Feeling a bit down :-(

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My mum was like this, i used to ask how she was and wait about 30 mins for her to finish, then when i said anything wedding-y she changed the subject or started telling me about my bro's wedding! It wasnt until I spoke to someone else that i discovered she was really excited and was the same with my bro (but went on about my wedding)

she said it was to fill me in - and until I said that i could speak to my bro about wedding stuff myself that she actually stopped.

Maybe you need to have a chat with her? or write her a letter explaining how you feel she doesnt listen?

xx

I think u should def speak to ur mum, it will make u feel alot better.

i have sort of the same problem but its been with MIL she has shown no interest in our wedding and i have tired to include her as much as possible but she always has something else on and likes to tell me she only has 2 days off per week (so do we all tho) i have spent to much time crying over her, H2B has spoken to her but nothing has changed, this is prob the only wedding she'll sort of have as her other son is gay and isnt the settling down type so u would think she would want to be part of all the planning. at times she makes me so angry i could scream!!!! i feel really sorry for H2B as my family are really involved, i just hope on the day she puts a smile on her face. xx

I haven't got much left to do, i'm near enough sorted. she came with me to choose my dress then last time for the fitting, i've done my hair trials n just got make up to do. She came n chose my favours with me, i've just got to get chocs to fit them (can't get them too soon or i'll eat them all!) Table plan is done & is being made, with the place cards, by the venue. think it might just have to be a baileys night.

thanks, makes me feel better knowing i'm not on my own.

Is there anything else that you need to do, your mum will obviously jump at the chance to do something for you, have you sorted your old new borrowed and blue things, maybe there is something that you could use of hers for something borrowed or old, have you sorted your jewellery etc? just clutching at straws but the last thing you want to do is look back on is this and regret not having your mum more involved, does your venue have your final numbers, have you chose your meals, could your mum be your witness.

hope i have helped but like i said, clutching at straws at this late stage.

hope everything works out for you, let us know x x

Oh, it's awkward - why can't people just say what they want?? Could you ask her to do OTOD coordination?

might be me being a bit blonde but whats 'OTOD coordination?'

No it's me being dim - I meant OTD - as in On the Day! Could she meet with your florist for you, and make sure everything's in place?

i was thinking something to do with order of the day so nearly there!

i asked if she could help at the reception setting things up (taking the flowers down for the table centres n just making sure everything was sorted) n she said she'd be too busy running around getting ready n sorting my grandma. (my mum's sister n brother n their OH's are all here so they'll be sorting the olds!)

flowers are being delivered to the house (hopefully, thats tomorrows job to ring them!)

Blimey! You can't win. Maybe you're better off just ignoring it and focussing on you!

Kaz! Chin up chicken! Just tell your mum that you're sorry if you have left her out but that it was completely unintentional, but that you will make sure to include her from now on. Meet up with her for lunch and have a chat about everything weddings. there's bound to be a few things that you still need to get/do so keep her well involved now in the last bit!