Sorry but feeling a little down today. Went out last nightfor my OH birthday, planned a surprise meal with both familes there. Was fab and had a great time. Came home and mum mentioned to me that she knew what our 2nd surprise was for the wedding (i already knew about the magician which was the one) and this was that my OH sister was going to be flying home from Australia for the wedding. The thing is we have not catered for this for seats. I had already agreed to his mum paying for 6 extra guests (her friends) and then she added another 2 and now with his sister aswell takes our numbers up to 60 for the day. This is 25 over our original numbers at the start.
I know my OH is going to love the fact that his sister is there for the wedding but I cant help but have the feeling that everyone is going to be soooo happy that she is able to attend that the meaning of our day will get lost. I feel as though now we have made up with his mum after our massive row that she has to have such an involvement in the wedding she is starting to take over.On the weekend, she asked me why wer were having our speeches before dinner. I explained to her that our speakers were shy and we wanted to get them over and done with so they could enjoy their meal and plus the videographer asked as he was then able to leave afterwards and not have to hang around. I spoke to my OH and he blew his lid with his mum saying that it was what we wanted. She just doesnt get it, keeps saying oh but dont forget its your day" but then does this.
She said she would pay £2000 towards it but told us what that money was going on. I have agreed with what she has offered to pay for but I am just feeling very deflated at the moment and just cant be bothered. Cant say anything to OH as he cant know that his sister is coming home but its really getting to me.
I have asked my mum to speak with her and suggest that she tell me as I wont speak to OH about it as its a surprise but I cant be left out of this one as I am the one budgeting and planning!
To top it all, had a row with my nan toay as she said that if my dad wasnt going to drive from Manchester to North wales, to Birmingahm and then south wales to ick her up then she would not be attending the wedding as she refuses to get the bus. Wow that was hard to contain myself!
Sorry its so long, just had to get it
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Well my mum spoke to his mum today, didnt go down too well. Had the run down off mum after the phonecall.
The situation with the sister is that he will get to find out the day before and I do a week before, the reason for this is....wait for it.....i cant keep a secret for 9 months. Cheeky beatch.
She told my mum that she would find a place for his sister and that she would phone the venue and add her on and I wouldnt know. So I phoned my venue and asked them, the woman told me that this was not the case as I have to have names and tables plans and approve everything 6 weeks before. No changes can be made after these 6 weeks, obviously names can but not numbers or added on.
I really dont know what to do now, she is spoling my day and my parents are starting to get really annoyed as they can see how much it is upsetting me. They have made no demands for the day as they believe its our day and we can have it the way we want it. I cant say anything to OH as he will want to know what the problem is, his mum is apparently going to have a word with me on Sunday, what she doesnt realise is that its "OUR" day and we make the decisions together.
HELP!!!!!