Feeling a bit sad

Awww this made me sad for you! Rubbish!

I am sure she would be there if she could! Don't think about the fact it's at a time she can't make! You must of chosen dates etc for a reason! Besides dates with guests are always tricky!

Couldn't you skype or something on your wedding day! I know it's not the same but at least you are sharing a little part of your day with her! x

Stick to your plans, you can't keep rearranging forever and there will always be something that crops up.

I know it sounds harsh but trust me, on the day you will be so happy and busy you won't have chance to miss your friend! Plus you could always tie in a visit to her with a honeymoon trip shortly afterwards ?

Aaw that is such a shame, but as Slou said, I'm sure that your friend would want to be there with you if it was possible. I think as you said too if you'd done it on a different date then there would still be no guarantee. It's always hard to get the news that you don't want and no matter how well you prepare yourself for it there's still a little bit of hope until you hear the answer for certain. You'll still have a fab time though I'm sure and will be able to relive it all over again when you tell your friend all about it afterwards!

Thank you everyone ? You have all made me feel better. I love hitched for this, and all the support you get ? The friend who can't come suggested doing a Pheobe from Friends, and have one of my other friends hold a phone up at the ceremony, so she can be a part of it! Hehe. I know I'll feel different/so much going on, on the actual day, but just felt sad today, but then you guys came along and cheered me up, so thank you! xxx

Good idea! My husband is english, and all of his family had to be in England for the wedding (We got married in Canada) so we paid for the Skype service for video conferencing and had a laptop open on the front pew of the church so they could see and hear the ceremony (do check that you have wifi at the church/venue before you can make the promise thought!). It worked really well and they felt a lot more confident knowing they could watch as it happened!

I know how you feel - my OH is an Aussie and his grandad and a best friend are unable to make it to the wedding which made him really sad, but you just have to concentrate on the great parts of the wedding and remember that your friend would want to be there if they could!

OH's very close friend and best man told us the week before we booked our wedding that he is probably going to be deployed to Afghanistan for 9 months in August so it's unlikely he will be back by our wedding date. OH is understandably gutted and I did say we could postpone, but he said no as we had already planned it all out and he didn't want to mess things around. I think a part of him is also hoping his friend will miraculously get around this as it hasn't been finalised yet. Some of the suggestions people have posted sound lovely, and they could really brighten up your day, think of your friend as your guest of honour from across the globe via video link ?. I'm going to ask the friend if he will record a video speech to surprise OH and hopefully make his day, after the marrying me part of course ?.