Feeling low

Sorry you're feeling so down. Maybe you need to try and forget about the wedding for a little bit. I guess that's not easy though with only three weeks to go. Perhaps this weekend you and your OH should make a plan to do something completely non wedding related. Go out and have fun, and don't talk about the wedding at all. Maybe it might help things click back into perspective. You're wedding is about the two of you choosing to spend you're lives together and nothing else really matters.

Hope you manage to get back to looking forward to the wedding.

I felt like this I do think it's normal planning a wedding is very stressful..my only advice is ride it out because you will feel better ☺ and if not we are always here for a rant xx

The wedding planning can get very hectic, so there are periods after going at all these things, full hammer and tong, your emotions deplete and the tiredness mixed with the stress catch up on you.

You are not at all bringing anyone down but sharing something that brides are often afraid of sharing - some myth out there makes girls fall under another impossible standard of being a 'glowing' bride to be whilst balancing a million and one things with your ordinary life in addition to that, stresses and strains when guests and bridal parties who have been saints all the time you have known them suddenly become stubborn, a hundred little hiccups, and a nervousness at the day itself, especially if you are not used to be in front of people.

I am married, and like you I had a lot of issues in the run up to the wedding day itself, right up until the day before the wedding in fact. However on the day itself, much as a cliché it sounds you don't see the other people, you don't see the little mishaps.

I've worked in the wedding industry for over 10 years ad very closely with brides and believe me when I say, the way you are feeling now is not weird at all. Wedding planning can be the most stressful, time consuming and expensive endeavour you would ever embark upon. You are trying to juggle so much all at the same time and to please so many people while making sure that you get the day of your dreams. Not everyone will be as cooperative as you hoped. You also have all these suppliers who you have paid good money to and you want to make sure that they get it just right for you. Sometimes, it just gets too much and I have had brides come to us who say they just need a moment away from the figurative noise that their lives are surrounded by but trust me, this feeling soon passes and you'll soon find yourself enjoying your day and wondering what your worries were all about. Remember that if at the end of that night, you are married to the love of your life, everyone is fed and watered and having a great time, then that's all that matters ultimately. The finer details are sometimes missed. I do really hope you feel better soon. Go on a night out with some friends or book a spa day. Those usually help xxx

Awww... that's a shame :-(

But dont worry! it's a stressful time and it's natural not to always be excited and happy. You've got a lot on particularly with your SIL being silly about her BM dress.

Have you been able to resolve that? I imagine that you feel a bit used which may take the shine off the wedding.

Try to put it to one side and accept that some things aren't going to be perfect.

At the end of the day all that matters is that you'll be married and you and your OH will have celebrated with the people you love. If something goes wrong it's not the end of the day! you'll be so happy you won't notice.

Sorry you feel so down I don't like the idea of everyone looking at me when I walk down the aisle, but most people have told me to focus on my partner as I walk down and I should be fine. All the dramas will be pointless after so try and let them go. Would jotting some thoughts down help? Everyone has these worries at some point I'm sure - you've put in a lot of work into your wedding and there is immense pressure to get everything right. Take some time out for yourself - go out with your friends for a drink, get a massage or have a cosy night in with your future husband.

I hope your day is amazing and give yourself some credit! x

I would love to have a night out with my girls but this wedding has highlighted how self centred and selfish my friends and family are. It's really sad to accept that at the age of 32 I have nobody in my life who I feel I can rely on to be there exept my amazing OH.

I am having a crisis at the moment with my hair/makeup to add to things. My MOH has decided to have the same hair as me and has even brought extentions and had it coloured the same as mine, so I am now rethinking how I will do mine.

In regards to the dress, I text her to ask for a photo of the alterations so far and asked her when it would be done and her response was 'I don't want to take a photo as it's not finished yet, I should be going to to my next fitting on saturday but I'm not sure I can go and of I'm completely honest, if I can't go satirday I have no idea when it will be done'.

So yeah, that's not very helpful to me!

Sorry to say this but I can't understand the effin check of your MOH she has caused you nothing but grief and added to your stress...If it was me I would have told her too pi$$ off..why do you put up with it? I'm sure your h2b would understand the reasons for letting her go xx

Sorry but I've been keeping up with your threads for a while and know it's not my place but feel so angry for you and the way she has treated you its really not fair.

Also so totally not my place too say anything so apologies xxx

You don't need to apologise, I feel the same. It's difficult as she's my brothers wife and I don't want to cause any more drama. I wish I had never asked her, I just never imagined she would act like this.

I also think I feel so low because I have realised that I need to evaluate my life and the people in it, which will leave me ultimately with no friends

Yes but you can make new friends and you will make new friends ☺ you don't need people like this in your life especially as a friend, only other idea is too speak to her and ask her what her problem is? I just really feel for you this woman is so out of order her behaviour is just wrong xx

I know. It just sucks. I know that she would just kick off if I raised it with her, she has no self awareness so wouldn't see what she has done xx

I guess you just have to do what's right for you hun xx

Are you serious about sacking off all your friends or just feeling a bit sorry for yourself? I can't believe they've all been so bad?

re your MOH I think you need to take a stand for yourself. Who cares if she kicks off? What about emailing her? Run it past us if you want!

many ppl are selfish and they will do what suits them if you are unclear with them about what you need/want.

You sound really down which is sad. You can do something about this situation. It won't be easy but conflict isn't always bad. Sometimes it helps clear the air and reset the boundaries of the relationship.

I hope you feel better soon!!