For all of us: a little perspective

Thank you, this is me exactly! I think I need to give myself a little pep talk

I totally agree with this - when I first started my planning I couldn't sleep I was in idea overdrive, but I have now come to realise that quality over quantity counts and I know that the people I'm inviting to my wedding are not going to sit in judgement that I haven't made fancy centre pieces they are there to celebrate with us, not mark our wedding like a tv show!!

"It is the most important day of your life" ... I hope it's not. It's a special day, but I wouldn't put it above the day my path crossed with OH's, the day our future children are born, the day one of us has to make a huge decision that could affect our family's path forever.

It's a massive fun celebration of love and commitment. Not a day of rules and being judged on napkins.

Hear hear!

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(I'm still a perfectionist and a seeker of kudos though!)

I totally agree! And no one else remembers the little details afterwards! Stationary, cake and dress... I've had to nosey through my friends wedding photos to see what they did as I couldn't remember (and I was there!!)

So I'm taking a laid back approach (well trying to!) lol

just enjoy it all

Well said! Can you pop back in about 9 months and remind me of this? I get married this time next year and I'm guessing I'll need a bit of a talking to a couple of months before. x

I have had to tell myself to shut up and think about it a couple of times... and I have to tell my H2B a few more times!

I refuse to put an horrendous amount of pressure on us with planning this wedding after the venue fandango. If something sounds good, and is affordable we will just say 'that will do' as opposed to constantly looking for a better option. I believe a wedding day cannot be completely flawless, and you know what? I kinda don't want it to be. So what if someone is late? At least they got there! The food didn't get served at precisely bang on 2pm? So what. Whatever happens, happens. It's our day, and as long as we are married at the end of it then I don't care if the chairs in the reception venue don't match.

Ha ha ha! Yes, ME!!

For me though, its all about the photographs which I will look at forever, so I will see all of the little details and matching stuff there x

My perspective came the other week when my OH was a passenger in a car and another driver slammed into the passenger side door righting off both cars. At the time I was stressing about all the small bits of the wedding but that moment I realised the wedding means nothing without the groom and I was so glad he was alive and unhurt. It made me see even if the wedding isn't perfect that I want this man in my life forever , it's funny that Iv never thought I didn't want him in my life forever but the crash made me feel it 10 times stronger!

I'm a perfectionist so am refusing to 'settle' on things. I annoy myself but I can't help it, if I have the powers to make it perfect dammit it will be perfect!

I do need to have a little word with myself about getting stressed about stuff though.

It's well worth remembering.

i lost my temper last night over a dithering RSVP (H2Bs grandmother is worried about leaving her dog and this has come to light now at 3.5 weeks to go). I found out over our romantic dinner and almost ruined it for the both of us. Completely unnecessary, I for one don't care if she is or isn't there. I hope she is for the sake of H2B but it certainly won't make or break our big day.

My gorgeous, wonderful fiancé however, rose to the challenge, allowed me to have my strop, bundled me in the car and forced me to sing take that songs at full belt as we whizzed (safely) around the country lanes until I was laughing, smiling and on top of the world. I am truly blessed to be marrying this wonderful, kind, funny, patient man who puts up with my flaws.

It's the marriage I can't wait for. The wedding is just another day

MOMB - Spot on! we got married exactly a month today, there were sooooo many things that went wrong and not a single one mattered, there will always be odd niggles either from yourself or from others but honestly it doesn't matter, My Mum wound me up so much on the run up to the day but it didn't matter on the day me n in-laws don't get on but on the day we were the best of friends. The day will be as perfect and as happy as you feel. Hope it helps a little x

I'm with you on this - my OH constantly moans at me because of my attitude towards everything having to match and fit perfectly together, and we're only at the wedding invitation stage.

It's all about balance. I agree, that in the grand scheme of things it is only one day, but if being organised and precise about things makes you happy, then why not? As long as you aren't getting into silly debt, losing friendships etc. etc. - If you want your chair sashes to match your invitations then why not?

I'm a perfectionist but also quite laid back about things. Nothing matches but I'm hoping it all flows together well.

My friend STILL complains about the napkins at her wedding seven years later! I noticed, so I know what she means but I really doubt any one else noticed at the time or cares about it now. So much so she asked me if I had my napkins sorted since she doesn't want me to go through the same. I hold a grudge, and things play on my mind so I'd rather things were sorted the way I want and I can enjoy the day.