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Oh honey, hugs to you. It's no consolation right now, but in a little while you'll be glad that he at least plucked up the courage to tell you now, rather than let you go through with the wedding. Take care of yourself in the next few weeks, surround yourself with those who care about you and come and visit us too if you need support x

Oh Internet hugs for you xx

Didn't want to read and run but like Mrs Shep said look after yourself and vent all you need.

I have a colleague who after over 10 years together, was married 3 months before the split - she wishes now one of them would have said something earlier x

I am so sorry to hear this. It will not be easy for you now, I know, but MrsShep is right that it is better is said something now than after the wedding.

It will be a cruel disappointment for you to part with him under these circumstances and all your hopes for the future.

Take care of yourself.

So sorry to hear this. I don't have much more to add, but echo what MrsShep has said about timing, it's far better to know now than in 2 years' time. I hope you have plenty of support from friends and family.

Aww I'm so sorry to hear this, as the other hitches have said, it's better now although it kills like mad than a few years down the track when it'd be even harder.

protrct yourself, make sure you don't get lumbered with all the wedding deposits things like that, he chose to leave the wedding, so he should deal with the upheaval of telling at least his side cancelling what needs to be cancelled and covering any losses.

And just anither tip. The ladies on here give awesome advise, odd Internet style hugs and are good at being vented to, and a few have been through similar so we're all here for you honey.

Nothing much more I can add except to say I'm so very sorry to read this. I hope you have good family support and friends to lean on, but if not, please come and chat to us - we are always good shoulders to cry on xxx

I'm really sorry to read this. Take care of yourself and get as much support as you possibly can.

Please do come back! We're happy to listen

Just echo what the others have said really. Take care, get support when and where you can......that includes here. You're always welcome for a vent and a moan ovef in OT if a wedding planning forum doesnt feel like the right place for you just now. Lots of hugs.

Didn't want to read and run - So sorry to hear this - I know nothing we can say to make the pain stop at the moment but it will get better. Big hugs.

I don’t think I can say any more than the other lovely ladies, but I hope your ok and you just take some time out and look after yourself!

Big hug!!

How awful, I really feel for you, but Mrs Shep has it covered. Lots of hugs and take care of yourself. It needn;t be your last post if you need to rant, rage, vent. cry - we're here.x

Didn't want to read & run. I'm not too sure what to say except I'm really sorry you're going through this. Time is a healer x

I did not want to read and run, so sorry to hear that dreadful news, I'm shocked!

I don't know what to say to make you feel better, all you can do at the moment is look after yourself, come back on here and let it all out if you want, we are here to listen to you.

Take care x

Sending you a hug and hoping that you are alright, come on here if you need to talk Xx

Sorry to hear your news. I too echo what the others have said in regards to timing.

You may not feel like it right now, but think about taking up a new hobby/skill/sport to keep you occupied and help focus on something other than the wedding.

Sending hugs x

Sorry to hear this. Wish you all the best if you decide to come back

So sorry to hear this. I am sure it's not what you want to hear but at least he isn't marrying you with doubts about it. Has he elaborated about why he originally proposed and what has changed?

Awww hun, i dont have much to add either, just that im so sorry.

we are always here to listen

So sorry to hear this xx

I feel for you. If you're reading the advice you've given is right - better before than after.

I've been on the other side. I broke off a six year engagement with my fiance after I realised how much he wanted children. I really didn't, and I still don't *cough* years on. I could've been cynical and gone for the security but I'd've been screwing up both our lives (he has three now).

I can't comment on your former fiance's reasons, but if he made the commitment, then backed out at such notice there's probably a good reason. Don't dwell on that, or what you thought would be. Someone who wants the same as you is round the corner.

You must be devastated right now, but you will recover.

So sorry to read this. No advice but the other ladies have given some good points. Take care of yourself x

I can only echo what has been said. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. No words seem appropriate but I hope you have the support of your friends and family. Take care x