*FOR FUN MK II* What are you having that you didn't *really* want?

Sellers ho think lemon/yellow can be passed off as cream.

Trying to work out with men how many times it's classed as reminding before it suddenly becomes nagging.

People who ask you your plans so they can raise one eyebrow and say oh really that's actually what you're doing?

People who say oh you don't want that you should do this instead.

Sentences that start.... wouldn't you rather...

Family!

Thank God I eloped or this list would be pages long I think.

Which didn't really fit with your edited post lol but no.. been married before as has oh so I ignored everyone and had what I wanted and didn't invite any of them either. Selfish cat that I am lol.

Well Jayne, I didn't like to say anything, but I've often thought what a selfish cat you are.... ?

I've yet to work out the difference between 'reminding' and 'nagging'.... though I'm beginning to think 'reminding' is when you mention something your OH want's to do/remember., and 'Nagging' is when you mention something they don't want to do/aren't interested in.... I base this on the fact that I was accused of 'Nagging' the other day when I mentioned something for the very first time ?

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The remind v nag debate and clarification of meaning could be a post on t's own! Life would be much easier if he said "remember that thing I said I would do and told you to remind me? Well I lied and have no intention of sorting it so please go forth and do it yourself and don't remind me" lol.

We can only fit 43 into the ceremony room and a good half of those invited are Aunty and uncles who I only see every 5 years and I don't have anything to do with. Im close to a few who I really wanted there but apparently I can't invite some and not the others. I'm close to some cousins but not their parents. This has really bugged me. Can kind of see my parents point of view but still pees me off how the guest list has been hijacked by family I would prefer to be on the evening only list.

didn't want a sit down meal but mother forced that issue. She's offered to pay for that so she gets her way. Grudgingly accepted it. I know we have to feed people but wanted it to be more relaxed and not feel stuffy. Although I do love a Sunday dinner I don't want be sitting at a top table trying not to dribble gravy down my chin whilst everyone looks on!

I didn't want a veil, but my mum INSISTED (and actually, it does make the 'look', it goes perfectly with my dress!) I did however put my foot down on a tiara, I am NOT a princess- so I did literally have to say 'mother. Listen to my words, NO'

a reception party when we get home from honeymoon- I just wanted to have our little ceremony abroad and be done with it, but OH insisted on a party when we got home so his Nan and grandad could be involved in some of the wedding (which is sweet. Except it's basically the cost of a second wedding...)

A photographer and cake at said reception party (it just feels like another wedding which isn't what I planned at all!!)

i can't think of anything else but I'm sure there's lots of things!!

Quite a few guests on OH's side that I've never met - we've been together 6 and a half years!

So much food! I am pretty certain we are throwing money away on the amount of food we've ordered, but I've been overruled. Looking forward to saying 'I told you so' haha

So far, nothing - although there's still 11 months to go... - the good thing about funding 100% of the wedding ourselves! ?

OH is v relaxed about things & we're generally in agreement on most things in life, so all good so far.

NINE....YES, NINE.....members of OH's extended family (second cousins etc) being invited despite us hardly ever seeing them. We travelled four hours to a family party to see them whereby they all totally ignored us. But, they have to all be invited as 1) it will make his mum feel awkward and 2) they have all assumed that they are invited and have started booking their hotel rooms. Each guests is around £140 a head for food and drink alone so the nine people that I don't want there are costing us over £1200.

There's else so far really. I didn't want favours but OH did so my bridesmaid is making fudge for us x

I'm glad we're not the only ones who are stuck inviting people to the whole day who we don't really want there or would only really invite to the evening!

No, you definitely aren't alone. OH makes me laugh though as he states that those nine HAVE to be invited but then he wants to invite loads of other people too which will make us go over the 100 guests that we have already paid for! I said no way and he will have to scrap some of his not so close friends off the list then to accommodate those nine! Guest lists, don't you just love them! X

Enough flowers to put Chelsea Flower Show to shame haha

I naïvely thought that all I needed was a bouquet for me, bouquets for the BMs, corsages for the Mums, Buttonholes and centrepieces.

Ohhhhh no.

The florist has these rose trees, they're very pretty. I suggested it might look nice to have two - one either side of the Aisle at the top before I walk down.

How many am I being quoted for?

8

8 f---ing trees. 4 behind the seats (where I wanted 2), 2 either side of the ceremony structure and 2 behind it so that you can see them through the window.

Apparently flowers for the Nans are a thing too, so they each get a White Rose and bouquets for the Mums as a Thank You, which basically means that my mum is buying her own Flower Bouquet.

I'm going to need like a whole pack of allergy tablets!

Hmmmm....

I would have liked a brand new dress rather than second hand, not to have my wedding on a Monday and have 2 choices for food but this all comes down to money money money i guess!

That all bridesmaids would have their hair in the same style and wear their dresses all day rather than changing but if that's all I've got to moan about I don't think I'm doing too badly!!

2 months ago I was only going to have 2 BMs, so I thought it would be a nice gesture to say my cousin (non BM) could help with the decorations as she has already asked to, but according to her mother she isn't allowed to help because she isn't a BM and it isn't the thing to do! I just thought it was a nice idea.

The next week me and the same auntie were talking and I said I was stuggling to find a venue close by but I had booked the church. I was advised to go for a registry office instead to which I said they don't seem very special to me and I have already booked the church. The answer to that was you should be careful who you say that to someone might take offence, and that she'd had a registry office and hers was very special. Needless to say I left and haven't been round since. Cooling off period I think.

What is it about weddings that makes your families turn odd?

We were very lucky in that we weren't really *forced* into doing anything we really didn't want to... that said, a few niggly things spring to mind:

- we originally wanted a round top table, so we could all speak to each other. For this, my dad put in his one and only request for the wedding: we have a long top table. Compromised and had a horseshoe, and in fairness it worked very well.

- lots of people wanted me to throw the bouquet - some quite vehemently - and I kept saying I'd do it later. Not a chance! Eventually they forgot and I kept my flowers all neat and tidy

- some might remember my rant about my mum and MIL getting me a garter and a horseshoe when I'd said many times that I didn't want either. Neither mentioned those items on the day, I didn't wear them and I've kept them safe and sound as a keepsake in my wedding box.

That's pretty much it. I feel very thankful when I read a lot of the other posts on here...!!

So far I have gained a flower girl, I don't have a venue yet but it's being insisted that the the year old child of a cousin I haven't seen in nearly 10 years is my flower girl... They were invited, but flower girl? *sigh *

I'm glad to see I'm in good company having things I don't really want!!

Other than the kids I've got off pretty lightly on people I'd rather not be there coming....with the exception of one elderly relative that I really don't like and initially said 'no way' but somehow got talked into!! I'm hoping to be able to avoid spending too much time with that guest!!

Hmmm - I think we've got off pretty lightly really, although we have had the odd occasion where people have tried to push us into doing things.

My MIL insisted for quite a while that the top table should be us, my OH's parents, my parents then the BM & best man. I explained that my BM (my sister) would find it weird sitting away from her husband and two children, so I didn't want her sat there - to which she said the best man can just sit on the top table then, because he couldn't make his speech from a normal table! Safe to say though, they're both going on a table closest to the top table.

Also had my grandma get very insistent that we should be supplying buttonholes to everyone (we're not, we're only doing them for OH and best man) and had somehow got it in her head we were providing for OH's family but not mine and weren't telling her. So she nearly went out and ordered ones (that wouldn't have matched might I add) until I had to put my foot down.

Those are my only two brushes with doom though.

I do remember that, and funnily enough I got a horseshoe shoved into my hands as we just left the church though, and a handmade one which I did get to open after though.

THIS. I am literally sat at my desk laughing, can just imagine that will be me...why wouldn't you need 8 trees lol. I'm sure it will look amazing though!