. Hope you're ok.

    I agree with the dress verdict - it's a lovely dress but a bit partyish for a funeral. It is quite likely too that the church/crem will be full of your Grandad's contemporaries who may expect more formal wear, and as family you will be on show.

    If it's a done deal I would go for opaque black tights (hides the shortness of the dress) and black shoes, and maybe a black pashmina to cover the shoulders?

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  • Holey
    Beginner July 2011
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    Sorry to hear about your Grandad Niche ?

    I'd have to agree with the general consensus though, not sure its really a funeral type dress. The last one I went to (my Grandad's) I wore a black shirt dress. I'd more inclined to go a bit 'officey' with my style I think

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  • Little Pixie
    Beginner September 2011
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    Sorry about your loss. I am with the others on the dress. I think the key is to think "office" rather than black dress. Navy works just as well but I think thisis too revealing. I always think smart overrides black at a funeral.

    Saying that at OHs gran's funeral the other week some people turned up in jeans! WTF? And they didn't have the excuse of being young and stupid on their side. I was horrified.

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