Feeling really low :(

I'm not sure what to say but didn't want to R&R.

Sending you a big hug, as that really is out of order of her.

Didnt want to read and run .. what a b***h!!!!

Have you told your other half? I certainly would not in a its me or your mother but get him to explain to her that if she wants to be in his life it includes you to as you are his w2b and if she doesnt like it to go and take a running jump!

surprised you didnt kick her out of the car whilst moving! I would of !

? hugs? hope you can sort her out there should be a mother in law training camp you can send them too like you do un-ruly dogs!!

xxx

I am not surprised it has upset you. Awful things to say. I would say think carefully before cutting anyone off though, but of course it is totally up to you and what makes you happiest. Is there any way you could talk to her about it? I assume you weren't in the car and your OH has told you? How disgusting of her to lay all that on your OH. ? have a weird net hug, I am sorry you are feeling down.

Big hugs xxx I know exactly how you feel.

Tell your mother how you feel, if she continues to be a cow retract the invite. This is your special day, do not allow anyone to ruin it for you. xxxx

Mine isn't invited to my wedding.

How upsetting for you Its hard when people arent as excited as they should be, my MIL2B has been a right cow but thats whole different story. Not sure what advise I can give as Im not dealing with a similar situation either but massive hugs and hope you get it sorted soon and feel happier x

I can't believe she would say those things! That's awful. I don't really know what to say, but like LM I didn't want to read and run. I guess just try to hold your head up high, know that she's obviously got some issues herself and try your best to put it out of your mind. Not easy, I know, and I can't really imagine how you must be feeling but I am sending internet hugs your way!

When my OH told me all that she had said in the car, I went totally berserk, she even lowered herself to slate off my son who suffers from autism, my other son who is partially deaf, who DARE she! She is their grandmother and should be their champion, not saying vile things about them. Needless to say, I havent told the boys what she said.

At the moment, I am in the mindframe of having it out with her when she gets back next week but then thats what she probably wants, she is so bitter and twisted. She has "lost" all but 2 of her 5 children through her negativity and nastiness and she is on the edge of losing another, I can see now why my other siblings cut her out of their lives.

Didnt she know that your oh would tell you?have you had it out with her,just tell her how you feel about the put downs and if she carries on you wont let her come to the wedding.but why is she saying she doesnt want to go?maybe its best she doesnt go because you dont want to get upset on your wedding day.xx

She doesnt want to go to the wedding as he doesnt want to feel "pushed" into what to wear... god only knows where that came from ?

We had talked a few weeks before and we said that we would have a girlie day out and find her something nice to wear so she has obviously thought about it, twisted into her own sweet way and turned it around, saying that I was pushing her into wearing something she wasnt happy with...

I appreciate everyone's family dynamics are completely different but if my mother repeatedly spoke to or about me like that I would have absolutely nothing to do with her. Yes you only have one mother but at the end of the day if that person has a wholly negative effect on you then why bother? Life is too short to worry about other people in that way, move on with your own life and leave her to wallow in her own nastiness.

Shes got 10 months to find something same as my mom.maybe she just wants attention.and as for what she said about your sons that is totally uncalled for.just dont let her get to you.xx

Such a tough one - no matter how hard we try, it is SO hard not to be hurt by the poor behaviour of our parents.

Just try to rise above it....she sounds like a nasty woman who would thrive off of a reaction here x

Thats exactly what my OH said, that she will "expect" me to rise it, it is taking all my efforts not to say anything upon her return but I'm really in 2 minds on what to do, on one hand, if I tell her how upset she made me feel then I'm sure she will turn it back on herself and make hersefl be a victim in all this or, if I dont say anything then maybe she will see that it hasnt affected me in the way she wanted it to and maybe, just maybe she will back off.

Has she said why she is thinking that way?

It does sound like you're better off ignoring her though...

Unfortunately, she has always been this way and I suppose that's why my siblings have cut her out of their lives, I can see why they have now though which is a shame.

I really feel for you. Sometimes people can be so bitter and say horrid things and not realise the hurt they can cause. I don't know your mother so can't comment personally but if losing your other siblings from her life hasn't taught her anything I'm not sure she can change who she is and how she behaves. I can relate to a family member who has nothing good to say, usually down to jealousy as they are unhappy with their lives, I try and keep conversations on a certain level and never get into personal stuff it's the only way we can stay civil. It is a bit harder when it's your mum though. Does she want to be at the wedding?

Hope you can sort things out ?