Feeling really sorry for myself

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My hair trials have all been unsuccessful and we're now just going to have to see how it goes on the day ?

You *will* look like the best version of yourself on the day! When you don't have great self-esteem it's easy to be so critical of how you look (I'm exactly the same!) but have faith that others really don't see you the same way you see yourself. You will look great on your wedding day and I'm sure your guests will be telling you so.

Thanks BV, really appreciate your reply. I agree that we're normally all too over-critical of ourselves and what we see is not necessarily what others see - I must remember that. I guess I just dont understand that when I show a hair-stylist a picture of Eva Longoria why she cant just make me look like Eva Longoria!

Hmmmm...I'm having second thoughts about the hairdresser I booked because I showed him pictures of up-do's I liked and he did something completely different and ended up scraping my long fringe across my forehead which made me look like Hitler! ?

I haven't had a proper hair trial as such yet, but it did send a wave of panic through me when he did this. I think it's perfectly natural to feel anxious about hair and make-up, afterall it is the biggest day of our lives and we want to look perfect. I have the opposite problem to you because I've got very fine hair which has no body and won't hold a curl, so it always looks flat.

Have you put a little scrap book of hairstyles together to show your hairdresser? Perhaps that will help?

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Thanks Chickster. Your Hitler comment raised a smile! I dont get why these stylists cant see when they are doing something that clearly doesnt suit or resembles a German dictator!

Yeah I've shown them all loads of pictures all of the same sort of style - maybe i'm choosing a style that just doesnt suit my face/hair, but then you'd think they'd tell me that and suggest alternatives. I think i'm just having a bad day, I feel like i've bought the wrong dress and now I think i'll never look good - there's so much pressure to look amazing as a bride, dont get me wrong, I'm looking forward to the day but i cant wait to just be married and then I can happily go back to my lazy tomboy self and may I never shave my legs again!! Joking - i'll continue to shave my legs until he gets me pregnant ha!

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Trust me i had the same reaction to my wedding dress... What you mean I won't become the size 4, 6foot tall model when I put it on??

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Aww! Dont worry, as others have said, you will look like the best version of you on the day, all the excitement etc will help with that! And I'm sure at some point during their planning every bride will have had the same thoughts that you have. But I know how you feel, I'm quite an insecure person when it comes to how I look. I guess we just have to trust that all will be ok!

As for Eva Longoria and size 4, 6 foot tall models... They probably have a make-up artist, hair stylist, nutritionist, fitness instructor AND the right lighting (in the models case!) at heir beck and call! How many of us have access to all those on a regular basis!? Certainly not me! ?

The other thing is that you never see all of it together until the day itself, and then the grin on your face is something you can't trial either. when it all comes together and you are happier than you ever imagined, you will unquestionably be the most gorgeous version of you.

And by the 6/7 months stage you must insist HE shaves your legs , as it will be HIS fault you can no longer do it on your own !! ?

OP- you WILL look and feel amazing on the day

Thanks all, nothing like a good chat with the girls to make you feel better eh! xx

Tallulaha - you don't sounds ridiculous at all. I read your post and it sounds like something I would have written myself - I feel exactly the same way. Although I haven't had any trials yet, I'm dreading it, as I only have one hairstyle as I feel like nothing else suits me when I try to do something different myself. Nice to know I'm not the only one as well!

I feel the same! I've had three make up trials and I'm still not completely happy, I think its because I virtually never wear make up usually. Havent had a hair trial yet, and I'm dreading not liking it as I'm so fussy! I hope that it just all comes together on the day, either that or I'll just be so keen to get down that aisle that I'll not care!