Father of the bride speech

A friend of mines father stood up, thanked everyone for coming and introduced a family friend to do the speaking. Which was a pity as the father had a better speaking voice than the family friend! That could be one suggestion. Do you have a chap in the family or close to - like best pals dad - who could say summin?

my fathers nervous as he doesnt want to upset my mother but I think he will keep it short anyhoo.

Hiya, i'm not to worried about my dads speach but I know that my h2b is very nervous and I think in this situation to just say whta they feel and probably keep it short.

Could he say something about how proud he is of you, how neautiful you look today and how pleased he is to welcome your husband to his family. I don't think there is any need to say much more and it's not too gushy!!

We didn't have a groom or best man speech. My uncle did a short toast and that was it. He basically introduced himself as my legal guardian and said that as my guardian he had three jobs to fill, first was to make sure I went to church every week (can't remember that joke that preceeded that), second was to ensure I didn't have sex before marriage but as H and I lived together he seemed to have failed at that too and as the best man also lives with us he thought it best not to ask any more questions, and thirdly that I chose a suitable husband... and here I was marrying a man with long curly hair in a skirt!! then he proposed a toast and that was it! Short and sweet!

HTH!!

What about if he said Grace instead of a speech. Don't have to be religious, he doesn't even have to make it religios, just might be a little less easier as most people don't look at the person saying grace.

He could just say something about how lovely you look and how he is lucky to have such a daughter etc and then just finish with Amen.

Just a thought anyway x

I think maybe your're right short and sweet is the order of the day. We're going to have the speeches before we eat.... I think? I thought I'd do a speech at the end, to bring things to a close. My dad might suprise me, I'm sure H2B and BM will more than make up for him though!

Ellie x

Hiya,

Know what you mean about being a bit worried. Although my Dad is quite funny and fairly confident, so no particular worries there, but he and Mum divorced 2 years ago and have not seen each other since she walked out. He hasn't coped well with it and is still bitter and not amicable, so I just hope the bitterness doesn't creep into his speech!

Arghh!

S x

HI there - I don't have any suggestions myself but have you tried the speech section on here? There might be some ideas on there; https://www.hitched.co.uk/speeches/speechhome.aspx HTH

My father refused point blank, he's not a public speaker at all and it would have actually made him physically sick, so I accepted his decision.

My husband's mother died a week before the wedding (to the day) so understandably he was too emotional to say anything.

We had a good best man's speech though and I stood up and said a few words in memory of my MIL.

We had thisall before the wedding breakfast to, so we could relax and enjoy the meal.

My Dad will only say a few words as will my OH. They will probably end up saying almost the same things ie. thank you for coming, blah blah.

The bigger speech will be done by the more confident one of my OH's two best men!

I really have no idea what my Dad's speech will be like. He's lovely, but he's not big on the whole emotional thing. Knowing him, he'll end up giving a lecture on exactly what he did to get my car going again! With slideshow!! Ha ha!

He won't be nervous though. I just cannot imagine what he's going to say!!

My dad did one, but it wasn't particularly long and it was quite funny. It wasn't gushy and full of emotion because that's not how we are as a family.

He told a story about when i got a tattoo and he shouted at me for it, and how my sister couldn't wait to tell dad i'd gone to get it done to get me in trouble, and he also told H that he'd never get his own way with me and that i can be a bit bossy - but he knew that anyway.

It made everyone laugh rather than cry and it summed me up exactly.

I think it would be nice if your dad just said a few words.

I know my dad was really nervous about giving any kind of speech and I didnt want him to be worrying about it but he said he would say something on the day. In the end he stood up first and didnt have any notes or anything, I felt really anxious for him as he started telling everyone about when I was a baby and little that I was really clever at school... there's me sitting there thinking 'where the hell is this going???' and then he simply said "and I think she's been very clever in picking a husband in ... and at the end of the day you're thinking who can look after your little girl..." at that I burst into tears and the best man joked "otherwise he's dead." so everyone laughed. It was really short, simple but sweet and I am so glad he did it.

Thanks everyone.

I think I'll just go with the flow and see what happens on the day, he might suprise me!

Ellie x