Favours or not to Favours, that is the question......

HI I've heard of quite a few people doing charitable donations some people I know have give the charity pin or trolley coin as a favour or others have put out a sign on the table stating a contribution has been made to the charity of your choice instead of favours and the reason for choosing this charity.

Im thinking of not having any favours as they normally get left or wasted I'm going to have a sweet table instead I was thinking of making cake pops at home and putting them on the tables but not sure yet x

We're doing a Macmillan donation in memory of H2B's mum. I don't think you should feel obliged to give favours these days - you've done enough for you guests, IMO!

As we want as much of our wedding as possible to be re-useable, we are looking at having table centrepieces that are made up of elements people can take away at the end of evening. Our reception is Alice themed, so I'm in the process of buying a bunch of second hand copies that I'll cover and use as part of the centrepieces. We will have a book plate inside with our wedding date on so it can work as a favour if people want one - although I think that most people aren't that fussed about it, it means that we don't have a load of stuff leftover at the end

I made personalised bag charms for the girls, and guitar pick keyrings for the boys.

Standard issue grumble from me: charitable donations are, of course, fine, but don't pretend they are on my behalf/in my honour. It's your charity, you give them what you want.

Agreed. Not doing it for our guests, we're doing it for his mum and as a way to involve her memory in the day, esp as I don't really see the point of favours - especially when you have as many guests as we do (2 huge families!)

I agree with what’s been said about charitable donations – a lovely idea, but not really ‘favours’. My lovely mum is making our favours – mini Christmas stockings (our wedding is in December) filled with chocolate coins and a mini candy cane. They are doubling up as name cards too, so it’s a triple whammy – practical, something for people to eat and something to keep if they want to (Christmas decoration?).

As a wedding guest, my favourite favours are edible ones or mini bottles of booze.

I think with favours we are going to wait until nearer the time. If something goes way over budget then we will cut the favours out in order to compensate as i don't think they are the most important part of the wedding! I personally wouldn't be upset if I went to a wedding and didn't get a favour, I would just be happy to have been invited.

Most of the weddings ive been too had either sugared almonds or bubbles which is a little uncreative and unpersonalized imho

its nice to link it to something to do with your lives

my OH is a musician and we met when he was on tour, I went to every gig with him until our children cam along so I want to have musical based favors - as most of our friends and family are also into music or are musicians aswell - im thinking personalized guitar picks as they're quite cheap (we know a man who makes them and can get 100s done for about £20 and customized for not much more)

I think its nice to have favors but dont worry if people moan that just shows they're ungrateful

We're doing charitable donations - we felt that 'traditional' favours would mainly just get left behind, and since both my parents have recently fought cancer, and we also lost my uncle and my mum's best friend (who's families are all there on the day) we wanted to make that donation to something that means more to us! I'm hoping everyone there will realise our family history and will understand why we chose to do that!

We did this and it was very well recieved; most guests agreed that favours were a waste of money.

We didn't do them.

I was considering them but my H and my mum were dead against them.

Then we went to a family friends wedding and half way thtough the meal my H and mum gleefully asked me what I thought of the favours. "oh, i haven't seen them yet" i thought....there weren't any and I hadnt even noticed!

My BBF is in the throws of planning her wedding and was recently talking about favours, when I said we didnt have any she was shocked, she obviousl couldn't even remember!

Id put the money towards something else!

This! We're definitely doing favours, they're not necessary but I like the little personal touches so it's just if you're into that sort of thing or not
We don't have many guests as well so i'm looking forward to doing these little things, might feel different if I had 100+ to do haha.

We did these MDF name tags as name places and as favours, 95% of people took them home with them

We also did small sweet bags for everyone as well.

That sounds so cute!!

Thank you! I'm so lucky my mum is happy to sew 110 little stockings...

Im having jam jars filled with chocolates for the women and sweet chilli jam for the men, the labels will double up as place names, I know the jam jars have been done to death but my 11 year old son loves cooking and asked if he could make the jam and I couldn't say no!!

I'm not having "favours"................I didn't even know that this was a normal thing until I joined on here.

The way I see it, I'm spending loads of money as it is on my guests for decent food & drink, I really don't see why I should give them a present as such for their attending our wedding...

Lovely attitude.

If you don't want to do favours, don't do them. But you're not going to get much love for spouting things like ^^^

Ah well, we can't all have the same opinion & priorities ?

Nor grace.

We aren't having formal favours as we aren't having a formal wedding. However I do think it's nice to have a souvenir (or party bag) so we have lots of table games to play with and then take home, bags of sweets for everyone, and also crafts which the children can make and then take home with them.

i am hoping that people do choose to take things home...after all what will i do with loads of mini jengas/packs of cards/yatzees etc ? ?