Fishing for an invitation

No witty comebacks.

All i say is remember its your wedding and to stand your ground. But you sound like you will so that's the main thing. Give in to one and its game over lol.

Good luck with WP x

Grr this really annoys me and also when people just assume they are going to be invited. I dont think people realise how much money wedding cost!

When my sisters friend who i have met once asked if her and her friend could come to our wedding my very diplomatic OH said "well to be honest i don't really like you and your mate is a dead head"

que the tumbleweed

also we are having very few people at the actual ceremony so when his aunt said can she come to the ceremony he said well lara's (my) dog is the ring bearer and you have a severe allergy dont you, so not a good idea.

my dog is not the ring bearer and wont be near the wedding at all,

i on the other hand will invite the world plus one so i dont come across as rude, so its a good job he is here really,

invite who you want and not people who are invited so blah blah has someone to sit with, i have at least seven guests with that header lol

lara x

I agree - i would never assume i was invited to a wedding. Some ppl just have the cheek i suppose.

One of my ex work colleagues who i do still see for lunch etc actually said to me i have booked the day off so i hope i assumed right that we are invited!! I hadn't even met her OH at this point!

x

? excellent!!

Seriously, if people mistakenly assume they're invited and they're not - it's their problem, not yours. One of my faves was "we still haven't sorted the guest list" when we had a while to go, or nearer the time "the venue's really tight on numbers" and just keep it vague. They'll soon realise when nothing comes through the post for them! ?

Oh i know its annoying, but i think its an automatic reaction to ask "am i invited"! i think i would ask if im honest :-)

Definitely say that you havnt quite sorted out the numbers etc and obviously have to wait to speak to family members first and then just leave it at that until they get the hint when thre is no invite dropping on the mat. People have caught me on the hop when i was a bit tiddly and i was like "oh yeah of course you can" when in reaility i should have said "urrrrm i dont think so, but right now i cant think of anything to say" - all said with a fake smile! lol

Well i have a cousin, a few years younger than me, who well I dont really like. She is rather obnoxious, has 2 have her own way and will do whatever in her power to get it. She moved to America to a family that was sponsoring her education and even treated them badly. Well it wasnt too long after we got engaged she startedchatting to me on facebook! Obviously looking an invite!! I was flowergirl for her mum when i was jus a wee 5 year old, and I think she kinda thought that I would be having her as BM!! Obviously not! It is strange tho the people that we havent seen in years who have got back in touch all of a sudden!!

I had a great line elsewhere on the internet - a small wedding is a wedding to which the person you are speaking has not been invited.

If someone is rude enough to fish for an invite, it is perfectly OK to mutter something about "a small wedding" even if you are really having 150 people.

He He......just remembering now when we announced the engagement a month ago and first thing my Nan said was "I'll tell the others (as in my cousins) we have wedding to look forward to!" Little does she know that I'm only inviting the cousin's to the evening and would prefer my friends who I see/speak to every week rather than someone who see's me once a year at most!

We've purposely booked a venue now that is tight on guests so we can't even be forced into allowing so and so to come!

I quite agree nicol, I'd rather have our friends than family! There's a reason I only see my family once or twice a year - it's because thats about as much as I can take. But people I hardly know can't expect invites. And I have no problems being firm!

My Uncle (who I have invited) made a quip at the time about "Hope there is going to be lots of free booze" - well, now there is and he can't drink it as they're off somewhere on a long journey early the next day! UNLUCKY! That's what you get!

xxx

Hun, just wait until the invites go out.. lol then they will all come out of the wood work. When i first got married all those many moons ago we had family ringing up and saying wheres our invite! needless to say i hadn't seen or spoken to these relatives for over 10 years.. and ended up having to invite them @ £70 per head just not to cause a family arguement.

This time... i've stood my ground!!