Food!

We are no-where near having our menu tasting or choosing our final options, but from the published menu that our venue has we have provisionally chosen the front runners. We have the luxury of being able to offer more than 1 option per course, so for our main course we are having 1 meat, 1 fish - Salmon- (mainly for my benefit - I eat fish, but not meat) and a vegetarian option. OH isn't really into arty-farty food, but there are certain things on the menu that OH would really like, but we know that certain guests (mainly grandparents!) wouldn't eat the chicken that comes with the exotic sounding sauce etc,, so will probably go for the roast beef with Yorkshire pudding for the meat option - something that most people will eat, and it doubles as our 'Ode to Yorkshire', as the wedding is in my hometown of Nottingham, but OH and all his family and half our guests will be travelling down from South Yorkshire! anyone that doesn't like the beef can always go for the salmon or veggie option.

I think the key is to remember that you will never be able to please absolutely everybody, but try and go with the option that the majority will be kept happy with! I see the wedding breakfast as a pretty important part of the day, after the ceremony of course! - and id be devastated if I heard guests moaning that they didn't like the food or saw platefuls being left - after all the food bill is pretty much the biggest part of the wedding budget!

We are allowed to come up with whatever we want as our main. I don't want chicken, as it's not something I would choose when out for a meal. I said this to my friend (bridesmaid) who said 'yeah, chickens boring, but I don't like lamb, pork or beef'! I'm not choosing salmon so she's going to be very hungry! As with anything, I would choose what YOU want. I will mention on invitations our options and if they want a veggie alternative they can have one. It's a stunning restaurant, but I'm currently angling for sausage and mash! lol!

Our problem really is that we both want different things but can only choose 1 dish, so one of us will have to compromise. It makes things harder as my parents are paying and are strongly giving their preference too and OH is stubborn so will do the opposite to what they suggest! Suppose all we can do is trial the food next week and take it from there, or toss a coin!! Times like these I wish I was vegetarian so I wouldn't have to decide what the majority eat!

We have a similar issue. We have to choose one option that everyone then has unless they have a dietry requirement. Neither of us can decide which is our favourite! We are having a tasting session too, but we still haven't chosen which meals we want to try as we can't agree. I think eventually, we will choose one option each for the tasting and then argue it out discuss until we reach a compromise. (H2B is NOT choosing dessert as he will choose cheese.)

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As we're having a small-ish group (45) we decided to give people 3 options per course. We each chose something we wanted to eat and then agreed on the 3rd between us as something we thought would be popular to fill the gap. OH chose beef as the main, I chose the veggie dish and we decided on lamb as a filler.

We are lucky in that we got to choose 3 dishes for each course for our guests to choose from. To give you some ideas:

Food for me is going to be one of my biggest headaches. I have some very particular guests including a brother in law who lives on sausages, burgers & chips. A mum, dad & sister who are very conservative with food choices as are my nephews, plus a fmil who is trying to impress her preferences on the meal.

I will probably go for roast beef although am concerned how it will be cooked..as fmil says tell them to cook it properly I.e to her tastes!

As much as it is our day I just want everyone to be happy so will plump for the least offensive offerings! Anyone else having the same problem?

We're having afternoon tea - I figure that people have got to be able to find something they like from the selection of food we have offered!

Although, fmil has made it very clear that she is thoroughly unimpressed with the idea of afternoon tea "Whoever heard of a wedding where they served sandwiches?" followed swiftly by "Well, I would rather have a 3 course meal." (OH replied with "Well, you can go out and have dinner somewhere else then.")

We have so many dietary issues within our family and friends that we will never really win whatever we do!

I think, you need to decide what you like, maybe scrap the choices you have both set your heart on (because then someone is going to be upset) and decided on a completely different choice together! Our agreement was: afternoon tea is for me, so I decide, OH just wanted a hog roast for the evening, so thats all his planning! (Although, I am a little concerned our veggie guests will be offered a roll and apple sauce only....)

Let us know what you decide though!

We had 3 options to let guests choose from so we narrowed it down to our veggie option, a chicken dish and a steak pie dish.
Can you not give people a couple of things to choose from? TBH if we didn't have choices i'd have probably said veggie option and everyone else for chicken, turns out only a few went with the chicken option tho so not as popular as I thought I think...as others have said you'll never please everyone so go with your own favourite and hope for the best ?

I think you should be...

Maybe I am not sensitive enough, but my lot are having pie and mash...veggie or beef! Followed by trifle...nom!!

Our wedding...our food!!

We were able to offer our guests a choice of 2 or veggie. I really wanted a fish dish on the menu but my mum reeeaaaallly reeeaaaalllly wanted chicken. So as we'd already agreed on venison & the veggie tart I let her have chicken! Venison was the most popular choice in the end...and tbf, every single person commented on how absolutely fantastic the food was, we def made the right choices!

We were lucky in the fact that we were allowed 2 choice for each course (plus a veggie for the main) we're having chicken (for me) and loin of cod (for my OH)

Unfortunately we can't offer the guests a choice so everyone has to have the same (unless they have a dietary requirement). I suppose we can't please everyone and I think OH is trying to think what the majority would eat. I think maybe we'll have to go for something else completely!!

Hog roast for us and vegi lasagna. If guest don't like it they can eat the bread and salad or go hungry! Our wedding our choice! My OH is not into fancy food so simple it is for us. We picked what we wanted. At the end of the day your paying for it! Maybe not the attitude to have but it's important to have what you want. I can see your problem with chicken as it can be nice or it can go very wrong (dry). Maybe when you try them you will like one a lot more than you think. Don't worry untill you have had your tasting. You maybe pleasantly surprised and love it