Feeling blah. Bit of a rant

Oh no I'm so sorry you feel like that. I know a friend of mine had a lot of problems with people in her wedding party and pushy parents and luckily she was tough enough to sack and replace some bridesmaids and stick to her guns and she did have a fantastic day that was exactly what she wanted.

im sure everyone planning a big wedding feels the same at some points and there are people on here that can give you lots of reassurance.

Im eloping in Lapland in January. That said it's not our first marriage and we are in our 50s. Neither of us want anything other than a very personal service and no stress (I've just had cancer).

presumably you booked your wedding because this was the type of day you really wanted and much as today you don't lol you have to think next week you might be back on track and regret walking away from it all.

Stick to your guns, smile and ignore those pressurising you? However if you don't change your mind and want to chat about eloping give me a shout

virtual hug x

And.... Maybe telling parents that's how you are feeling will help. Maybe they don't realise the pressure they are heaping on you?

Thanks Jayne.

More of a rant really. I do want the wedding we are planning. Just soooo much drama.

The warring bridal party need to sort themselves out but I hate the fact that potentially one or both will pull out. Because we love them both.

The parent thing, I'm sticking to my guns just need H2B to do the same. They can't just make demands it's not fair or right. And they don't really care about the pressure it seems. Lol

Tomorrow will be better. Glad to be able to get it off my chest a bit here though.

Lol I didn't think eloping was what you really wanted. I think weddings bring this out in people wanting to have what they want not what you want. You will have to be polite but tough I think to keep control.

decide what you are prepared to give in to and what you're not and stand together on it and explain it's your wedding, your dreams and you intend to do it your way as you don't want to regret things after.

same with BM And bridesmaid. Explain you love them both and don't want to lose either of them but it's a lot of stress etc.

no problem with ranting. We all need a good rant. I will be come September when I tell my mum I'm marrying in January and no one is invited and yes I'm wearing a wedding dress at 58. Boy will she find fault and try to bring me down! I'm saving flash the dress for then when she tells me how stupid I will look in it and why bother at all!

Chin up, lass!

What a pain for you. Feel free to rant - it helps to get it out.

It really is a cliché but it IS your day and you should enjoy it. Ive sacked 4 bridesmaids for various reasons already. I do regret bowing to pressure to involve everybody in the wedding because i know now i shoukd have had my children and just my children. My h2b was always saying i needed to stop people pleasing but found out for himself how hard it really is when his mum and dad insisted on having fruitcake when we dont even like it. Just remember that on the day nobody else will care, except you who will most probably regret it if you dont end up with the day you wanted... x