Finding "the one"

Have you tried on lots of different styles rather than ones you think you like? Don't buy a dress just because you think you should like it. Dresses look so different when you're wearing them rather than the hanger or in pictures.

I tried on loads of dresses, went to about 8 shops. The dress I ended up buying was the one I didn't want to take off and I compared all the dresses to it. That's how I knew. If you aren't feeling like that then keep shopping, you'll find something. But keep an open mind!

When I was looking for my dress I had the same feeling. I thought I was missing something and that the dresses I liked were really nice but nothing gave me that "wow" feeling.

I actually got quite down about it, thinking I would never have that "the one" feeling and I'd just like the dresses. However when I tried my dress on it was completely different. I couldn't stop smiling, my heart was going crazy, I couldn't think and when I looked in the mirror I cried!

When you find the one, you will know. I would suggest that so far you haven't found the one. You WILL know when you do.

I asked several friends how they knew and didn't believe in the feeling, but as cheesy as it sounds, the feeling was overwhelming and you just know.

Don't give up yet and don't settle ?

xx

I would recommend trying on loads of different dresses in every style you can find! I always thought i would go for a full skirted strapless princess dress but the dress i have got is nothing like that as everyone that i tried on which fitted the "princess dress" image just made me look short and fat and did nothing for me - they were lovely dresses, just not lovely on me!!! I ended up going to a shop and saying to the owner that i had no idea what i was looking for so she pulled out a couple of dresses in each major style/shape category and i was really surprised at what looked good on me - i always thought fishtails would look horrible on me but they actually looked better than the big princess dresses!

I wouldn't say i had a totally "yes, this is THE dress" moment, but after i had tried it on i compared every dress after to it and realised then realised what i was doing and knew that it was the one for me!! I had wobbles after picking it because it wasn't the style i thought i would go with, but every time i put it on i know exactly why i picked it and why i love it!!

You will find the one for you, just try to have an open mind, forget what anyone else has worn and pick something that makes you look and feel amazing! Everyone wears a dress differently so you could wear the same dress as a friend and i am sure nobody but your friend would know!!

Good luck with the hunt!

x

I tried on up to 10 dresses in the first shop and although I liked several of them there was always something that wasn’t quite right. In the second shop I tried on another 5 (different styles) yet again all were lovely as bridal dresses are so beautiful but the last one gave me ‘the feeling’! My mum was crying and I had tears in my eyes, I didn’t want to take it off, I’m still have an alteration made to it though as really want it to have a boat neck line.

You will find ‘the one’ just enjoy the shopping whilst you can ?

I believe I have found the one, it blew all the others out of the water. But sadly its too far out of budget... Have only tried about 10 dress' so i'm keeping it in mind til i try on a few more, and if i keep coming back to it... i might consider the extra money for it...

WSS - I tried on loads that I loved. I even said to my mum and bm at one point, when I thought I found the one "I like it but arn't I supposed to get all emotional and cry or something". I kept on looking and when I tried mine on we all cried!!! I'm not saying this should happen to you but I think you should keep searching until you feel emotionally attached (Cheese) xx

I remember someone's experience on here when they tried on their dress - they just felt the need to *swish* in it, if that makes sense?

Here was me thinking *swishing* WTF? Who does that?

Until I tried on mine. I think I swished around the whole shop! Just to make sure, I tried on loads after it, and when I went back to mine, I knew it was right. There were no tears, I was just happy and contented at that point!

I knew it was the one when I saw a photo of it.. Or rather, I knew it was the style I wanted right away.

Trying on dresses, I never felt as excited and happy as just looking at the photo made me feel.

I was lucky I found THE DRESS after trying 3 on and as soon as i saw it i cried i didnt want to take it off i get married in 9 days now and cant wait to walk down the isle in my princess dress

My dress is the second one I tried on. The first one I tried on was a more normal a-line dress and it looked amazing. I felt brilliant in it, but I wasn't happy with it being ivory. The lady gave me another one that was all floofy and ruffly with flowers on it just because it was one of only 2 white dresses she had in stock. As soon as she hung it up I knew I'd love it. I grinned until my jaw hurt. I paraded round the shop, swished, danced, twirled, the lot.

My mum and the main lady in the shop said they still preferred the first one, so we did a bit more shopping, but I compared everything to the second dress. I found it over £700 cheaper online, but still wanted my mum to love it too, so we went back to the shop. I hadn't even got it on and the grinning started, followed by more twirling and swishing and 'walking down the aisle'. We also tried it with a veil and I thought my face was going to explode with smiling so much.

45 minutes later I decided I still had to try on the first dress to see what my mum thought and they didn't even bother doing it up. As soon as I walked out they both said it wasn't a patch on mine, but wouldn't let me put mine back on again, ha ha.

Don't expect to cry, because you might just not have that sort of reaction. It really is about the feeling of the dress. I was a right scruff after blustery winds outside and getting in and out of the dresses, very minimal make up, no shoes, and I would've been perfectly happy with walking down the aisle for real right then.

Argh! These posts make me feel so frustrated because I dont understand what I must be doing wrong! I've been looking for dresses on and off since January and now I really have about a month until I have to commit and order one, if I want a decent one that isn't rushed last minute etc... I think I've been to about 30 shops and tried on sooooo many dresses and never found one where I was sure it was the right one! :-/

There are two I'd say now that I think I really like and that I compare all the others too and I'm going to try them on again this weekend and hopefully book one as I havent got much time left really... I like them both (although they are quite different from each other) but neither has made me or anyone I was with (mum/sister/friend) cry or anything and I don't feel like I ever though 'wow this is the one' - but I do wonder if that's just my personality because I'm so indecisive about everything and such a worrier that I'm scared it's such a big deal to say 'this will be my wedding dress and in every picture of my wedding for the rest of my life'! I'm the sort of person who buys three new dresses for a night out, tries them all on loads and then at the last minute before leaving the house, runs back and changes into something else! So it is very hard for me to decide this much ahead of my wedding that I definitely want this one!!

I do think (Hope) that I will feel beautiful and look good in either of the two that I have chosen as they are flattering and pretty and with all my hair and make up done etc I'm hoping which ever one I pick it will be nice but just wish I had the 'OMG THIS IS THE ONE' feeling that so many of you all seem to have

I think a lot of people don't have 'the one' moments!! For me it's basically because I hate most wedding dresses, and the one I fell in love with is a bit strange tbh Very unique, whereas a lot of wedding dresses are pretty run of the mill. I could find a dozen lace fishtail dresses, or satin asymmetrical a-line dresses, etc. I couldn't find anything like my dress, and since I couldn't afford it, I'm having to try to recreate it.

If you like a lot of dresses, I think it would be harder to find 'the one,' as so many dresses are so similar. I've never cried in a dress, I just felt a certainty that I wouldn't want anything else.

Don't stress.

Indigoemma -don't stress, it's good that you have found several that you like as gives you a choice, seems your problem is making a final decision! I'm sure you look beautiful in both of your favourites but what about taking a picture of yourself in both of them and then you can spend a couple days looking at the photos and see if there is one you are more drawn to or prefer on yourself? I also found that I liked most dresses the first time I tried them on but when I tried it a second time I knew I preferred another one so found I could eliminate dresses that way.