FOB and Step-FOB speeches... Help!

Anyone...? ?

Couldn't you have one at the beginning and one at the end? Or they could do a joint one?

Hi Lucy,

I've seen this done at a number of Weddings and I've got to say the best way to deal with it is to be as natural as possible. Everyone at your Wedding will know the history of your family and upbringing so it won't matter!

The pressure will be on the FOB's, no doubt they will mention a little of the history in their speeches, but no doubt they'll both just be pleased as punch to see you happy on your big day!

Why not discuss with them which order they'd like to go in?

Hi im having same problem , but it goes like this my mum asked my step dad to walk me down asile and i asked my dad not knowing my mum had asked my step dad what a mess 3 weeks ago my dad had a heart attack wasnt untill then that i found out my step dad had been asked ,my mum only did this to rub my dads mose in it even thou my dad sm have been married 25 years my mum wont leave it be , so i had no choice but to have them both walk me in .. but speaches i dont know what to do my dad just wants to say something small , i really dont want sd to do a speach i dont want to hurt anyones feelings or offend anyone its bad enough my sd is walking me in he is very creepy has wondering hands yuk ,,,

Thanks for the advice Jon. Although things are amicable I think we're still quite far away from them ringing each other up to discuss it, haha! I'm not closest to either of them as such, see as much of one than the other. I guess my loyalities lay with my dad even though I spent most of my life with step-dad, I guess I'll see how everyone feels closer to the day *gulp*.

Dad's not much of a public speaker so i think it'll be a short and sweet one and have no idea what stepdad has planned but he's always been meticulous in everything so i reckon it'll be more than a 'let's raise a glass'.

Charlie - what a pickle you're in! I hope you're dad's on the mend from his heart attack. I think if you really don't want SD to do a speech you should say something (easier said than done i'm sure), but if i was in that position I probably would. Last thing you want is a potential spoiler moment for the day. And as for the wandering hands that sounds awful!! ?

Hi all,

I have the same problem having a dad who i dont really see much of, but who's family i am very close to and a step dad who has been with my mum for 25 yrs.

Ideally i would like my mum to walk me down the isle as she has been there for me through everything, but i just know that my dads family would be put out having my dad there but not walk me down the isle ( they wouldnt understand the reasoning behind it) and then i think why should he have that privelage when he never makes the effort now?

And as for speaches im going to ask my sister to do what would be the FOB speach as my dad isnt on the top table my mothers partner is...who i dont think would be comfortable doing a speach and doesnt know me well enough as a person to take on the task where as my sister knows all my stories........Dya think that will be strange????

xx

Thats true

Cheers x