Feeling overwhelmed...

Oh Spangles dont get down about it! ?

I found dress shopping to be dificult too, the ladies in the shop were lovely but I think sometimes they forget what its like, when I was being measured the lady kept leaving the curtain open and Im going braless so I had no top on, there were two other brides in the shop, as well as one of their dads! And people walking past the shop could see me, it was not a pleasant experience! But its over now and I can look forward to a beautiful dress arriving!

Im quite sure the girls wernt laughing at you! And a stone in weight loss is amazing, you've done really well and should be proud of yourself! Just remember its yours and your OH's day, it doesnt matter what any one else thinks and he loves you for the way you are other wise he wouldnt have asked you to marry him! Everyone at your wedding is there because they love you too, they wont be judging you, they will think you look beautiful too! And everyone deserves to wear a beautiful dress!

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Firstly have a hug - it's not nice to feel that way ?

Secondly, in reality the girls outside the shop were in all likelihood not laughing at you - but I know how being self-conscious can make you see certain situations differently and make things play on your mind. Either way - even if they were (which, as I said, seems unlikely to me) all it means is that they are clearly immature and plain bitchy - whatever they may or may not think will make no difference to the fact that you will look beautiful on your wedding day and that your OH will think so too - he loves you after all and wants to marry you! So don't sweat things like that.

Thirdly you are doing fabulously with your weight loss - I know how hard it is to lose weight as I've always been up and down myself and am trying to lose at the moment. I know how awful it can make you feel but it is important to keep positive as you are taking the steps to get to where you want to be, that's a great thing!

Fourthly - of course you deserve to wear a gorgeous wedding dress! You are marrying the man you love and you should choose a dress that makes you feel fab to celebrate that. Fitting into the samples means nothing - I didn't fit into loads when I went to try them on and I think I can safely say a lot of other B2Bs don't either.

Chin up! ?

Thanks both. Reading it back I realise how pathetic I sound! Gaaah wish I wasn't so flipping analytical and self conscious. OH keeps telling me he loves me as I am and how well I've done with the weight loss but I keep convincing myself otherwise.

Sorry about me being OTT but thank you again for your lovely comments. x

Spangles, you don't sound pathetic or OTT. I know how you feel and it's really horrible and depressing!

Just remember your OH loves you for you and everyone deserves to wear a beautiful dress on their wedding day! If none of the ones you tried on made you feel like this you probably haven't found the right one yet.

You are doing amazingly wel with your weight loss, I have a similar target and have only managed to lose about half of what you have!

Take it a step at a time and have a ?, We're all here if you need to vent!

Hey Spangles

Just thought I'd stop in and give you a wee (((hug))) and tell you how well your doing with your weight loss.

I'm in a very similar position to you and Jem and I must admit I am already dreading going and trying on dresses but I agree with what Jem has said you probably just haven't found the right dress yet.

Hope your feeling better about things and please stop beating yourself up x

Oh spangles its like you read my mind - the weight worries, low self esteem, self conscious and over analysing everything!

I wish I had some words of wisdom to make it all go away but im rubbish with things like that.

You're doing really well with your weight loss and hopefully you feel a bit better knowing you're not the only person in this situation x

Big hug to spangles!!! I know how you feel - I was really conscious about trying on dresses but I was really lucky in the fact that we had a private room the lady asked if i wanted to get into and out of the dress alone and did and was really friendly and respectful - i really appreciated this. I hope you feel better now - your def not the only person to feel like this and that im sending you a big hitched hug!! oh yeah your doing fantastic on your diet 2!!

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Spangles - dont give a monkey's chuff about what anyone thinks. Its yours and hubby's day and I promise you WILL find a dress that you fall in love with. You will put on a frock that you will not want to take off and will hate to be parted with it. I must admit I sometimes think 'what if people think 'that's a bit OTT' or 'that's not my cup of tea', but at the end of the day its what we like and what makes us happy that matters - everyone has different tastes. Just remember you've got a man who loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of your life and you get to do what you want for the day. Enjoy it! ?

Thank you lovelies - it's good to know I'm not the only one that didn't 100% enjoy the dress experience. The ladies at the shop in Essex were sooo lovely and professional - it's just my issues that got in the way.

Got my weigh in tonight with Fat Fighters - fingers crossed I've lost something! Trying on more dresses tonight and Saturday.

Thank you again - you guys are marvellous. x x

Spangles thats a shame you've had a bad time dress shopping. Glad the girls in the shop were professional and nice to you though - some girls on here have horror stories about bridal shops.

As the others said, I'm sure the girls outside the shop weren't laughing at you. I know its hard when you are feeling low about yourself and you think that everybody is looking at you and talking about your but, in reality, its not the case.

Of course you deserve to wear a gorgeous dress for your wedding day so don't give that a second thought!!!!