Feeling a bit unoriginal..

Stick with it!

I'm having pink and grey and it seems that everyone in the world is having that too. I go on pinterest and it's all over the place. Also, my photographer recently photographed a wedding where the bride had my dress and the flowers I want, as well as hundreds of details I thought I'd been obscure with - but that's life!

Ultimately you want to look back and have the wedding you want. OH looks stunning in grey and I have always wanted pink, so why should we change just because we have exceptionally good taste?!

It will be unique to you as it's your wedding

We didn't have a theme - people will remember your wedding because they love you and are happy for you, not because the tablecloths match the bridesmaids' knickers or whatever.

Exactly. Also, it amy seem that everyone is having that as a theme as you are more aware of it than others because that is what you are having (If that makes sense). If you were having, oh I don't know, a black and white wedding, you will notice other people having that more than anything else.

Damn, I *knew* there was something I'd not thought of.....!

Why does anyone need a theme anyway - surely, as long as your wedding reflects you, who you are, what you like, etc, why does it matter either that it doesn't follow a specific "theme", or that it is a theme that is popular right now?

Let it be organic, ie just let it happen. If you see something you like, then it WILL work - because it is YOU, and you LIKE IT!

So therefore your theme is "what you like". No need to make it any more than that!

Our wedding is very much like that - my flowers will not match OH buttonhole. Why? because I LOVE the flowers I have chosen and they go really well with my dress. OH wants to have yellow roses for his buttonhole, because they remind him of his mum. You don't get any better theme than doing what makes you smile!

My bridesmaids dresses are duck egg, because they look lovely, and my BMs chose them, feeling comfortable and confident in them. But the groomsmen and OH will be having peach ties....because they like them.

On the day, everything will work. Everyone will feel comfortable with what they have and the way that they look. The accessories we've chosen for tables etc, will look lovely.....why? Just because they will.

And everyone will forget all of that because they will look at my amazing dress and see how fantabulous I scrub up, and they won't even NOTICE anything else hahaha!

This is a phase a lot of brides go through, just ignore it and it will pass.

Honestly I totally remember the "hmmm, should I do something original" "what can I do that's different" phase of wedding planning.

Nothing about weddings is original. It's all been done before. It's pretty darn unlikely that you'd find anything totally unique that's never been done before, so you really need to stop worrying about it.

The things that we all think are passé aren't really. It's just that we see them loads on pinterest and on hitched, and therefore think they're sooooo common. Untrue. Most people actually won't have seen them before, unless they are planning a wedding themselves. So have whatever theme and decor you want.

Except birdcages. No more of those please, 4 weddings in a row.....

(edited to be less inflammatory, LOL).

I had hessian and lace and wood.................................................because it's a style i love. my bedroom is filled with hessian and lace and wood and has been for donkeys years. long before it was en vogue for wedding style. i was a bit miffed to begin with that the world seemed to be stealing my style and making me wedding less me, but ultimately, although all the flashes may look similar and people may make the odd comparison (oh so-and-so had lace chair sashes too), you wedding is your wedding and it WILL look like YOURS. honestly. trust me

That's something I've definitely noticed with a winter wedding theme packed with winter/ice colours and snowflakes and such. Before when I had it in mind I hadn't heard of anyone else doing that, since coming on here it seems it's actually more popular than what I originally thought, and it's cropping up everywhere.

I don't know if you remember but I recently got well and truly slated for telling a bride that birdcages were boring! I'm glad the OP has acknowledged that rustic/country themes are common, but honestly you can still have it and be original too, there are loads of ways to personalise your wedding e.g. quirky invitations, table names, the cake topper, the band/music you choose. Yes the rustic/country theme is all over the place at the moment but your wedding can stand out and reflect your personality in lots of ways without sacrificing the main theme.

Thing is, however brilliant you are as an individual, chances are that someone somewhere has had the same thought at some point. People have, after all, been getting married, or handfasting or whatever the local custom, for centuries!

And anyway some of the most inventive themes can also be the most divisive (like the hunting wedding that was mentioned a while back!)

What your wedding will have that no-one else does is you and your guests. And those happy faces will be the things shining out of your photographs in the years to come, and they will make all the things you choose to decorate your day sing in your memories and in your heart.*

*Sorry, not sure what's come over me today, I'm a bit soppy. But I am serious about your wedding being wonderful. It really will be.

Yes, very much! We opted for rustic / vintage also as we both lvoed it. But then, like you, began to see just how popular it was! Neither of us have a major "thing" (aside H2B love for music, but he didnt like the idea of a specific theme around it) so decided to move from rustic / vintage and just do "garden party". That way we can add the touch of rustic or vintage here or there but it isnt soley "my theme is rustic". in fact garden party isnt even a theme its just the way it seems to naturally fall with the things we have decided on.... floral patterns on the bunting, picnic blankets, afternoon tea, leaf embroidery on my dress.
mostly it is going to be myself and my h2b splattered throughout the wedding. not literally ;o) but he love pick & mix - so we're havign sweety cart. He loves gigs and live msuic (as do i but he has a passion) so what are we having? I love the colour pink. so we're pink! we both love cheeseboards.... guess what our cake is giong to me made of?!
the wedding should be themed as YOU! =)

LOL, was that you?! If that's the thread I'm thinking of, I defended you actually ?

Ahhh, I feel free to give my opinions about what I'm bored of seeing at weddings in a general context when people talk about themes. Especially if someone is asking for a vote between different centrepieces etc. I only steer clear if it's already been chosen for the wedding, as then it becomes more of 'pretty personal choice' thing. I even recognise that birdcages are pretty in their own right, it's just become same-old-same-old for me over the last year as I've kept seeing them. My centrepieces were candlebras so even MORE boring, same-old-same-old, but again, it's personal choice and I didn't get offended when someone told me they were dull and I should have flowers ?

Arwww, very sweet ? I still get those soppy moments talking about weddings, and I'm an OM !

Weddings arnt original. People need to stop trying to out do each other on being 'wacky' (said with comma hand gestures) and just bloody get on with getting married! I thought I was sooooooo original when I got married, turns out my wedding was just another shabby chic,vintage theme with converse and camper vans- could I care less? No. I got married for me and the h, not to win awards with my friends as to who had the craziest cake.

If you like rustic stuff, have a rustic wedding.

Stick with your theme. If you love it thats all that matters!

Look on the plus side... Seeing as your theme is so popular, it will be a breeze finding bits and bobs and invites etc. in your style.

Im really struggling for mine, looks like I will have to source a lot from the states - even hubbys suit!

No mattet what any of us do, someone else would have already done it. The aesthetics may not be unique... But you certainly are :-)

Ha! this cracked me up lol!! ?

Before me & OH even looked at venues or anything, we said we'd like purple because we are both spiritual people & purple is a spiritual colour, indigo/ deep purple being the colour associated with the 3rd eye chakra. Before looking I thought it might be quite difficult to get purple things. Then we started looking at all the things we needed. I've no need to tell you that cadbury purple is THE most popular colour choice in weddings for the past few years or more & continues to be so. I just thought it was funny and also felt relieved that it would be really easy to get the things I needed! Please don't worry, as other people have said your wedding will be unique anyway because it's your wedding with your guests, & you can add little personal touches. Your names for a start will be unique try & do something crafty/arty with that like having them embroidered onto some small bunting around your cake table? Just an idea ?

Exactly this. Only people planning their own wedding will even take notice of all the little details and if you ask people later to describe your 'theme' they'd probably be completely stumped. Just pick things that you like and it will all come together x

I was also inder the impression that BM dresses MUST match that of the Mens ties etc PAH! As long as its in the same palette for me, I aint arsed!

Our men folk diddnt even match- let alone ties to bm dresses!

Ahhhhh, ok. Get you now.

I've been staring at this comment for a couple of minutes, very puzzled. I went all round the houses (height, build, race etc) before clothing came into my mind. I was really struggling with the concept of how or why one would want to make their men match, LOL.

Thank you so much ladies for the lovely advice.. Its made me feel a lot better Its nice to know I'm not the only one!!

I was having a moment but I'm just going to do what I.. sorry "we" want for the wedding!! and not worry about it!

I don't really think it's possible to have a unique wedding - something will always have been done before. Like others have said, have things because you want them, not because they're 'wacky'!

Something to remember is that most of your guests won't have spent any time looking up themes/colour schemes etc online, in magazines, and so on. For example in my family (both my mum and dads side), there have probably been a maximum of 5 (if that) weddings in the last 10 years. So they aren't seeing things all the time like you are, most of my family have probably never heard of a sweet buffet, yet that's something everyone on this forum will be aware of. Hopefully that makes sense! Even if they have seen something before, like everyone else has said it will be special because it's yours, and everyone you love will be there to make it that way

We wanted a fairy tale styled wedding last year and struggled with how to do it for ages! we didnt want it to look too tacky so what we done was hire out some fancy fairy tale style furniture from Rio Lounge (I think they deliver all over the UK) We got some large light up letters with our initials which looked fab! Some chandeliers, put up some fairy lights and lanterns which were great in the evening. the venue that we had was already very vintage so the furniture which we hired fitted in perfectly and although it wasn't very princess themed it really did look and feel like a romantic fairy tale wedding for everyone.

This is an old post that didn't need resurrecting.