Fat club

Oh I know the feeling well! I piled on 2 stone in the 10 months following my wedding! Thankfully since joining SW in Jan I've lost 17lbs. Only about 4 stone to go!! ?

Good luck SW and Mrs SW for tonight. This is exactly what happened to me when I first moved in with the husband two years ago. We gorged on lovely food together every weekend and every evening. He was blessed with a super speedy metabolism, I was not and put on over a stone. I managed to get a stone and a half off before the wedding and there is no way I am going back. I have now made the decision to start running now (I can't run for toffee). From what I've seen you're a stunner anyway but if you've decided to go for it - good luck!

This is exactly what I did! I love food so much, I just can't bear to stop eating! Doesn't help that H doesn't like things that are good for you (fish, quite a few vegetables, anything vegetarian) and loves all the bad things (pies, lasagne, red meat) I have no clue how I managed to lose a bit of weight for the wedding but I've found it all now and then some!

Oooh I think this needs to go on that lessons learned list/pearls of wisdom that was posted earlier!!!

I'm doing OK now and have generaslly got my mind where it needs to be so have shed about twelve pounds since New Year and 7 of those since my first fitting three weeks ago - it's second fitting this afternoon so will see!! I want to lose another five for the day then i will be happy. OH commented this morning how much I've lost

But the knack is to not fall back into thiose bad habits. Hopefully getting our new puppy two weeks after will give us something to focus on rather than snuggling on the sofa and raiding the fridge.....but thank you all for your honest contributions to this. Has really reminded me of the pitfalls once the day is over!

SW & Mrs SW - my OH's neice did Slimming World and over the past eightenn months has lost so much. She looks utterly amazing. I generally find people do better on it than others so good luck. Doing it together makes the world of difference. My OH just can't cut the beer so Im very much on my own atm x

Yes we're WW regulars, we join at least once a year. We're both terrible eaters, and we're bad influences on one another too! It's great doing WW together, but when one of us slips, the other sees that as an opportunity/excuse to slip also. We talk ourselves in to it "oh come on, we deserve it today, don't we?"

That's exactly what we do SW. "We've both had a crap day, let's get a takeaway!" Ack.

That's great that you're going!

I've put on about a stone and a half since I got married just under a year ago. I can't seem to stop eating and now joke at work that I have prader willis syndrome to laugh about how much I eat... although in reality I'm actually a bit upset about it.

I have the issue in that in some ways I don't look big most of the time, I can dress pretty well to hide it and also to some people I wouldn't be classed as big but I feel like the Michellin man who is really puffy and generally unhealthy. I just can't seem to stop myself snacking or eating bad food... I just love food so much.

Anyway, I'll stop rambling on soon... What I really wanted to ask for those who do go to slimming world and WW is whether there are smaller people who go? I'd like to join but don't want to be judged for going or laughed at because my size or weight might not seem much (but actually I know it's heavier than I should be and I need to break my bad habits)?

I totally get what you're saying Schwelley but for me dieting tends to trigger a spiral of self-loathing. Before I know it I'm berating myself for not losing enough, not exercising enough, being lazy and disorganized, I could go on. It does depend on my mindset and hormones but a lot of the time I'm better off mentally staying fat. That doesn't mean eating like a pig, just not actively trying to lose. I am back trying at the moment, but I have to constantly remind myself to be kind to myself. It's tiring

I am failing big time tonight, two for Tuesday order going in shortly ?

I put on 2 stone after I quit smoking. I don't regret it exactly, but I do wish I hadn't succumbed to the cliche!!! Added to that, I was already roughly 5 stone overweight so that made me huge.

I lost about 7lb before the wedding and then lost all my willpower, but I did keep on walking so I managed to only put 2lb back on.

I started again in January and, I'm rather proud to say, have kept it up. So far, I've lost 1stone 13lb. I've got a really, really long way to go but I'm determined.

I keep saying, this isn't a diet, it's a new way of life that include exercise and healthy eating but with treats occasionally and something I can keep up.

I've tried WW and SW and every single time, I put the weight back on. I don't think I ever took the exercise part of a lifestyle change to heart before though.

One thing I've been doing is keeping a blog - not for public view because it is rather full of rambling self-loathing and some rather pious 'look at me being good' statements, but it helps me keep on track, even on a bad day.

Good luck to both of you!!

There are people at my group who are fairly slim and don't need to lose loads. They get the same support as the bigger people so no need to worry.

Thanks Schwelley, feeling good ?

My issue with SW is their use of the word syns. I won't ramble on about it but I really object to encouraging people who already have weight issues to see certain foods as sinful. I know they claim it means synergy or some such but given they used to spell it with the I, I don't buy that. But you know, if it works for people that's good, each to their own.

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Hope you both got on ok SW.

Urgh. Nearly two stone. In five months. I told you we'd been animals! Am now sitting eating my low fat yogurt for my breakfast. Boo.

Gosh J9 and Bekki!! That's proper amazing, that! I bow to you. I can't wait til I can start totting up the weight I've lost!

Pugs: I think i'm a bit the same as you, I think I hide it well enough usually, if I ever tell anyone how much I weigh or what my dress size is they seem to genuinely not believe me. Except now I think it's becoming a little more obvious, clothes no longer fit, and my face has filled out a bit. It's very depressing.

All shapes and sizes go to fat club, I've seen women before who i've thought need to eat a pie or two - but I think it's genuinely a non-judgemental atmosphere. A lot of people who are there are self conscious and uncomfortable in themselves and I think there is a mutual respect of that. Honestly, the only people who have eyes rolled at them are the ones who interrupt with questions and personal stories all through the meeting!

If you're upset about your self, then you can defo do something about that ... if you need support/advice then give us a shout!

Schwell: We are WW fans because of the extra 49 points per week ... that's wine taken care of!

hungry

I've just scoffed half a big tub of yogurt and raspberries. I genuinely could eat yogurt all day, I love it.

I eat yogurt purely to feel virtuous.

(and then I'm usually hungry and have a few biscuits)

This is why I suck at SW. Joining next week though!

I love yoghurt! H is away next week so I plan to eat fish all week and attempt to be healthy!

I didn't like WW but loved Slimming world. ALAS, Slimming World does not exist here in NZ.

I too am the heaviest I have ever been in my life, and feeling pretty miserable with is. I have always Yo-yo'd and lost a decent chunk for the wedding, but not as much as I wanted to, and piled it all on plus more since then. When I moved to NZ 4 years ago I was at my ideal weight and feeling great. I am now 15kg (33lb) heavier than that. So it's got to come off.

On Monday I started a very strict diet to hopefully control and cure my eczema - the goal of the diet is very definitely not weight loss, but since it cuts out all wheat, sugar and dairy and most fats I am hoping that weight-loss will be an appreciated side effect! (The first three days were a skin detox, I only ate pears, celery, lettuce, spring onion, beansprouts, chick peas, potato, leek and brussels sprouts - surely to goodness I'll have lost some weight on that!)

The worst thing for me though is how sluggish I feel. I haven't done any exercise since I came down with a chest infection during my first week of my new job. Used that as an excuse not to adjust my schedule and fit exercise into my new routine. It's only going to get worse as we head into Autumn and winter - already the mornings are too dark for me to do a run before work.

I have a form of body dysmorphia. It sort of comes in cycles, in that I have periods where I feel fine and other times when I hate the way I look. I actually had a complete meltdown the other night because I felt everything I owned made me look hideous and just locked myself in my room crying for an hour. I've had times when I've thought about getting a kitchen knife and just slicing the flab off my stomach, so that it's flat (I wouldn't, before anyone worries - I know how stupid that would be. Plus, it would hurt). I was tiny during my late teens and early 20s - I wore age 13 clothes until I was 21 - and my brain hasn't caught up to the fact that I'm just not that size anymore. I have to go out on Saturday, and I'm dreading it. As for wedding dresses, don't even go there!

A few years ago, I took up a diet and exercise regime which worked really well for me, except by the end I was doing bootcamp workouts 12 times a week. I was a size 6 and still not happy. I thought I was thin enough, I just wanted to get stronger. I get very competitive (with other people and just with myself) when I exercise. Since developing endometriosis, it's taken me some time to get used to how tired I get during a flare-up, so I've not been exercising like I should and gone up to a size 10. Which my rational brain knows isn't large, but my emotional brain is disgusted with myself. It's not helped by the fact that, when I have an endo flare-up, I can get very bloated and constipated, which just makes me feel even worse.

I've started a diet which is supposed to help the endo symptoms - gluten, dairy, sugar, alcohol and caffeine free. It's a similar diet to the one I did years ago, and I'm starting running again. I find running very relaxing. I need to build upper body strength as well, so I've started doing my bootcamp exercises again. Eventually, I'd like to take up parkour and a martial art - maybe Muay Thai. I miss feeling strong, like I used to when I did bootcamp, and I want to get back down to a toned size 8.

I really feel sorry for OH having to handle me when I have a meltdown. He thinks I'm stunning, and can't understand why I feel that I look so awful. I know he hasn't a clue what to say and hates that he can't help me feel better.

I also hide my weight well - people are always really shocked when i say how much i weigh. and i've pretty much always been overweight, a 14-16 since my teens. A few years ago i crept up to a 16-18 and joined WW - lost 2.5 stone and went down to a size 12, but I couldn't maintain it. Kept saying i would diet again before the wedding, but didn't have the motivation and actually gained half a stone after buying my dress! My friend kept telling me I was the only bride he knew who was gaining weight for her wedding :-(

In Jan I finally started on the 5:2 diet, and its working really well! I've lost 12 lb in 5 weeks, so at least i know i'm going to fit in my dress! would like to drop another stone before the wedding, but am pretty sure it isn't going to happen. The nice thing about 5:2 is you can have the odd treat on a "normal" day and not feel like you've wrecked your whole diet. I try to stick to 1200 cals on normal days, but don't beat myself up if I go over, and haven't been counting alcohol. If i cut back on the drink i'd probably be losing a lot more, but honestly I'd rather have my treats and booze and be happy. The 500 cal days were tough at first, but i've found a balance of meals that works for me, and they are quite satisfying when you make it all the way through. Also, i took a break for a couple of weeks by fasting one day instead of two, and didn't gain a pound, so I think it'll be easier to maintain than WW was. I definitely recommend it, although i was very sceptical before i started it.

I'd like to try the 5:2 as I've heard good things from people and professionals, but that just wouldn't work with H!

H2b complained at first, but I just make him lots of extra carbs for his dinners on fast days, and if he's still hungry he eats cheese & crackers for dessert. He's lost half a stone while i've been dieting, and he still eats normal breakfasts and lunches while i'm on porridge and salad every day. bloody men.