Feel alone in this

Sorry your feeling that way!

Why don't you organise a small private celebration for you both and couple of your closest friends. You can wear what you want to wear and enjoy the day As and when I get married this will be what i will do I love my family but they don't get on particularly well so I would rather do something small and fun for me and whoever 'the one' could be

Oh you poor thing.

I am at my wits end with my OH's family so I understand your feelings. Countless times ive wondered this morning why didn't i just go to grenta green. I have no useful advice, but with hitched one thing for sure is that you are not alone, plenty of people on here for you to talk to and moan to when things get really bad.

Just concentrate on WHY you are getting married, and think of the positives and try and blank out the family issues.

xx

OK, first a small bit of symapthy - yes, it's a shame when parents aren't as excited as you are. My mother was also distinctly underwhelmed when I said I was engaged again, and I was upset to start with. Still, rejoice in the fact that YOU are getting married.

Now for a bit of a reality check. Most of us no longer live in a society where parents pay for all (or in fact any) of the wedding. If your father said he would get you a car, then that's lovely. If he feels too old to organise it himself, ask if he is offering to pay for it if you book it (which, hurrah, gives you the chance to choose one you like!), or if the offer is withdrawn. If it is, then never mind. Doll up your own, or a friend's car with ribbons and it will look lovely. I arrived at our reception in a white van bedecked with blue ribbons!

Finally - what on earth are you sulking about having to fund/book your own honeymoon? Surely all of us do this? If you can't afford one, have a mini break here and save up. Sorry to have a go, but you say "we EVEN have to do our own honeymoon". Errrm yes. That's how it goes I'm afraid.

Now, back to the first thing I said - YOU are getting married. You are going to make promises to the man you love, while he is still in good enough health. That is SO much more important than cars, honeymoons and even your dress. It feels like the end of the world now, I don't doubt, but have a glass of wine, watch some trashy Saturday night tv, and wake up tomorrow with things in perspective

xBBB

Hello sorry to hear of your family issues I hope you are able to resolve them and move forward and enjoy wedding planning.

What you have written is a slight contradiction, you seem frustrated that nobody is interested in the wedding yet people seem to be telling you everything you want to do is wrong. I think this is where the problem lies, sadly you can't really have it both ways.

if you want to involve others in the planning they are going to have opinions which may be different to your own particularly when anyone is contributing financially.

Its bad form for parents (or anyone) to promise things and go back on their word. the best thing to do is concentrate on the things you have or are funding yourself and just see everything else as a bonus.

Hello,sorry you feel poo when you should be feeling happy :-( .Believe me,you are not alone, there are other Hitchers on here that feel disillusioned with the whole planning thing,as it is not how they expected it to be. I think we all watch too many movies,lol. My planning is going the same was as everything else I have ever done- by myself. I feel I can't go on about it to my friends as I don't want to see their eyes glaze over,so I avoid talking about it. Like Gracey said- talk to us lot, we do want to hear about it ! I find these days that whenever anything good is happening to me,nobody wants to know-whereas when I'm down, the whole world wants to know my business . Plan your wedding with your husband to be,have it how you want it and come on here to get advice & support -sod everyone else,it's your day.x

Sorry to hear you're feeling low about all of this. My parents weren't exactly jumping for joy, and seemed disinterested to start. When I said about it to Mum, she said she was careful not to come across as interfering (subsequently, she is and does!). We got engaged this March and aren't getting married until next November, so the general consensus has been "It's too far away to worry about". Give them time and I'm sure they'll be excited.

I don't think it's all that common for parents to foot the whole bill these days. I wouldn't want mine to, in all honesty.

There's some good advice in this thread, but just remember why you're getting married - the peripheral stuff will fall into place at some point.