Feeling down about wedding

These are just some pics of church and hotel

Ive been to a few weddings and I have to say hand on heart the best was in July. My friend got married at a gorg hotel. She married at 4pm, followed by a drinks reception (so everyone just mingled with a glass of sparkling wine) and I think she served her buffet at 8pm.She had a hog roast with rice, salad, garlic bread ect. The wedding was on one of the hottest days of the year and everyone spent the day outside drinking and talking. It was fab! Its a nice refreshing change to not have to line up, find your seat, sit for hours waiting to be served a meal. It was really relaxed and fun and we had the best time. The only thing i would say is serve the buffet a little earlier. Everyone was pretty sloshed by the time food came round.

And the later start didnt make the day feel aslong

xxx

Hi Sarah,

The most important people to worry about are you and your OH, so as long as you two have a amazing day, sod everyone else!

I'm sure your guests will love your wedding, they will probably love that its more informal and relaxed. Hotel on the Quayside sounds gorgeous!

Stop worrying!

Sam x

Hi Sarah,

The most important people to worry about are you and your OH, so as long as you two have a amazing day, sod everyone else!

I'm sure your guests will love your wedding, they will probably love that its more informal and relaxed. Hotel on the Quayside sounds gorgeous!

Stop worrying!

Sam x

Thank you for your replies my partner constantly tells me it's about us and no one else I've just always been the same and always worried about other people's opinions lol.

we want the ceremony to be formal as its important to us but the rest of the day we just wanted to be fun and relaxed so glad I was thinking of asking for the buffet to be served earlier than they recommended so think I will defo mention it to them now xx

Your wedding sounds similar to ours, we're marrying at 3.45pm and going straight into an evening buffet and reception - the amount of people who I have spoken to who really dislike the sit down meal and the dragged out day is quite surprising (although maybe they're being kind as we're not having that!) so I really wouldn't worry about that part. Is there anything unique you could add to your day to make it different to others and your friends? For example, we're having a live band which is different to all the weddings our friends had or maybe hiring a magician/caricaturist/ice cream cart etc? Also is there anywhere that you can save money by going DIY and then use that to splash out on something else?

Oooo do I spy a fellow Newcastle bride?? Your wedding sounds lovely! Don't think about your friends day! Xx

There's not really such thing as a better wedding, any guest who thinks "this is a cr@p wedding" is horribly selfish, because they're missing the point that they were invited to celebrate with you and your OH that you're getting married, it's not a show you're putting on for them to dazzle them. Don't worry, your friends and family love you and they will be happy with seeing you get married!

Thank you for your replies I do feel a lot better :-)

I am a fellow Newcastle bride lol. Where are you having your wedding?

We were thinking of having some kind of entertainment at our wedding as mentioned in my post I think I'm going to have a sweet pick and mix style table for the children and adults who want to join In and maybe have a casino table as everyone can join in.

I don't want to sound cheap but I work for a department store and near Christmas they have a week sale where there is 20% off everything in store then I get an extra 30% staff discount on top of that so I was planning on getting quite a lot then as I will save more money and be able to use the saved money towards a nice honeymoon or other parts of are wedding x

Sounds like you've stopped worrying, but just in case - your day is special because its about you and your h2b. Just because its different to your friends doesnt make it any less special. Your ideas sound fabulous! I'm also a budget bride and I think half the fun is grabbing those bargains. It doesnt have to be expensive to look beautiful x

Hand on heart, I believe that it's the people who make weddings, not the 'stuff'. I've been to lots of weddings, most as a plus one with my boyfriend, and the best ones have been the "best" purely because the people who were there were great! There will always be someone whose wedding is "better" than yours in terms of spending, regardless of how big your budget is. A bride with a £20k budget will still be "beaten" spending wise by a bride with a £30k budget! None of your friends who are going to both will even think to compare your wedding with your friend. The kind of people who would compare, are not worth your time.

This is totally true. The best weddings aren't the most expensive, they are the ones where everyone is having a great time and the B&G have great friends!

Hi Sarah,

Your wedding sounds like it will be lovely. The most important thing I think is that everyone is relaxed and enjoys themselves (mainly you and your future husband).

I have come on Hitched to get some ideas on what to do as I haven't really organised much yet! We are thinking of extending the mortgage on our house to fund our wedding.

Good luck with you plans x

Hi Sarah,

I know how you feel. I have a friend who it seems thinks that by throwing money at her wedding it'll make it better. It's still going to be a big wedding but she has already cancelled a couple of things she booked (and lost deposit on as she cancelled) as another friend of hers actually made a bit of a comment about over the top weddings. One of the things she booked was flame throwers and fire breathers for evening entertainment... A bit too much if you knew how many other things she organised!!!

Anyway, my point is that it's not all about what you have at your wedding or where exactly you get married. It's about the fact you're getting married. That's all true friends will care about and besides, I've seen some of the most beautiful weddings being done on very right budgets.'

Thank you all for your lovely comments it means a lot and has reassured me I do feel much better with our plans as I know it's what we want and it's right us xxx

Similar to what others have put, budgets mean nothing for weddings! all unique in their own way, and it does not mean that your wedding will not ROCK!!!!! if you and your OH are happy that is the main thing about the day. yours sounds lovely, and i'm sure everyone will love it and have a fab day/night!